My niece and nephew have been neglected and I have them in my custody. My nephew needs emergency dental care and my niece has scoliosis-orthopedic. The mother, my sister will NOT give me their SS #’s so that I can get them medical. Im frustrated and need help. Im not getting any fianancial aide for them and will be fine in a few weeks financially but still she doesn’t want to cooperate. This is the same sister that has a drug addiction.The father just left out of state with girlfriend and didn’t supply me with nothing but Power of Attorney. I need to have Legal Documents stating I have custody in order for SS dept to release them. What can I do?
My fiance has a 5 year old son who he wants to regain full custody of. The boy’s maternal grandmother has had temporary custody for 4 yrs because the mother of the boy drained my fiance’s bank account, maxed his credit cards (she was a closet heroin addict) and abandoned the boy who my fiance found passed out in a highchair at the mother’s house. because he was financially taken for a loop, my fiance moved back home with his parents until he could regain some financial stability, leaving his son with the maternal grandmother who has temporary custody to this day. My fiance now is back on his feet, is a great dad and has remained in his sons life consistantly and can now provide a safe, stable environment for his son to learn and grow. contrary to her first off the record agreement, the grandmother does not wan to give up custody because the boys mother has returned and has been seeing the son (she is off drugs but still mentally unstable). what are my fiance’s chances in court?
I hope your right, however we really can’t afford a lawyer and am wondering how important a lawyer is, if neither parties have one?
My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?
I recently found a small amber vial (about 1″ tall and 1/2″ in diameter) in my dad’s pocket as I was doing laundry. I know my dad has had drug issues in the past but I’ve always thought they were long in his past. I was curious as to what could have been in the bottle so I opened it and it was completely empty other than there was a white caked residue around the top were the lid was on and inside the neck of the vial. I figured whatever the substance was just had gotten wet from the wash and formed around the lid. I have heard that cocaine will numb your tongue if you tasted it. So I put a bit on my tongue – no numb feeling, but it just felt cool like menthol and was tasteless. I am suspicious that cocaine was possibly in the bottle but I do not know what cocaine is typically stored in. Do you think the vial is drug related?
Any things I need to fix? Help is appreciated.
The story “Because My Father Always Said He Was the Only Indian Who saw Jimi Hendrix Play ‘The Star-Spangled Banner’ at Woodstock” by Sherman Alexie displays several issues Native Americans face everyday. In this story Alexie touches on how alcoholism and other social issues prevent Native American families from having positive relationships. Victor’s dad becomes a victim of American society, therefore he becomes an alcoholic and leaves his family even if this was a rare occurrence in the Native American culture.
The wrongs or bad choices that a great-great-great grand parents did 100s of years ago can still be felt today. Everything from abuse, alcoholism, picking of bad relationships is passed on. Take the Hemingway and the Barrymores for example.
So do you believe in the sins or wrongs of the father and mother?
Why can’t they still be felt? As that of someone who lives in a family where alcoholism is in their family for generations.
Okay, you don’t have to call it sins. Still even those who break away from the cycle are still effected by it.
My father is extremely smart, talented, hard working, good looking, very propper and polite, and I look up to him in so many ways. However, I struggle on a daily basis with the idea that my family and I just go through the motions of coming home from school/work, eat dinner together (usually), and then go our separatae ways, and yet we (myself and my mom) can’t address the fact that his drinking affects our relationship with him.
Now by no means am seeking sympathy or searching for statements of how “things could be worse”, I am just looking for ideas or expereinces about how you can tell a loved one that when he comes home everyday form work and drinks until he can’t remember what we talked about the next morning, IT IS EXTREMELY FRUSTRATING and it is harmful to our relationship.
Has anyone experienced this dilema? Have any good advice??
We are located in Wa state. The dad of my niece has been a herion addict for over 10 years now, and newly married, now my sister is too. My niece is only a baby, and we need to get her from them! Cps doesnt care until something horrible happens, the counselor my brother-in law was seeing, we just found out wasnt U’A ing him, when he supposed to be doing so. The docs know there addicts but have done nothing about my niece being in their care.My sister is addicted to medicine that makes you sleep all the time..which is very worriesome to us.
Where would we start the process to take her away at least temp custody and go from there?
I have been through many detox and substance abuse programs. My father was the southeasts largest supplier of cocaine in the 80`s and 90`s. I had him arrested thinking that if I could take away the ease of access I could take away my addiction. I only made my addiction more expensive as now I have to pay for the cocaine that I use. I have cut way back (from 1/2 ounce daily in 1990 to several grams a year). The problem is when I get started I can`t stop until I have no more money. THis causes a strain on my marriage (to my fourth wife) as I do not come home until I`m broke and hurting.
