My father’s birthday?
Posted by adminApr 30
It’s my father’s birthday in a week, and I’m not sure what I should get him if anything. In the past since I’ve been on my own, I’ve tried to do very good by him, getting him a digital camera once (he never even took it out of the box) and a good watch another time (my mother ended up giving this one to my uncle whom I really don’t get along with. My father is an alcoholic whom has lost nearly everything in life. With his 51st birthday coming up, I have no idea whether I even should acknowledge it! Help!! Also let me add that he and my mother totally skipped over my sister and I at Christmas and our birthdays!
6 comments
Comment by Ben P on 04/30/2011 at 3:58 am
Wow. Sounds like the best thing you could give him is a Bible. That might help.
Comment by frankee101 on 04/30/2011 at 4:39 am
Don’t buy him a gift. It’s just an expensive “thing”.
GIve him your time. Take him out to dinner or a movie.
Make a day for him. Cook him a meal or whatever he likes to do (without drinking). If he drinks, than leave. You have a choice to allow yourself to be around people who drink or not, family included. You can choose NOT to be a part or witness to that suicidal act.
Comment by OnTheMove on 04/30/2011 at 5:19 am
It sounds like Dad isn’t much into valuing material things. Consider just taking him out for a birthday dinner, just Dad and Daughter. Pick a restaurant he’d like (don’t make him uncomfortable with a fancy place, unless you know he’d like it) but first off make sure it’s somewhere that does not serve alcohol!
Another gift idea is an activity he would enjoy. Would he like tickets to a concert, a day sailing on a yacht, a dogsled trip (wrong season, I know), rent a Harley for a day, or skydiving? I think you might do better staying away from material things for Dad. Good luck.
Comment by arlette4u_2003 on 04/30/2011 at 5:53 am
Dont buy him anything. Looks like he wont use it or Mom will give it someone else. So just spend your time with him. Thats good enough.
Comment by buddieblue on 04/30/2011 at 6:08 am
Sounds like your father has some problems but this isn’t the time to turn away from him. Don’t buy him anything. Just give him a big hug and let him know how much you love him and that you will be there for him always. He wont be here on earth with you forever (and being a alcoholic probably Even lesser time) so love him unconditionally.
Comment by awommack on 04/30/2011 at 7:04 am
cd or dvd or shirt