48 comments

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   Comment by howie on 02/13/2011 at 11:47 pm

   il pray

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   Comment by Johnny S. on 02/13/2011 at 11:55 pm

   I wouldn’t want to be around people on drugs.

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   Comment by kylie. on 02/14/2011 at 12:07 am

   there’s really nothing you can do, i’m sorry
   but i’ll definitely pray for your family!

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   Comment by Adam L on 02/14/2011 at 12:15 am

   Easy 10 pts my ssa

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   Comment by Darkenil on 02/14/2011 at 12:16 am

   never leave someone because of his problems , help him instead……drugs are hard but nothing is impossible…….there is a chance that he can get help from you too or rehab and still become a good person as he used to be……..my advice is to help him untill the impossible

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   Comment by SKSleighofHand on 02/14/2011 at 1:03 am

   I feel really sorry for you that you had a terrible childhood. Your father was not a good man and a bad example to you. Personally, I think that you should send him to the mental hospital to get some help.

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   Comment by ptrobrn on 02/14/2011 at 1:41 am

   My father was a drunk and a pot smoker. often forgetting it was his weekend to pick us up. My mom never told me this till after he died. If he doesn’t want to get himself better for you then you shouldn’t have anything to do with him. I didn’t read everythig so I hope your mom isn’t still married to this prick.

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   Comment by Madd Skillz on 02/14/2011 at 2:40 am

   One question?

   Why.the.hell.are.you.taking.him.back?

   He doesnt deserve it, kick him out, and dont let him back until he cleans up.

   You cant go on like this, and you need to put your foot down and stop giving into him.

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   Comment by wolffchild3 on 02/14/2011 at 3:32 am

   Maybe you should go talk to a therapist, or a doctor about your dad’s behavior and find help for him. I am very sorry about your situation.

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    Comment by alexxxxxx on 02/14/2011 at 4:19 am

    no, it’s not yr fault.
    have you talked to your counseler?

    and i know its none of my business, but maybe yr dad should go to rehab.

    i’ll keep you in my prayers

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    Comment by Me! on 02/14/2011 at 5:00 am

    omgsh thats so sad :’(
    Its not your fault AT ALL!
    Find a time when your Dad IS sober and talk to him about what you just said. Show him this Yahoo Answers thing (WHEN HE IS SOBER!)
    hope that helps.

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    Comment by caleb/16 on 02/14/2011 at 5:25 am

    he’s extremely selfish and pathetic, who would steal from their own kid? it’s not your fault that he chose this miserable and probably soon to be short life, he needs to cut the shit and love his family more than pain pills and himself

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    Comment by ? on 02/14/2011 at 5:38 am

    I wish your mom could break away from him completely. He needs to sink or swim on his own, not bring the whole family down with him. Let her know how bad the situation makes you feel. Don’t hide it, as she won’t realize how damaging it is. You’ll miss him, but he won’t pull himself together when the family keeps supporting him, I’m afraid.

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    Comment by DrEAmeR**BEliEveR on 02/14/2011 at 6:00 am

    i dont think u should blame it on u…
    most things that people do are effected by their surroundings

    ((im wiht u on the not even having a childhood part,, i feel like that 2))

    help ur dad if u can (if u love him than u have 2 be willing 2 do wat it takes))

    ~~~wish u that best~~

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    Comment by Lizzy G on 02/14/2011 at 6:50 am

    ok im praying for you thats tough sorry for the situation your in..its not my call for what you do with ur dad and your mom and your self…..happy almost sweet 16……dont think that just because your dad ended up the way he did that you will…..go to college if cant afford get a job and go to a community college…….pray yourslef to:]

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    Comment by jillian23944 on 02/14/2011 at 7:05 am

    omg-i feel soo bad 4 you(ill pray 4 u

    of course its not your fault

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    Comment by Donna Dee on 02/14/2011 at 7:50 am

    He really needs to hit HIS bottom before he can start the long road to being well. Some tough love is required your mum needs to kick him out and not let him come back until he is well. Cruel to be kind so to speak.

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    Comment by Jason M on 02/14/2011 at 8:49 am

    I just said a prayer. Hope it helps.

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    Comment by nupeper on 02/14/2011 at 8:56 am

    tell you’re mom that he scares you and if she wont tell him to get lost then take matters into your own hands… next time he is around you on drugs, and you find his stash, call the police, I hate to say it, but some time in jail might do him some good, it’ll give him a chance to sober up and think about all those he has hurt… good luck hun and I’m sorry you are having to deal with this

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    Comment by Katie Jo on 02/14/2011 at 9:46 am

    I think you should really tell someone, besides family members, so that something can be done about the situation. It’s NOT your fault, you should never think that. Seriously, you had nothing to do with your father O.D.ing, it was all of him, no one made him do that. Don’t blame yourself for the mistakes he is making. Just be thankful that your mom is such a wonderful person, and loves you so much. Keep thinking positivie, and don’t shift the blame onto yourself.

