I met my best friend over 15 years ago (we are now 27). Several years ago she called me in a panic because her daughters father had taken all of their money to blow at a casino. She had no diapers, food, etc for the baby and asked for money. I western unioned her some money with her promising to pay it back. I never expected to get it back as I don’t loan money I cannot afford to never see again. To me, she was my friend and needed help.

I later found out from her mother, her father, her daughters father, and several mutual friends what she told me about needing the money was a lie. In fact she took the money to buy cocaine, dropped her daughter off at her mother’s and went to party for the weekend.

I immediately cut ties with her because I was so disgusted to me that she 1. Lied 2. Told me a lie involving her child.

Over the years she’s sent me various messages like nothing has happened. Such as how are you, I miss you, etc. I never responded. She’s also asked mutual friends to reach out to me and I advised the mutual friends to stay out of it. Recently she started sending me confrontational messages on FB like ‘ what the *insert 4 letter word* did I ever do to you, what is your *four letter word* problem etc. I finally responded to her that I was disgusted that she’d lied to , supposedly, her best friend and involved her daughter in the mess. That she never took responsibility for her actions nor offered me an apology and acted as if nothing happened. She doesn’t seem to understand why I am still upset about this. To reiterate, it was not about the money. It was that she lied to me and involved her daughter.

Should I continue to try to make her understand why I am so upset or is it best to let her send me crazy messages but ignore them? Ideally, I would like to meet with her in person to discuss this but she currently lives on the east coast while I’m on the west coast.