Help!My mom is addicted to prescription drugs and is in really bad shape.?
Posted by adminMar 31
The problem is, my Dad refuses to see what is happening before his very eyes. I am afraid she will OD because she’s so messed up.She has been in bed for 3 straight weeks.My Dad is an enabler and will not confront ANYTHING. He’s beat down. My wedding is in four weeks and I angered my Dad by confronting him on this issue. This is aweful, I am just trying to help.Any advise?
3 comments
Comment by happydawg on 03/31/2010 at 6:32 pm
Wow! I think you need to look at her prescription bottles and call the physician who is prescribing all these medications.
Maybe he does not realize she is using so many drugs or maybe she has more than 1 doctor prescribing and they are not all aware of her problem.
Maybe she is terminal and you are not aware of her problem.
It could end up being more than you think.
Sorry I could not offer more. Addiction to narcotics is difficult to overcome.
RN
Comment by Marty G on 03/31/2010 at 7:25 pm
I am a recovering heroin and painkiller addict. Your mom has to hit a bottom before she will get help. And your father (by enabling her) is not allowing her to hit a bottom. I highly recomend to you that you go to Al-anon meetings. There you will find many other people who have been in your shoes. You will not feel alone. You will be able to seek advice from others who have overcome what you are going through. I know that my family startde going to those meetings when I was strung out. It not only helped them, but it also helped me. Tremendiously. Do you have any siblings who feel the same way as you do? If so, maybe you all can attack this problem together. Al-anon will help you. So if you are really serious about this issue, then you will go. Remember. No matter what Dad says to you, he is not really angry at you. His anger stems from fear. Fear of losing his wife (maybe) or fear of being a failure for a husband….ETC. By you approaching him, you are making him look at his fear and this makes him angry. But thats ok, maybe he needs to finally hit a bottom to actually do something about it. Once he has had enough, he will have to either choose to live in misery or address the problem. Seek help through Al-anon, and get yourself the help that you need. Enjoy your wedding. I wish you the best.
Marty
Comment by buchanan.clan on 03/31/2010 at 8:12 pm
Hi, I have a similar problem with a family relative that I am still working through to try to find help for her. I would start by calling her doctor. The HIPPA laws protect the patient so the doctor won’t give you any information but most of them will listen to family member’s concerns, either on the phone or in their office. Her doctor may not have any idea she is in this bad shape. Call him and talk to him – once a family member expresses concern they will prob wean her off. Also you can always just call 911 and get her taken into the ER. They will see what kind of shape she is in and notify her doctor. It’s too bad your dad is in denial and angered by your concern but it might be better to take the chance of upsetting him than if your mom OD’s and you lose her…..