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    Comment by chrissyone on 02/14/2011 at 10:13 am

    There is nothing you can do. Your Mom should not let him back. There is no excuse. You are being emotionally endangered, however you will get over it. Since there is nothing you can do, you cannot worry about it.

    Go to Narc A Non meeting though. Find others like yourself and they will comfort you.

    Either way, you will be OK. You can handle it. It is hard when you are a kid and have no control but live your life and know you will be just fine. I saw a guy at the bus stop friday in a motorized wheel chair with a nice dress shirt on with a nice tie. He had no arms and no legs and yet HE was going to work. I bet he had a great Dad to make it this far in his physical state.

    Maybe before you were born up in heaven God came over to you and said, “Hey, I have a really nice, really good, perfect Dad for you.” And you said, “I’ll be OK, give him to the guy with no arms and no legs, I think he will need him more.”

    Just imagine if the guy with no arms and no legs got your Dad? so you see, everything worked out OK. You will be fine.

    Smile and hold your head high and enjoy your arms and legs.

    We all have problems. This is NOT about you, it is about your Dad. Your Dad has a low self-image and he thinks he does not deserve more or that he is not capable of more or that he does not deserve to be loved. He is making his feelings come true…perpetuating his own reality. Until he realizes he is worth having a better life he cannot change. There is no ‘hitting bottom’, really. Everyone calls the day they quit their ‘bottom’ so really the bottom did not come first, the decision did. The bottom followed the quitting, the quitting came first, not the bottom.

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    Comment by texasborn52 on 02/14/2011 at 10:30 am

    no, it is not your fault… he needs help, and your mom is not helping him by allowing him to stay there

    he needs to check into a drug rehab center, or go to counseling, or both…

    allowing him to stay on your couch is called enabling, and won’t help him in the long run at all

    tell your mom how you feel, and hopefully she will stop letting him stay in your home, so you and your mom can have a more normal life

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    Comment by rjturner22 on 02/14/2011 at 11:27 am

    I hope you find your answer soon. It never came in time for me. I will be praying for you, and for your mother.

    On the bright side, I gained alot of strength from my father, in that I do everything in my power to not be like him. I have learned alot from his mistakes.

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    Comment by sarah on 02/14/2011 at 11:52 am

    no this is not your fault sweetheart. your dad is addicted to narcotics. your mother needs to kick him out until he agrees to go to a n/a meeting. i know your mom must work so hard to take care of you and try to deal with his drama on top of it. my advice to you is to steer clear of him as much as you can. i know he is your dad, but you can not trust him while he is like this. and if he takes the wrong thing he could physically hurt you. if your mom won’t kick him out you need to call the police. what he is doing is illegal and is not safe for you or your mom.

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    Comment by ? on 02/14/2011 at 12:46 pm

    thats so sad, i have no idea wat to say but sweetie its not ur fault dont even think that, ill pray for u tonight

    good luck

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    Comment by Leesiya baby♥ on 02/14/2011 at 1:46 pm

    sweeite, i know it’s hard. =(
    my mother was similar, however, my father divorced her, and now i dont see much of her at all.
    it’s hard to keep away from drugs. rehab, i believe is your best bet to saving him. get him cleaned up, but be there for him every step of the way. if he loves you, he’ll be willing to change. and if he doesn’t want to change, sweetie, he still loves you, but he’s lost.
    it is in no way your fault. some people just don’t know right from wrong, and it sounds like he’s going the wrong way. get a group of family members together to talk to him and get him on track. if he won’t do it, my advice is to get out of the situation, as much as it may hurt. don’t be afraid to let some of your friends in on what is happening, as you may need a shoulder to lean on. and be there for your mother! you are in my prayers. god bless. <3

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    Comment by Brandon W on 02/14/2011 at 2:24 pm

    well first off
    dont ever think that its your fault because its not. some people are just that way and sometimes they never change. maybe you should talk to an adult that can help you deal with and get help for this situation. maybe a school councilor or a drug helpline but if you are scared that he is going to hurt you in any way you should contact authorities and let them deal with this. I am really sorry that you have to go through this at only 15 yrs. old. My prayers will definately be with you tonight

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    Comment by wisemandonovan on 02/14/2011 at 3:08 pm

    I’m sorry to hear this, I’ve actually been through a similar situation. My father was addicted to marijuana. It was horrible, he was always lazy and asking me to get him food. All he did was stayed home and played World of Warcraft all day. Here is a helpful video by a support group on youtube, I suggest you try it.

