Mother’s leaving me with alcoholic, drug addict, pot head dad?
Posted by adminSep 9
We found out we were losing our house a few months ago, and it’s torn my mom apart – stressed her to no end. She’s finally broken down and decided to leave my father, who’s a drunk alcoholic, drug addict, and pot head. She’s not taking us or my other sister (I have another, but she’s getting married, she’s going off with her man) with her. She doesn’t have the money. Why in HELL she thinks this life is better for us doesn’t get into my head. I’m sobbing, my dad is abusive, he steals the drugs I take for acute migraines I’ve gotten since a baby, he drinks every night with those meds and now he’s smoking pot on top of it all. And she’s LEAVING us with him. What do I do? I have no other family to turn to, none whatosoever. I’m 15 and still have a while to go until I’m legal and can live on my own. I’m scared, I can’t live with him alone. Help me.
I should’ve mentioned I’m homeschooled, it’s extremely hard for me to find adults to talk to about this stuff. My mother also currently has no job, it’s why she’s lived with my dad through-out these years, only for his finical support. She was planning to get one when/if we kept the house, so it’s no surprise she’s leaving and getting one on her own. Talking to a school counselor to find soical service is out of the question though
5 comments
Comment by niblzz on 09/09/2010 at 7:46 am
talk to a social worker at school
Comment by ofsoundmind on 09/09/2010 at 8:01 am
Perhaps your mother hasn’t thought this all the way through. I don’t know what state you are in, but in most states, they have benefits and services to help single parents in these types of situations.
If she really has no options, you should contact the local Dept. of Social Services, or child services, they might be able to get you with some type of foster family, or assisted living program for teenagers.
Good Luck and god bless.
Comment by Stephen M on 09/09/2010 at 9:00 am
Maybe your mother is getting out to establish a job and residence, and then will bring you guys in. If all is true about your dad, talk to your counselor at school.
Comment by Butch. on 09/09/2010 at 9:45 am
Jen, I can’t understand why you won’t speak to the child welfare, or the child care services people. You at 15 are not experienced enough to handle this predicament by yourself, and you really need professional help. These people you don’t want to talk to are trained to handle situations exactly like this. You admit that your Dad is a heavy drinker, and a drunk most of the time, and now he is using your medications with the booze. Now on top of everything else he is smoking pot and he is abusive too. You need to contact the authorities, or a priest, minister, or a pastor reporting the circumstances as they are, and that you have a fear for your safety and the safety for your sister. Think this over, but don’t wait too long, he is unemployed so the best time for you to speak to anyone is when he is asleep. Please follow through with my suggestion it’s for your safety I am concerned about Good Luck, God Bless.
Comment by Dena T on 09/09/2010 at 10:04 am
Hey sweetheart, sorry it took me so long to read this, been down an out. why in the living hell havn’t u and/or ur mom called the cops on this f’n creep? put his as* out, in jail put a restraining order on him to stay away from u and ur mom!!!! Call the law ur damn self babe. And what the f is ur mom thinkin’ leavin’ u there with that creep? Bless her heart, U need to bring her to reality and let her know , sweetie, she can’t I repeat she can’t leave u there with him. if she does and he starts his crap call the damn cops on his as*. let him sit it out in jail!!
Jen, Honey don’t be afraid to call the law. Call them every time he screws up. They will get tired of his stuff and bury him themselves, u know what I mean. Anyway don’t take no crap, from him. If he looks at u cross eyed call the cops. Just take care of ur self kid. Hey e-mail and we can talk that way if u want.
Be smart, Stay alert,be brave. I’m so sorry u have to go thru all this ur so young.If u wanna talk u can mail. me. Be tough little one!!! as tough as u can u already have been , u just havent realized it. Take care of yourself& keep the faith; speacially in yourself. stay in touch let me know how ur doing.
your friend
Dena