Comments on: Help With Father With A Gambling Addiction? http://www.howdoigetmydadoffdrugs.com/help-with-father-with-a-gambling-addiction/ We can help get your dad off drugs today Sat, 04 Feb 2012 03:22:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Ranger4402 http://www.howdoigetmydadoffdrugs.com/help-with-father-with-a-gambling-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-28516 Ranger4402 Wed, 28 Jul 2010 05:28:18 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmydadoffdrugs.com/help-with-father-with-a-gambling-addiction/#comment-28516 Maybe this link can get you started. http://www.metroactive.com/papers/metro/08.01.96/cover/gambling-9631.html Try googling Vietnamese Volunteer Foundation. If you live in the San Jose area, then this group might be able to get on the path to dealing with this. Maybe this link can get you started.

http://www.metroactive.com/papers/metro/08.01.96/cover/gambling-9631.html

Try googling Vietnamese Volunteer Foundation. If you live in the San Jose area, then this group might be able to get on the path to dealing with this.

]]> By: lessbrain http://www.howdoigetmydadoffdrugs.com/help-with-father-with-a-gambling-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-28515 lessbrain Wed, 28 Jul 2010 05:17:02 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmydadoffdrugs.com/help-with-father-with-a-gambling-addiction/#comment-28515 First of all you can not heal him alone. HE must first realize his compulsive behavior is wrong,and you cant explain it to him because he doesn't understand it. You cant understand why or how he feels because you don't understand it. What you can do is educate yourself about his addiction, by understanding his addiction, then it might put closure to some of your questions. You can seek a GA program near you.It is also for the victims that suffer from a person that has a gamin problem. The help you need is to educate yourself on how to deal with the problems that your father has created, and to understand his addiction, to be able to help him on a road to recovery. A way to help understand is read from other people that are dealing with same problems, read what other compulsive gamblers have to say,and read about what victims have to say. Try learning more about how to deal with compulsive behavior problems, not just gambling. remember, it isn't your fault he is that way,but by educating yourself about addiction, it might not help him, but it will help you deal with the problems he has created. Try to let him talk about the affects of his addiction, maybe start out with asking about his best win,then ask about his biggest loss just to break ice. Find out about his true feelings by letting him talk about it, and then find out how he feels, where he first started, lotto,bingo, sports e.t.c. The main goal is to pay attention and to let him talk . Try to keep your feelings out of it,although very hard, get him to talk about his feelings,his likes and dislikes. When you let him talk don't make comments if you think it is wrong or right main thing is letting him feel he has control, and when he is alone he will think of the things you had talked about and he will be honest with himself , and it will help realize the affects of his problem and what it has done. Maybe then he will be able to talk about your feelings. Your father understands and is hurting very bad for the actions he has done. If you ask him he is going to put up a shield maybe with anger,and wont let you in, which creates more problems. Try to make him talk,let him be honest with you and create a place he can trust to tell you everything without you judging him, by doing that, he just might realize what the true problem is and how he wants to change it to make it better. First of all you can not heal him alone.
HE must first realize his compulsive behavior is wrong,and you cant explain it to him because he doesn’t understand it.
You cant understand why or how he feels because you don’t understand it.
What you can do is educate yourself about his addiction, by understanding his addiction, then it might put closure to some of your questions.
You can seek a GA program near you.It is also for the victims that suffer from a person that has a gamin problem.
The help you need is to educate yourself on how to deal with the problems that your father has created, and to understand his addiction, to be able to help him on a road to recovery.

A way to help understand is read from other people that are dealing with same problems, read what other compulsive gamblers have to say,and read about what victims have to say.

Try learning more about how to deal with compulsive behavior problems, not just gambling.

remember, it isn’t your fault he is that way,but by educating yourself about addiction, it might not help him, but it will help you deal with the problems he has created.

Try to let him talk about the affects of his addiction, maybe start out with asking about his best win,then ask about his biggest loss just to break ice. Find out about his true feelings by letting him talk about it, and then find out how he feels, where he first started, lotto,bingo, sports e.t.c. The main goal is to pay attention and to let him talk .

Try to keep your feelings out of it,although very hard, get him to talk about his feelings,his likes and dislikes. When you let him talk don’t make comments if you think it is wrong or right main thing is letting him feel he has control, and when he is alone he will think of the things you had talked about and he will be honest with himself , and it will help realize the affects of his problem and what it has done. Maybe then he will be able to talk about your feelings.

Your father understands and is hurting very bad for the actions he has done. If you ask him he is going to put up a shield maybe with anger,and wont let you in, which creates more problems. Try to make him talk,let him be honest with you and create a place he can trust to tell you everything without you judging him, by doing that, he just might realize what the true problem is and how he wants to change it to make it better.

]]> By: Megan http://www.howdoigetmydadoffdrugs.com/help-with-father-with-a-gambling-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-28514 Megan Wed, 28 Jul 2010 04:35:09 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmydadoffdrugs.com/help-with-father-with-a-gambling-addiction/#comment-28514 Problem gambling can be cured with the proper treatment which consists of therapy and support groups for compulsive gamblers. There are various types of therapy for gambling addiction such as psychological, cognitive, behavioral and relaxation therapy either singly or in combination. It is very much important that the person concerned accepts the ever growing affection towards gambling and shows a strong wish to stop his activity. that is, therapy is for those smart people who can understand that they require help. And I think your father will never be agreed to take any kind of therapy.So you can take him to join Gamblers Anonymous (GA) – a self-help support group program for compulsive gamblers,as a part of treatment. Gamblers Anonymous International Service Office P.O. Box 17173, Los Angeles, CA 90017 (213) 386-8789 - Fax (213) 386-0030 Problem gambling can be cured with the proper treatment which consists of therapy and support groups for compulsive gamblers.

There are various types of therapy for gambling addiction such as psychological, cognitive, behavioral and relaxation therapy either singly or in combination. It is very much important that the person concerned accepts the ever growing affection towards gambling and shows a strong wish to stop his activity. that is, therapy is for those smart people who can understand that they require help.

And I think your father will never be agreed to take any kind of therapy.So you can take him to join Gamblers Anonymous (GA) – a self-help support group program for compulsive gamblers,as a part of treatment.

Gamblers Anonymous
International Service Office
P.O. Box 17173, Los Angeles, CA 90017
(213) 386-8789 – Fax (213) 386-0030

]]> By: Guardian Angel http://www.howdoigetmydadoffdrugs.com/help-with-father-with-a-gambling-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-28513 Guardian Angel Wed, 28 Jul 2010 04:23:10 +0000 http://www.howdoigetmydadoffdrugs.com/help-with-father-with-a-gambling-addiction/#comment-28513 Type "Gamblers Anonymous" and the name of your town into Google. You should come up with some places that have support groups for your dad. Vietnamese support groups might be tough, but local Church might help. You can't force him to go, but you can tell him how it hurts you to see him with that disease. Let him know you will probably have to have less contact with him as you get older because it hurts you too much to witness his addiction. Type “Gamblers Anonymous” and the name of your town into Google.
You should come up with some places that have support groups for your dad.
Vietnamese support groups might be tough, but local Church might help.
You can’t force him to go, but you can tell him how it hurts you to see him with that disease.
Let him know you will probably have to have less contact with him as you get older because it hurts you too much to witness his addiction.

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