Please someone give me some advice, if you have ever seen the movie where johnny depp plays the drug kingpin, this was my life in the 80`s and 90`s, but not as the kingpin, but the son caught up in the game. We had police paid off, planes running dope from Mexico to USA. I saw corruption, racketeering, money laundering, even murder of DEA officials and witnesses for the state. This left me scarred foreve
My Dad has been an alcoholic for years (before I was born, and I’m 19 now). He’s not physically abusive but he can be very verbally abusive.
I love him to death and so does my mother but we’ve been dealing with this for so long. We’ve tried everything to make him stop, and nothing will work. He’s not willing to stop, because in total denial about his addiction. I’m pretty sure that it’s going to take a stroke or a disease to make him stop drinking but that’s just so horrible. I love him to death and I want him to be around for a while.
I’ve talked to him and even cried my heart out to him asking him to stop but he just turns it around on me.
I was wondering if there is anyone out there who has or is experiencing this and what do you do to cope?
Here is the thing my Fiancee use to be a big drugie when he was younger and he went to rehabe done all that. Well its been going on two years since we have been togeather but his bee off the meth for 21/2 or 3 years thats what he tells me and his family. For the past two months his family and my family even people at work are asking him whats up with his arms. He keeps telling everyone its from flea bites and keeps getting upset with everyone for asking if he back on the drugs. When his mom and brother had called him he got really pissed off and hung up the phone. His sister was staying with us for awhile and told me she knows that he isnt but she could be wrong. The reason im really thinking he is back on the drugs b/c when I went over to my moms house my step dad asked me why is his arms so broke out and yours and the kids arent. So my question is can you still get them break outs later on if your not on them and how can I tell if he is . I dont know how b/c i keep all the money.
to add more I dont know how he could be doing it since we are togeather all the time I keep all the money. The only time where not is when im at work at night and he watches the kids while im at work. so what are the withdraws of this drug and do they last this long from when he did them 2 to 3 years ago.
what is that is it where someone dont sleep?
Hello. I first would like to explain my situation.
My father is going to be 49 in a few weeks. My parents are divorced and have been a majority of my life. I rarely hear from my father and see him even less. I’ve bumped into him a few times in the city I work in but it felt more like seeing someone you used to know. Not like a friend but maybe someone you went to HS with that you didnt really talk to.
Any way back on track, I got a call 2 days ago from a woman saying my father was in the hospital. This turned out to be my fathers girlfriend.
My dad was beaten up, *allegedly* at a party. Broken Nose, Leg (in 4 places) Concussion, bleeding on the brain.
I suspect that something shady was going on because no cops were called.
I’m fairly certain that a few years ago (maybe four) he was using cocaine. I suspect a similar thing happened the other night. At the very least it was too much alcohol.
I assumed that he was homeless because I always saw him walking around the city I work in with a plastic bag looking like a shadow of his former self. He is a college graduate but “can’t find work” anymore
I talked to my Uncle *My fathers brother* on the phone about what happened and he told me that my father has been collecting unemployment for 14 months and the woman he’s staying with is on welfare and living in some govnt. paid for housing.
How could someone want to live life like this and not want to change?
I am only 19 and I’m going to school, Have a car that I bought myself (My father has no car because he sold it for Significantly less than it was worth, that coupled with losing his license for DUI or DWI I don’t remember.) I work two jobs and take care of myself.
So I am going to the hospital today to see him and I want to give him a wakeup call. What can I do to help someone that doesn’t want to help themselves?
Hi, I get benefits to go to school right now because my father was in the military. However, that goes away when I turn 23. I am now 21 and I have two years left. I am unemployed just going to focus on school. My problem is when I transfer over to a 4 year its going to be really expensive. I want to get a Bachelor’s in Accounting. Which will take 4 more years. I don’t want to work and go to school because I have a hard time staying on track. What would be the best course to major in that I can get an okay paying job with an AA degree? Please advice.
My father is extremely smart, talented, hard working, good looking, very propper and polite, and I look up to him in so many ways. However, I struggle on a daily basis with the idea that my family and I just go through the motions of coming home from school/work, eat dinner together (usually), and then go our separatae ways, and yet we (myself and my mom) can’t address the fact that his drinking affects our relationship with him.
Now by no means am seeking sympathy or searching for statements of how “things could be worse”, I am just looking for ideas or expereinces about how you can tell a loved one that when he comes home everyday form work and drinks until he can’t remember what we talked about the next morning, IT IS EXTREMELY FRUSTRATING and it is harmful to our relationship.
Has anyone experienced this dilema? Have any good advice??
