My family has less then $100 to last the next TWO weeks and my mother spent $20 on a lottery ticket.
she does that all the time.
she will spend our last five bucks on lottery ticks.
and my dad wont do anything about it.

shes always claiming that this will be the one to make us rich, but it never does.

what can I do?

and do you think its a real problem?

I know there are a few questions like this, but I’m hoping some of the answers help me, build up my case…

My ex-Girlfriend has taken my two kids that I have with her (age 1yr9mo and 9mo old), away and she is not letting me see them, she is also taking me to court and trying to get full custody of the children, she’s only doing this because she knows that I don’t love her. Well, this is a story within its self… Which, I can talk about it more in depth another day.

I know I am a good father and will never do anything to hurt my children. I have another two kids with my ex-wife and they are with me 24/7 and enjoy being with them too (I know, I know… what the hell is this guy doing popping kids all over the place? I can’t do anything about that anymore at this point, but to care my little angels, so please, I need solutions…). My ex-girlfriend in the other hand, she has another two children with another guy, and she abandon them for about 3 years while she has been with me. I always asked her to bring her other two children to live with us, but they seem to be a bother to her, somehow, when they came over, she would just tell her other siblings to get the hell away and if they did something bad, she would tell them “I am going to call your DAD to pick you up” (not to mention that she was a previous meth (crystal) addict).

I don’t want my two siblings that I have with her, to go through that, she doesn’t watch the kids very well, (one time, her daughter which is 5yrs old, almost got ran over cus she was in the middle of the street by herself). Sometimes, I would come home from work and my daughter that is 1yr9mo, would be in the middle of the street by herself, and most of the time it was always my two older kids watching my younger two kids (which the younger ones are 9mo and the other 1yr9mo).

There is a few things I will hit her with at court, she has a picture (and I have a copy of it) of her older boy, dressed up like a border cartel (MAFIA) and holding up a real AK47, she abandon her other kids for three years, she is an illegal alien, she carries around a fake social security card (I just wish I had a copy of this), she drives without a license (and she has had two cars impounded for this, which I had to pay for), and she has been arrested for not paying for these tickets. All and all, a friend recommended that I have her deported so she won’t show up to court and I can get my kids back.

I guess, what I am trying to look for is some sort of direction. I am thinking of contacting dadslaw.com and have their attorneys run my case. But as far as the deportation, is there any sort of ways to do this effectively?

Thanks for any help!

I am 12 years old, my father is an alcoholic. He’s never hit me or anything, but he is very verbally abusive. He and my moms relationship is at the last string. But they’re trying to work it out. Its so hard because none of my friends have the sliightest idea what I’m going through. They try to inderstand, but they really don’t. Its so frustrating sometimes. I need advice from someone who also had/has an alcoholic father. I love him very much, but he comes home drunk way to often. And I want help, I haven’t tried a counselor, should I? He’s not the same when he’s drunk. I cry myself to sleep sooften, and it distracts me from my schoolwork. Sometimes I feel like I’m walking alone in all of this, and no one else realizes how precious life is, and that I want to live it to the fullest. I feel like I have it so hard, and no one understands, I feel as if so many people in this world don’t understand. Does anyone feel like me? I feel so alone.

My girlfriends and I really would like to know when college males stop drinking every other night? It really is annoying to see guys drink even when they are doing homework. I am scared that they are not going to grow out of it! My dad didn’t! My boyfriend thinks drinking is the greatest aspect of college and so does his friends. I have grown out of that stage at the end of my freshmen year. Sure I party on weekends, but these guys do it during the week…

when does it stop!

i have problems. im 16, really hard on myself, cry often because of my dad is mean, struggle with binge eating and body image ( 5′3 and 110 pounds and sometimes cry over my body) my inner voice is always saying im not good enogh, i walk with my head down, i started smoking for no resason, i really like a guy and he told me he likes me but i freeze and act so diffrently towards him now, i feel so down, and i want help.

but there is absolutely, positively no way my parents will let me get help from counseling or anything.

think, what should i do? these times are unbearable…

If mid digital hair is rare, what are the chances that an affected individual married to an unaffected individual will have an affected child? what is the probability that all five of their children will be affected? If the mother was Aa for affected n the father aa unaffected would this be a way to figure it out? do i use a punnet square?

