Professionals only please- what is a good course of action when for a troubled teenage girl?
Posted by adminAug 31
This is not my child, I am trying to find some answers to help a single father. His daughter is 16 years old, she is sexually active with a least one partner maybe more, may have previously terminated a pregnancy, has been experimenting with hard drugs (cocaine) and has always performed fair to poor in school. She has never been aggressive or violent, just very sneaky. The state that we live in does not have a lot of resources for this kind of thing. I don’t know what advice to give.
7 comments
Comment by ldysam1 on 08/31/2010 at 4:10 am
He can go to a free clinic (like planned parenthood) they will have options there, or maybe to the guidence counsler at her school. Get some ideas and suggestions. He needs to talk to her, be there for her. She will come around when she feels like it is safe to talk to him and that he will listen and not judge.
Good Luck
Comment by Darkonda Death on 08/31/2010 at 4:27 am
Ask Dr. Phil
Comment by dickn2000a on 08/31/2010 at 4:47 am
This is just what I would do… If my kid was a minor and on drugs and sexually active, I’d have her arrested and sent to juvenile detention until she was 18, when she would now be of legal age and could be charged as an adult for her illegal acts. Again this is my opinion, but some people can’t be nor deserve to be “saved”!
Comment by Jenintn on 08/31/2010 at 5:31 am
Sadly enough…. unless the father has plenty of money to throw around, he won’t be able to get much help/resources for her. I don’t know what state you’re in, but I think it works pretty much the same everywhere. I have a continually troubled nephew I’m raising, but he only has medicaid insurance, and sad but true: Your insurance and income is the ticket to how much you can do to get help for troubled teens. Has he tried behavioral health hospitals? Most insurances will pay for “short” stays in those type facilities if a doctor recommends it. My nephew has committed 3 felonies, stolen prescription drugs and alcohol, and sneaks out his window in the middle of the night. (he’s just turned 15). And because of this dangerous behavior and potential to bring danger home, we had to turn him over to the state and he’s now in a foster home. I couldn’t allow him to be around my other 3 children and feel safe. So, I know where you’re coming from, and I hope your friend can find some counseling, or rehab that will help this girl. I’m still looking for facilities (religious camps, boarding schools, residential treatment facilites) that will take my nephew on, but we simply don’t have the funds, and no one will give us the time of day because of it. Tell your friend to start surfing the net for rehab facilites, and talking to some local religious organizations that might possible know of some resources for him to start. Good luck
Comment by Heather C on 08/31/2010 at 5:49 am
This is a very sad situation most girls who go through this have very low self esteem. There are many different courses of action you can take:
Take her to a trained therapist most children who act out in this way have something going on inside that they try to mask with drug use or sex.
Talk to your local prison and see if they have planned days where you can take the girl in and show her around, most prisons offer this service.
Have her arrested I know this sounds harsh but if she gets a dose of reality at her young age it may just help her, plus the slate is wiped clean at 18 (talk to a lawyer in your area before you do this about what charges to press and how much time will be spent in Juvie)
Restrict her to the point of no freedom, she will not like it but explain to her that if she made better choices it would have never come to this.
Send her to a boot camp for troubled teens, most places will help with the finances if they qualify.
Monitor her friends closely and talk to their parents as well this will do one of two things, either the parents do not know what their kids are up to and help to curve it or make her friends so mad that their parents found out they will not want to be around her anymore.
Good luck.
Comment by David S on 08/31/2010 at 6:36 am
Who is the parent, the dad or the child? The father needs too put a stop too drug abuse and sexual activity by a 16 yr old at once. Both of these behaviors can have but two results. 1.She will get Aids and die or 2 She will overdose on drugs and die.
Comment by texas_tec_chick on 08/31/2010 at 7:15 am
have u ever dont anything wrong? let her know there are other people out there like her. she probbly doesnt think that right now which is prolly the issue od why she is doing that. let her know ur always there to talk. have stories about somebody doing drugs and how it screwed up their life, or let her know that there are other people out there that had an abortion. maybe she feels bad about the abortion. try to talk to her, dont pressure her to talk to you. just let her know and she’ll come to u on her own time,