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    Comment by rennes89 on 02/14/2011 at 3:30 pm

    IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
    this is all him! he has made these awful choices and has made his family suffer for it.
    i am SO sorry for you and only hope you can have the courage to say no to him and not let him back in the house or your lives.. you’ve made a clean break now keep it broke..
    if he tries anything like breaking, call the cops..
    by letting him in ; is aiding and abeting him in his addiction.
    a) you don’t want him hurting you
    b)you don’t want him stealing from you
    c)you don’t want him hurting you
    try finding a place that you can go and talk to someone.. like narcotics anonymus..they can help you by giving you some sound advice
    good luck!

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    Comment by ? on 02/14/2011 at 3:53 pm

    some people think that parents deserve respect just for being parents. WRONG. Just like everyone else, they need to earn the respect. Keep your chin up but don’t expect him to change. It’s a hard reality for your age but you don’t want him to be stealing and taking advantage when you are older and have to worry about credit and debt. Your mother needs to learn the same thing. She won’t be able to take care of you if she’s covering for him.
    Good luck, from the bottom of my heart. I am a mother of two that went through a bad marriage with a drug addict and the children were the ones that suffered.
    Use what you’ve learned to show yourself the kind of person you DON’T want to be. Kids that learn from dis-function have a lot to give others. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Rise above those that try to keep you down!

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    Comment by xx) Isabella (xx on 02/14/2011 at 4:23 pm

    No matter how hard it is for you, you guys have to put your foot down. Kick him out and keep him out. By giving him a roof over his head you don’t realize that you are supporting his habit. If he has to pay for shelter, he won’t have money for drugs. But you also have to support him. Talk to him and try and convince him to get help. If it doesn’t work, give him the consequences. Missing out on your kid’s life is pretty fucked up punishment for both us and our parents. It seems though that parents only realize that after it’s too late. But I gotta warn you from experience. People won’t change unless they want to. Make him want to.

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    Comment by Snake on 02/14/2011 at 4:50 pm

    Why would you think it was your fault what your dad did. I hope you dont get offened by this but your dad is a dumbass for doing that stupid crap. I would suggest placing him in rehab or something. He is going to get you started if your not careful. However, i dont beilive your dumb enough to do that though. I would also suggest tieing him to a chair with steel chains for a week and let him sober up. Slap him a couple times, call him a idiot, ect. I hope you know that I wouldnt stand for that and if I have to ill put him in jail for a bit if you want. It’ll change him real fast. It always works. Im doing criminal justice as my trade so i can ALMOST leagally arrest him.

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    Comment by Brooke D on 02/14/2011 at 4:51 pm

    I feel like ive had to grow up fast too. my dad died when i was 11 and my mom is bi-polar and slept most of my life away. my advice for you is tell your dad you will only visit him if he is sober no more of him on drugs or he loses you and if he doesnt care screw him! I think you should get a part time job and during summer get a fulltime job maybe share rent at an apartment with your mom… he will try his hardest to quit maybe put him in a detox type program. anyways hope you make it through kiddo p.s ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! dont EVER let your parents make you think something is your fault that they did. you dont influence your parents they influence you!

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    Comment by Shinod L on 02/14/2011 at 5:05 pm

    He needs to go to rehab and he’s bringing negative feedback on you and your mom you will be in my prayers

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    Comment by Peacockgirl on 02/14/2011 at 5:38 pm

    oh my goodness. i cant even imagine your childhood. i would hate my dad or mom or both to behave like that. the solution is that your dad needs professional help. he’s brought you guys down with his problems and that’s not fair to you or your mom. check the yellow pages or an internet site for people with drug addictions. or go to a medical clinic to get some pamphlets on the subject. also, to help take a bit of a load of your blessed mom’s back, since you’ll be 16 in a few days, perhaps you could start looking for a part time job somewhere to help pay for bill and groceries and maybe some of your future school fees. good luck and hang in there!

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    Comment by Miss Manda Panda on 02/14/2011 at 5:55 pm

    You guys are in a tough situation, because of your love for your father. Show your father you love by being tough with him. Not only is he in danger by being a drug addict, but you guys are in danger by being around him. Your best bet is to toughen up and either
    A: Send him to rehab.
    B: As painful as it sounds tell him to take a hike.
    Now, I know option B is way easier said then done, but your mother and you aren’t professionals, and you won’t be able to get him off the drugs on your own. If he has been sober on his own without counseling he will NOT be successful. For you and your mothers safety get him to a drug rehabilitation center ASAP. If you don’t have money for that, I’m not sure of any other resources.
    My prayers are with you and your family.

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    Comment by Amanda s on 02/14/2011 at 6:38 pm

    First you got to relax and breath. Yes your dad is a drug addict and he needs to go to a rehab center if he is so sad of what he is doing. First of all, all the people that do drugs no what they are doing they are not stupid they know that they are putting there family through hell the first thing you got to do is try to tell your mom that you need to put him in rehab. Sweetie none of this is your fault as human beings we all have choices and your farther did not pick a very good one for you and your mom and your family. I will pray for you every night. But if things get to bad call the cops sounds horrible but maybe that will wake him up somethings that seem terrifying to you may do good for your dead. Ask god for help everyday. Don’t give up. And i am telling you from the bottom of my heart that never give up on God. God bless you hunnie and there is no need for ten points here you deserve every bit of my advice on what to do in this situation. Need to talk E-Mail me alright.

