I have a great friend, he is very caring and very loyal – but the problem is that he shares these wonderful qualities with bottles of booze. He can easily go through whole bottles by himself, and has. He is about to turn 21, and he knows he has a problem, but won’t do anything about it???

I’m scared that he’s going to drink himself into an early grave, once he turns 21, because then nothing will stand between him and his liquor. It’s one thing, to get drunk now and then to have a good time, but when you go through whole bottles, and are spending large chunks of your paychecks to replace bottles you’ve taken from family–then it’s out of control.

Im not sure if he would go to AA. I think he really needs a swift kick in the pants, honestly – but if I tell his Dad, I will lose one of my best friends, and he is friends with my bf also! I don’t want it to get to the point where I tell his dad, how can I help him without ratting him out? BF has talked to him man-to-man and nothing works!