Question about my mom and dad’s relationship?
Posted by adminSep 6
Hi guys,
My mom and dad have been married for about 20 years. My mom’s a very loving person, while my dad has a mean streak to him (but he provides for his family well and is a decent person). My dad got a DUI a few months ago and now his license is suspended until April. My mom has to drive him everywhere. My dad is pretty mean to my mom, but today, she came home crying, and I asked why. She said that for the past few weeks my dad has saying that he “hates her.” I mean, what the fuck, dad? What should I do?
I’m 15, and I’ll be having a talk with my dad tonight. Thanks for your answers.
18 comments
Comment by Hannah Banana on 09/06/2010 at 10:23 am
you should talk to him and maybe the should in role in marriage counseling
Comment by Melissa A on 09/06/2010 at 10:27 am
tell your mom to divorce that *****
Comment by want a bunny!!!! on 09/06/2010 at 10:50 am
talk to your mom there could be a big problem you dont know about, it happened to my best freind
Comment by ghost on 09/06/2010 at 11:17 am
You don’t want to alienate yourself from dear old dad, but you want to be supportive of your mom. Dad will probably be given the boot.
DON’T TALK TO YOUR DAD ABOUT THIS, IT’S YOUR PARENTS FIGHT AND YOU WILL BE THE ONE TO TAKE THE FALL.
Comment by ♦justme♦ on 09/06/2010 at 11:49 am
You should stay out of it. I have a feeling your mom stays because he does provide for his family. He may be a SOB, but it’s up to her to deal with him.
You don’t give your age, but it doesn’t really matter, you don’t want to get caught in the middle of this.
Comment by Audry K on 09/06/2010 at 12:38 pm
Talk to your dad about the situation!
i mean something seems wrong, unless your dad has always been like this??!
good luck!=]
Comment by rpetch007 on 09/06/2010 at 1:09 pm
well its going to be hard but get your mum out of there if you can.. he not the man your mum married .. so she should leave him .. make him walk . in sted of her driving him ..
Comment by stupid_bathwater on 09/06/2010 at 2:05 pm
If I were you, I would tell your mom to give him an ultimatum; stop being an ass, or she’s leaving. He’s verbally abusive, and no one should tolerate that.
Comment by beanodom on 09/06/2010 at 2:29 pm
There really is nothing you can do. im sorry that they are having problems but they have to sort them out. Just let them do what they have to do. Good Luck!
Comment by Caitie B on 09/06/2010 at 2:34 pm
This might now be the best suggestion but it’s what i woud do:
Maybe confront your dad in a way that also guilt trips him. say something like “Why do you hate mommy?”. I know it sounds horrible but it may open his eyes to what he’s doing.
Comment by Antony N on 09/06/2010 at 3:08 pm
i would say in about 70% of these cases they “kiss and make up” but my parents had a bad patch and split up when i was 6 so im sorry but u might have to face the worsed
Comment by kelannde on 09/06/2010 at 3:34 pm
Nothing. Your parents are adults and they aren’t likely to react well to you offering advice.
The best advise you could offer your mother is to tell her to leave her alcoholic abusive hubby… how well do you think that will go over?
Comment by shane on 09/06/2010 at 4:02 pm
Dad is probably angry with himself and how his own life is and Mom is the easiest target to vent his frustrations out on. He might even blame her for how he feels. I mean after all ,it can’t be his fault, can it?
Comment by Answer girl on 09/06/2010 at 4:41 pm
I think the best way will be if you just advise your mum to not talk to your dad for a few days and maybe he will understand how bad it is when someone hates and ignores you and if he doesnt you can always call kidsline…its 0800 KIDSLINE and they can help you out =]
Comment by Minhazul Hayat Khan on 09/06/2010 at 5:07 pm
You can support your mom.You can speak to your Mom and Dad about this.
Comment by roseywild on 09/06/2010 at 5:57 pm
The problem is between your parents. Just be there for your mom. Don’t allow any of her self esteem to be stripped by hurtful comments.
Comment by darlin on 09/06/2010 at 6:01 pm
To start with, the DUI was a clue to get away! I would not want to be with someone who chooses to risk the lives of others, driving DRUNK! I think he has deeper issues, and is very stressed. I think your mom is the one that is going to get all his anger, is this right for him to do? HEAVENS NO!
If she works, that puts more stress on both, if she is a stay at home mom, it stresses out Dad to realize how stupid his mistake was and to realize he is being punished like a kid! Which I believe is a good thing! I have three children and I hate seeing drunk drivers putting my kids at risk.
This has to be hard for both of them. I think if Mom cannot tolerate this behavior, she shouldn’t have to. Drinking does very evil things to people. They create a meanness that NO ONE should have to be near. Dad needs to relax more.
Comment by rhodekgb on 09/06/2010 at 6:55 pm
theres not a whole lot you can do – i dont want to treat you like your 5 but those issues between your parents are not easy for them to work out – you taking a side – and thinking you can make progress might make things worse……..
It sucks to see your parents fight and argue – trust me – mine did too – and yes they split up – but kids interfering in adults drama – usually only gets you screamed at because most adults dont want KIDS telling them how they should or shouldnt be acting….
EVEN IF YOUR RIGHT
Good luck!