Please rate this out of ten, give feedback/whatever.This was something I did in about 2002. I suppose it’s “comedy rap” in a way, as I was referencing dumb stuff like charity shops/thrift stores, cider, etc. and not taking myself at all seriously, but it was never a piss-take of rap. I grew up around hip-hop, but since I was white and was living in a small Welsh town (I’d never heard of GLC, mind you) it could be considered “comedy” in some sense, especially seeing as it was mostly tongue-in-cheek. Although I played this at a house party in Bristol and our black weed-dealer wanted me to come down to a recording studio in St. Pauls and lay some tracks down with his black producer friends. I declined, mostly because I thought I had no right to be infiltrating the scene of artists who’d worked their asses off, whereas I’d done this during one night while under the influence of strong codeine. I actually probably have a link to the actual song, complete with my own production/beat (pretty poor, but I think I did okay with the limited equipment I had and having next to no music talent) and I’ll post it if anyone’s vaguely interested after reading the lyrics (actually, I have now at the bottom; works a lot better over a beat…) I have one or two more, too. Anyway, my rap name was Delightful Arthur..

Introducing Delightful Arthur

A yo, Delightful Arthur is rather amazing
You’ve got nada than can fuck with my blazing style
I’ll make you smile with my comments
Hit the thrift store like a comet, I’ll vomit
On those who don’t dig second-hand clothes
Looking at my watch and the second hand shows
That it’s time for Delightful Arthur to wreck it
If I was a drink you’d fucking neck it, repec’ it
Now check it; listen up close with both ears
I’m easy on the eye like Johnson’s No Tears
Shampoo; a fucking mic vandal with a can-do
Attitude, I’ll batter you blue with a candle-
Stick, like Cluedo, I’m hip like, “You know!”
I’ll flip like Cujo on pricks who are too slow
To see the Delightful Art is incredible
Unforgettable, infinite, un-deadable

(Chorus)

Delightful Arthur is not like your father
He don’t drive a car or watch costume drama
He’s got worse karma than Jeffrey Dahmer
He stays at home watching Futurama
Plotting more schemes that the Unabomber
Eating ice cream, still in his pyjamas
At five o’clock in the afternoon
‘Cause he hasn’t got a job to do
And he’s never, ever seen a dustpan or a broom
You need a tetanus jab just to stand in his room
But you can’t help but admire his skills
‘Cause he’s so fucking ill on the mic he needs pills
Yeah, I’m so fucking ill on the mic I need pills
Bow to my crown that I bought on a deal
In a charity shop in Pembroke Dock
Don’t pretend I’m not, hotter than hot
On the mic, on the mic

(Chorus)

Delightful Arthur, I’m larger than life is
I swing back and forth like windscreen wipers
‘Cause I feel hyper, off too much cider
And I’m a light-weight ’cause I way lighter
Than short girls with anorexia nervosa
Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious
I’m ferocious, I’m cold, I’ll break your noses
Just so you can’t smell ross any moses
Any more, any more

(Chorus)

Anyway: here’s the link: http://www.jukeboxalive.com/music_listen_286790.html

Click on the arrow at the far right of the “Introducing…” song. It even features a bit of my sampled whistling…
All the censored bits are either “f.ck” or “f.cking”, btw.
and, uh, “ross” = “roses”, and probably 1-2 small typos still there…
Thanks for the feedback so far. Be nice if ppl could say whether they read the lyrics or listened to the track while reading them. Could make a huge difference….

“needs a tetanus jab to stand in his room????” tetanus shot make you drowsy pal..

