why does my dad say hurtful stuff all the time?
Posted by adminApr 30
ever since young, dad loved to compare me and my younger sis(in terms of looks&intelligence)and he would say things that put sis over me,making me feel lousy and discredited.
then i started wearing mini skirts at 16. being tall and leggy, many ppl commented that i looked hot in them,but my dad told me it was ugly and obscene. then i started doubting myself as well as my friends. he said that my friends are plainly fooling me.
when i worked hard and gotten myself a place in a prestigious high sch,dad said it wasn’t truly my talent n that it was plain luck anyway.and yet sis,who couldn’t make it anywhere after middle sch got his total support in the things she did.not very fair thou.
then as many ppl commented that i have the potential for modelling,many of my friends encouraged me to give it a try as they feel that i really have the potential.and i thought the idea was not bad so i went to try,but dad said to me that i cannot model at all,and that i’m nothing like a model material at all.
trivia i know, but why does it seem like he’s tearing my self-esteem down time and again? what should i do to reassure myself?
i feel really broken and intimidated when being next to my sis, and have no confidence at all when i go out. great help needed pls.
2 comments
Comment by Megan on 04/30/2010 at 9:32 pm
Sometimes father DOESN’T know best, and there’s a time where you need to break away from him.
You are better than that, and unfortunately, no matter how hard you try to pound it into their heads, parents do not see the potential in the child that has it, but only the lack of potential in the one that doesn’t.
Comment by jaymie on 04/30/2010 at 9:41 pm
i know its hard, but try not to get hurt from it.
this isn’t about you at all, it’s about him and about the kind of person he is. He obviously doesn’t have his life together if he has 2 kids and he’s saying stuff like this to you. He’s a grown man!
Don’t listen to him because he’s most likely just saying all of that stuff because you probably have way more going for you than he ever did in his whole life.
He seems to be a bit immature, but that’s just something that he hasn’t mentally developed. whatever you do, don’t take it seriously and don’t let him hold you back from going somewhere in life because he’s obviously not at all worth it.