My Dad’s an alcoholic…I’m at my wit’s end about this?
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My Dad has been an alcoholic for years (before I was born, and I’m 19 now). He’s not physically abusive but he can be very verbally abusive.
I love him to death and so does my mother but we’ve been dealing with this for so long. We’ve tried everything to make him stop, and nothing will work. He’s not willing to stop, because in total denial about his addiction. I’m pretty sure that it’s going to take a stroke or a disease to make him stop drinking but that’s just so horrible. I love him to death and I want him to be around for a while.
I’ve talked to him and even cried my heart out to him asking him to stop but he just turns it around on me.
I was wondering if there is anyone out there who has or is experiencing this and what do you do to cope?
5 comments
Comment by Richie Rich on 09/01/2010 at 11:49 pm
You need outside help. Church, AA, something before it’s to late.
Comment by rizzochastity on 09/02/2010 at 12:26 am
maybe you should suggest that he go to AA, and it would not hurt for yu to look into going to Al-anon, this is a support group for the families of alcoholics. I my self am a member of NA, i have also attended Al-anon, this just teaches you how to cope with the things that the alcoholic may or may not do. It also gives you a network of support from the other members that have probley went through alot of the same things that you have gone through. Good luck with your situation! And happy holidays
Comment by Greyhawk on 09/02/2010 at 12:58 am
Your father will not change until the pain and fear of staying the same becomes greater than the pain and fear of changing. This is a rough time of year for Alkies. I suggest contacting your local Alateen or AlAnon group. Look in your phone book for the number. You can’t do it alone. They’ll give you help. Good luck.
Comment by Ottoman on 09/02/2010 at 1:39 am
Cut the “love”. Close your heart. Stay away from him when he is sober if any, to push him make a choice between this and that. Don’t allow him to see you care for him. Because: You have a chance that way, he may think that he has to go for family if you go against of him. If he does not change his mind, well, it is still the situation, you got nothing to lose.
If you insist that you act like you love him, it will seem to him you are sort of inner approving his behavior. Not only you, but all your family members should stop social relations with him. He needs to see the odds. Leave him alone for a while to live like a junkie then check later.
Comment by ♥LucyLu♥BaBy DuE 14thMAY09!! xx on 09/02/2010 at 1:49 am
I have experienced this and know it’s really not a nice situation for anyone to be in.
I’m 23 now and have cut off contact with my Dad. He is in serious denial about his problem, he was physically & mentally abusive to me for years and I’ve had enough.
Your Dad is so lucky that you want to help him but he won’t change until HE wants to. People with addictions are selfish.
I wish I could give you advice on how to get through to him but I just don’t know.
Wish you luck with this journey, contact me if you need to talk xxx