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    Comment by jessicatucker_93 on 02/14/2011 at 6:41 pm

    I would try talking to him about it. If not, get help for him. This is obviously a problem and needs to stop. Soon. Also, if you want to help your mom out, I would suggest getting a part-time job on the weekends or something. Most fast-food restaurants are hiring. Babysitting is also a good way to earn some cash.

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    Comment by Loyd/Mary P on 02/14/2011 at 7:32 pm

    Is it your fault , No Way is it yours or your moms fault . I applaud your mom for all she is doing to keep the family going and livable . She must be quite a woman . Now as far as what you and your mom need to do . You must find a way to practice tuff Love and the next time he is stoned out of his mind , drunk , or just plain crazy , call the police and have him picked up and put away where he can get help . No matter how you try , you can not help him until he is ready To be helped and that will never happen . Asking for and using prayer is a mighty tool and one that you definitely should use . But you must make him get help and the only way that will happen short of God intervening is to turn him over to the authorities and let them do their job and you must do this before he kills himself , you , or your Mom and he will never know he even did it .

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    Comment by Lisa J on 02/14/2011 at 8:01 pm

    of course it isnt your fault. i will pray for you and your family!!!

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    Comment by horseduke on 02/14/2011 at 8:42 pm

    I would take you dad to a drug clinic as soon as possible. And when you get scared cause he is drunk or high the best thing to do is call the cops. You don not have to tell him but they could then help him. You can also try talking to him. And really tell him how you feel. ay how you feel like you r more than an adult than he is. But do it when he is not drinking. You can also find all the stashes that he hides give them to your mom and at the end of the week show them to your dad. And say about the amout of drugs he uses and how much money he waists. I wish you all the best. And if he tries to pick you up and is drunk be sure to call your mom and tell her wat is going on and to go and get. if he threatens you in anyway go in side the school and wait until you see your mom or guardian. I hope your dad can get medical help…

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    Comment by kenna on 02/14/2011 at 9:01 pm

    its not ur fault! you need to pray for that,and god knows everythings for you!

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    Comment by erin h on 02/14/2011 at 9:54 pm

    It is no way any of your fault. your father has made some wrong decisions in his life and has hurt many people. You are not in control of how he runs his own life. you can only help him make right decisions and help turn his life around. I suggest you not let him back until he makes some commitments to change his life for the better. As long as he is trying to help himself get better and change his relationships with his family, i think you should support him in any way you can. Just remember, this is no one’s fault but his own. Don’t let yourself feel like its because of you. Good Luck and i prayed for the recovery of your father and a better relationship between the both of you and your family.

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    Comment by stevesgirlforever on 02/14/2011 at 10:06 pm

    Honey this is hard to say to a child your age but I am going to say it anyways.

    The reason your dad keeps doing that to you is because you and your mom let him. He needs to be kicked out on his a** and left there. I know it hurts you to see you dad sad when he is out of the house that is pretty normal. But this is what we call tough love. Tough love does what ever it has to do no matter how bad it hurts a person. It is best for you and your mom to live alone without him till he is clean for a long long times…

    I pray for the best for you!!! Oh and no it is not your fault it is his fault…

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    Comment by s.donald11 on 02/14/2011 at 10:14 pm

    no its not your fault! i have been clean for five years and i have missed those years out of my children life. and was a straight ass to their mom. now that i have gotten my life together i have them in my life. their mom has moved on and we still have an ball. your mom needs to move on, he has to hit his bottom by his self to see the true love that he is missing out on.

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    Comment by mafia man on 02/14/2011 at 10:43 pm

    I think u sholud send him to rehab or something!!!!!!
    i feel really sorry for you,coz i know how it feels when u havent had a chance to enjoy your childhood!!!trust me i know!!!!Tell you wat spend as much as time with your mom ..so called “Mom-daughter”activities!!!

    hey your birthday is just around the corner no???wish u a happy birthday and may your dreams come true dear!!!!

    i’ll pray for you!!!!!may God bless you!!!!!!!

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    Comment by ozziesong on 02/14/2011 at 10:55 pm

    Stay strong and never make the same mistakes as your father. Blessings.

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    Comment by frankieroisloveex9 on 02/14/2011 at 11:51 pm

    i would say dont let him back until he gets things straight.
    kids shouldnt be around this kind of thing.
    no one should.
    it isnt your fault at all.
    he has something wrong with him; and he needs to get through it.

    ill pray for your family. good luck with everything.

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