That was a self-deprecating thing. As in, my room is so unsanitary, full of dangerous junk, you need to get a tetanus jab to insure your safety…

“the delightful art is incredible, unforgettable, infinite, un dead-able??”
“Undead-able”???worst colloquialism i have ever heard…

Fair enough, but I was actually quite proud of “un-deadable” since it sounded so silly. Sounded like a satirical boast – like taking the most egotistical rappers’ boasts to their natural, ridiculous conclusion. More my neologism than a colloquialism. But maybe it’s just stupid. Personally, it was my favourite word in the song…

I have a son, whose father is legallay allowed to have our son for 2 weeks visitation. I am afraid after a drunken phone call last night that his father, who has a court order against him that says he is not allowed to drink while our child is in his custody, may try to pick up our child from the airport while intoxicated (similar things happened over a decade ago). Now, I have told my son, under no circumstances is he to get into a car if his father smells like alcohol. Will the law enforcement community help my son if he calls from an airport phone? What can he do, being a minor, to keep his father from making him and his little sister get into the car? If my son has the court order in his hand, and calls the police, are they going to help him? Or does he actually have to commit the driving crime (dui/dwi) and endanger our child before they can help? I have to allow this visitation, per court order. My son says he will do this, but I shouldn’t have to ask. So what do I do?

I am 14 years old and my height is 5′4.

i just want to know if thats to tall for my age or normal.
i already hit puberty and my parents are somewhat short, my mom is shorter than me and my dad is like 5′6-5′7

Stopped drugs about a month ago. At my urging, he started seeing an individual counselor about 2 mths ago & is supposed to start an intensive outpatient program for alcohol/drugs soon(already had intake appt). Thing is, I am 6 mths pregnant with our 2nd child and our 1st is 15 mths. I am also in individual counseling for this. At my counselors urging, I stopped nagging him about his use of these things. It’s gotten WORSE! I am having I have tons of emotion (mostly anger and hurt) . He is working and is successful at paying all the bills, etc. He, however, does not know how to support me emotionally (never learned these skills as a child – and is in counseling to help him.) He is an AWESOME father-somehow able to show emotion he cannot show to anyone else. Tonight, after getting home from a business trip which started his drinking binge all over, he is at the bar with his MOTHER, both getting drunk! Should I give him more time or leave before this baby is born? I am looking into Alanon.
Thank you SOOOO much, Shelley W.! You said EVERYTHING I THOUGHT regarding “Danza’s” reply! I thought it was rather harsh, as I am 37yo and have waited as long as I could to have kids, so YES, I do know about birth control! I simply adore kids and regardless, knew my “alcoholic” husband would be a good dad, at least because his dad was never around and that he would support me/them. (I am currently a stay-at-home mom so I won’t miss any moment of their 1st steps, etc.) Thanks for giving me hope, as well. It helps to know that my prayers can be answered. I mainly wrote this for moral support, as his family (esp. his mom!) enables him to no end, making constant excuses about “that’s just how he is, how he’s always been” and I FINALLY turned to his mom who lives locally, for emotional support.I feel like she has just stabbed me in the back! When I just had our 1st, she lived with us and they got drunk together as I learned to take care of a newborn! BTW, she DROVE him to her house tonight.

Like affect the actually child, not the child’s life.

please help. im wondering if there are any free backround check websites. i need to see if my dad use to be a rober or a killer. please help. Btw my dad smokes crack

im jusst wondering if alcoholism or drugss are in my genes because my mom was an alcoholic for like 12 years and my dad was an alcoholic nd drug user for about 25 yearsss nd im 13 nd i drink more then a 13 year old normally drinks so im wondering if its in my blood i onlyy drink about 2 or 3 times a month mayb moree sometimee !!!!

to fla where he would be able to drink ever day and fit in with everyone as if thats normal… he’s been an irresposnible dad my whole life but i know he generally cares and loves myself and my brothers and sisters… how can i not feel guilty about his current state of deteroiating health… im afraid if i dont prepare myself now when he dies from this disease we will all feel guilty like we should have done more to stop him…

is this normal to feel guilt?

OK, both my parents do cocaine. They own a business and work hard, especially my dad- when they are sober. But every week or 2 or so, cocaine “magically” appears in the house. Both of them claim that the other person brings it in; both use it, obviously. They both say that they don’t want it, but the other person is the one that tempts them into using it; they both blame the other person for withdrawing money for it, etc.

and first, they just act completely stupid; my mom rants and acts nuts and breathes all fuckin deep and swallows constantly and sounds like shes dying and is all hyper and cant sit down or shut up; my dad sings all the time, goes nuts, attacks ppl (luckily im tougher then him by now but still), and he’ll throw stuff.

