Having problems with my mom?
Posted by adminApr 30
Ok, i’ve been really stressed lately and my mom is not doing anything to improve the situation. Now to start I will say that a few years ago she had congestive heart failure (5 yrs to be more exact) and then she had to go to rehab 2x for alcoholism. That really screwed ME up. Now, she’s been clean for 2 years and shes doing well with that. She’s on oxygen after her heart failure but she only wears it at night or when it’s hot.
ANYWAY. All she does – this is the complete truth – is sit on her bed and sleep. ALL DAY. She’s like a 5 year old. Last time we had a day off for school she slept, got up at some lunch, went back to her room. Now, My dad’s working during the day and my bro and I are up early on and the bus. She is in bed. Then when I get home she complains about how I didnt run the sweeper, clean off the desk after I did my homework or take out the garbage. I do admit that I’ve been slacking but she does nothing and she’s home all day and I go to school and my dad works and she sleeps. Today she flipped out and started stomping around because she didnt have a clean dish cause no one did the dishes. I had to wash my own plate cause I had work to do for school. I had to make my own dinner. I had to get my bro dinner. I JUST CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE. all she does is sleep and 8itch if she doesnt get her way. what do I do? 
5 comments
Comment by Confused on 04/30/2011 at 3:50 am
Talk to her about how you feel and what you are going through….hopefully she’ll change her habits around once she knows the truth about her behavior
Comment by THE BIG HORN GUY FROM LEGEND on 04/30/2011 at 4:49 am
TELL YOU MOM TO GET A JOB YOU HIPPIE UNLESS SHE IS GOING TO SEE ME IN THE Future.
Comment by Paul on 04/30/2011 at 4:52 am
its a tough situatuion dude i mean its ur mom and she has serious health issues as much as you have a problem with the slepping and complaining you gotta remeber that she the one that has the health problem and drinking problems she probably is exhausted all day plus the wait of thae fact she cant help her own family is probably straining her to so i mean its ur mom and your the only one who knows the whole truth but as hard as everything is on yuor its even worse and twice as hard and hurts her twice as much and she snapps all the time its not right but thats one opion
Comment by Ayana Linval on 04/30/2011 at 5:29 am
Your mother has medical problems, just because they’re treated doesn’t mean that there are gone forever. Following up having these med problems, paired with being a recovering alcoholic doesn’t help that. Normal people, even if they’re really lazy won’t sleep all day, your mother may have depression and paired with all the other problems she’s having it could be tearing her apart. At the best of times I’m furious if there is no clean dishes, because it only takes literally five minutes to clean dishes you’ve made from one meal. Being that you’re a teen, I highly doubt that you are making any full coarse meals that would take any longer to clean up after. I don’t really pity your situation with your brother being that you are going to school for free which is a blessing, your dad works and if you are capable of making your own meals you should. Your parents put food in that fridge, that’s all you can ask of them in the situation you’re in. When I was growing up I almost never saw my parents, father worked two jobs starting at 5am, getting back at 11pm-1am depending on the day, my mother worked three jobs, and took distance education. I woke up with my siblings by ourselves, caught the buses by ourselves, along with making our own meals since kindergarden.
You have chores, and it is your obligation to do them, you can’t be angry with your mother for disciplining you for not doing something you know you’re suppose to be doing, busy or not. You’re only in school, talk about being busy when you’re in school, working, and working an apprenticeship, all while paying bills. While you may be frustrated with your mother because hey, I’m not there, and I don’t know how the argument is going, maybe she’s yelling and screaming more than she should be. But the reality maybe that she is frustrated with many things, and those dishes that you knew were suppose to be washed, yours or not but weren’t, were the straw that broke the camel’s back. If you start making time to help your parents, even just a little bit here and there then it will make a world of difference. You also need to stand up for yourself if the punishment doesn’t fit the crime. If you didn’t wash some dishes you deserve a talking to, but it shouldn’t ever be a shouting match. If you don’t agree with her for yelling at you for little things, just calmly (without sass) that her reaction isn’t reasonable for the situation, you’d be surprised with how well that works, maybe not at first, but boy does it ever sink in.
Try to think about how everything has effected your mother, things may have messed you up, but think about how that has effected her, and your father. They need all the help they can get, and if you are capable of helping, you should do it, and do it without being asked.
Comment by DaytonHawk on 04/30/2011 at 5:54 am
OK, so your mother has a serious medical condition and your biggest concern is why she isn’t making you dinner?
Perhaps you need to grow up.