My SIL & brother come in from the city every weekend. Just about every weekend she diaspears to do crack and binge drink, leaving the care and responsiblity of my two nephews with us. They just dont care, they lack total empathy. My youngest nephew (3) has down syndrome and frequent seizures, he is tube fed. The ‘button’ is infected and I’m so scared I will over dose him in on his meds bc I just dont know when he is suppose to have what. I feel so incompetant and stressed. I live with my parents bc they are elderly and have some health problems. I have 2 daughters 5 & 5mos, plus a neices & nephews that we raise 7 & 10. My father just had a knee surgery & my mother is just getting over pnemonia. Last night my Sil & brother came to town. He left to help a friend who got stuck. Not long later my SIL was talking with me in the kitchen, she left the room and I heard a door open and close… she snuck out! She most likely wont return till Monday, stay in the guest room for 2 days and come out angry w/ us! This all just happens so often that its become normal. They do this on birthdays, Thanksgiving, Easter, Christmas. I mean when I was 39wks pregnant, my mother was sick w/ pnemonia, my father had strep, and they left for a week! This was when my nephew w/ down syndrome just started getting tube fed & no one was told about anything. Its difficult bc you just learn how to give him his meds and the docs change them and she doesnt inform us on ANYTHING! Her oldest son was living with us last year bc he couldn;t miss any more school or he would fail. He started coming to me with owiies and problems and she got mad at me! He’s 9 and when they disapear I’m the one talking to him, telling him its not his fault. She cant even use the excuse that the youngest is stressful bc this has been going on 4 ten yrs! She misses they youngest ones appointments and takes none of it serious. It does no good to talk to them bc nothing changes & it causes even more problems. We all feel like we’re enablers but what do we do? If she did this to her family once, they would call CPS on her in a heart beat. she never does anything like this to them EVER and I’m soooo angry! What do I do?
I guess why I’m letting my brother ‘off the hook’ or not coming down as hard is because he has a disability as well & his finer motor skills are lacking thus he can’t really give meds or do feedings. Thank you for all the feed back.
I’m 20 and I’m a female, both my parents met in rehab. My mother was addicted to Xanax and Ambien and way later on she got hooked on crack cocaine. When I was born my dad took full custody of me, my mom was rarely in my life.. seen her maybe 6 -10 times a year and for some years she had stints in prison / jail. Since I was VERY small I have memories of being very overly emotional. When I would get in trouble I would sit in my room stare in the mirror and scream and cry WHY ME! I HATE MYSELF! in Kidnergarten this was. Also on my 4th Birthday I tried to carry a peice of cake to my dad and I dropped it on the floor and remember crying and saying “I can’t do anything right” I was also extremely attached to my dad.. if he went anywhere without me I’d freak out and sit in the window making up songs like “where’s my daddy, where’s my dad” forever… people used to say I was glued to his belt loop. My dad’s mom – my grandma lived with me since I was born and still does to this day.. She is very verbally abusive and always told me my mom was a prostitute, and really mean things.. I was VERY jealous of ANY woman that tried to talk to my dad.. or even some of his male friends that would get him to drink. As I got older things got really bad… I felt like I was nothing… I was sent to a psych ward when I was 13 for cutting myself and drinking. Eventually I was diagnosed with severe depression/bipolar. My mom died when I was 14 of a crack overdose, and she was only 33. My dad got married RIGHT after my mom died, and he moved out with his new wife and left me with my grandma. Then I started smoking weed at 15, and doing really hard drugs (heroin and coke) but I thankfully never got addicted. I was in a school with lots of rich kids and I wasn’t rich at all I never felt loved or like I belonged. I never got along with my step mom, I always felt she judged me. We came from two different worlds – she grew up very well off, and her parents were teachers, and her dad was also a pastor. I dropped out of school at 17, I was addicted to xanax, and klonopin. I tried xanax because I always heard that my mom was addicted to it. I started blacking out and binge drinking, I was in and out of the psych wards. I was addicted to xanax for 3 years I took over 10 pills a day and barely remember my life from 17, til just recently. I’ve been sober for 3 months now. I’m trying to get my life together but I still have these feelings of worthlessness and I’m still overly sensitive. I have a boyfriend who is really really mean and since I understand his past and how he grew up and WHY he has so much anger.. I try to stay with him but he makes me histerically cry every single day. He knows my past and uses it against me.. I am now 13 weeks pregnant and just trying to live my life happy. I never want my child to go through anything I did.. I stopped drinking, pills, and EVEN smoking cigarettes the day I was told I was pregnant. I stopped everything. I just want to know what should I do to help myself feel better? I can’t stop being so sensitive why am I like this?
I’m Thinking of writing a book about my personal troubles with alcohol/drugs/police and how far i’ve fallen do to alcoholism (was a straight A student in High school). I’m 21, was expelled from high school, & kicked out of college. have continued to make stupid choices, a week ago was arrested and charged with theft by extortion, in which case i’ve been contacted by several large news stations wanting more info. trying to decide whether it would be a good use of my time to put my experiences in writing. My target audience would probably be for teens (13-17), and i’m hoping parents would buy the book for their kids. thoughts much appreciated! thanks
Seriously? Who cares what anyone else is doing every second of there life?? I sure don’t. I’m so sick of hearing about Twitter!!! I turn on the 5:00 news, and there all “oh you can see us on twitter” bla, bla, bla…dude, if I need to find your local news show on twitter, I suck! Who agrees???? Anyone disagree?