My mom was the first person to get the drugs; it started a few years ago. Then my dad was hooked- he has an addictive personality tho, so hes just as hooked now.

They have a drug dealer that lives right down the street; however, I don’t know the exact address. They are nuts when they’re high; they’ll tell me “he lives there” but i cant get an exact answer.

and my mom always acts like its ok that shes spending 600 bucks on illegal drugs cuz “she admits it and is sorry”, and my dad doesnt want any of the blame on him; he NEVER admits that he gets the drugs or had the idea.

my mom wants to get counseling for it, but my dad won’t do counseling. whenever he’s high they both talk alot so i end up pathetically trying to convince him how wrong it is, and that he needs counseling, and he agrees.

but they always get it again.

so what do I do?

(by the way, anything BUT arrest them- Im at the point where I would, after all this stuff ive been thru, but im taking over the family business- if he was jailed it would likely go bankrupt, and then I wouldnt have a good paying job when im older.)

oh yeah and my dad always is telling my mom to “leave”- like she can just leave- and bein an ahole in other ways. my stepmom makes stuff up and hides it everywhere.

they act all happy and my dad cant control his spending on his high- he gave me 100, and he gave a workers’ kid 200! he gave more to smoebody he didnt even know! and he gives dough away constantly. bartenders- 100 here, 100 there.

how do i get it thru his thick head and solve this situation without either killing them or jailing them?!?!

is telling on all the dealers and following them around an option? or what?
good point, i wanna do that. i just have to find out what house is theres, and its gonna look even worse with cops at our house…

I know the dad is addicted to coffee, and that they regularly poke fun at the life of a working from home father. if you have a copy of the oregonian laying around it’s second page of the comics, left side of the page about 2/3rds the way up the page (I think- keep in mind, no guarantees). Just a name of the comic would be great please!

ever since me and my boyfriend broke up, ive been addicted to sex…

i cant get enough of it.

i slept with my cousins dad [NOT MY UNCLE, BTW]

and ive even been getting turned on my girl friends of mine.

whats wrong with me?

I went to my school’s financial aid office today and they told me that I would most likely not qualify for any stafford loans since they are need based and my dad makes too much for me to receive financial aid. The counselor also said that I could apply for the unsubsidized loans, but that if i did I’d probably have to get my dad to take out a plus loan. Problem is, he has really bad credit and debt twice his annual income.. so I doubt he would qualify for any loan. Is there any way I can get an unsubsidized loan without having my dad cosign or taking out a plus loan for me?

I need some serious advice for a friend.

Her 83 year old father lost his wife several years ago. Since then he has been alone. Recently a crack addict has been befriending him, writing him bad checks, and lying to him and more to take advantage of his money… she even stole his kitten!

Anyway, she recently got him involved with another crack addict! He even paid 1,500 for her bail (she was in prison for having a meth lab).

Now this new girl 30years old (and her boyfriend who she claims is her brother) has moved in with him and hes talking about marrying her!

Shes obviously just using him and his savings has plummeted to 1,000 and she takes collect calls from jail all the time and is just taking advantage of him.

The police claim that she and her friends do this to elderly people.

We were hoping we could get him declared mentally incompetent or something to get him into a home and out of that situation.

please advise! Quick! lol

I used to have the worlds greatest dad, the dad I could look up to, trust and love. It feels like, when I was 7 he died. And then at 8 a man, who looked extraordinary like me and my sibling came home, smelling (of alcohol but I didn’t realize then) announcing that he was my father. Since that day he has been at home about 3 hours every month, emotionally abusing us (me and my siblings living at home), grounding us and yelling for no reason. Then about 2 months ago he quit his job and stopped drinking for a week where he took me to Europe. Then he went back to drinking, except he didn’t leave, he’s still at home. Last week things had gotten bad enough for my mum to tell him he had to stop getting drunk or she’d divorce him. He has stopped getting drunk but he’s in almost as bad a mood because of his irritability at not being able to drink. All I want is my daddy back and I’m scared he’ll just go back to being the alcoholic he was. I can’t live like this, every night is hell, I need him.
We’re English
DJ- Thanks but I’ve already tried that and that’s why he stopped for the week. But now when I say anything he calls me a crybaby and grounds me.