Hey I want to know if my dad has BPD because it really seems like it.
Basically here’s a list of the symptoms (S) of BPD and next to them examples (E) of my dad that follow the symptoms:

S: Intense spouts of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last only hours, or at most a day.
E: When playing a video game, if he loses/died or whatever, he yells at the top of his lungs and yells all of the cuss words in the dictionary, the same goes on during his work. Once, when my friend was right next to me in my front room, my dad yelled out as loud as he can how there is nothing more worthless than me, and later in the day act overly depressed about what he said, this kind of thing happens a lot, he didn’t even say why I am worthless. Sometimes, with no explanation (perhaps the result of thoughts in his head), he will yell at me or cry or just show a ton of sadness about how I pretend to be someone to impress others or how I am too mean, and other moments say how I am one of the nicest people he’s ever known and he will brag about my skills even if no one else is there. Sometimes he will pace intensely around the house cussing because he thinks something bad will happen even if it most likely won’t.

S: Episodes of impulsive aggression, self-injury, and drug or alcohol abuse.
E: He’s been a drug (cocaine) and alcohol addict since college, it (and his personality) in fact lead to his recent divorce. Once (ON CHRISTMAS) when my mom came to visit he wanted her to play a video game with the family and she said no, so he ran to his room and ate a full bottle of pills and the paramedics came and took him away for a few days, there were no presents that Cristmas. I’ve explained the impulsive aggression already.

S: Distortions in cognition and sense of self can lead to frequent changes in long-term goals, career plans, jobs, friendships, gender identity, and values.
E: He doesn’t care about himself really at all. He never cleans or acts normally, the house is a freaking dump. I helped a woman clean her house because she had a brain problem that prevented her from cleaning and it was only slightly worse than my house. He will claim that he will clean his room, but even if he does it only takes a day for it to get dirty again and he keeps it that way for months. He blames the house’s condition on me, my brother has always had it easy with my dad due to his autism.

S: Sometimes people with BPD view themselves as fundamentally bad, or unworthy.
E: He always complains about how worthless he is, and how bad he is. He always tells me he hopes that I don’t end up like him (except job wise, he works at home and makes over 100k a year in his bedroom).

S: They may feel unfairly misunderstood or mistreated, bored, empty, and have little idea who they are.
E: Sometimes he is the wise laborious Christian who knows everything about morales and god and other times he is the acoholic ass hole locked in his room all day crying loudly for some unknown reason. Once he got angry at me because I didn’t snap back at him for yelling about how mean I am, so he yanks out all of the cables of my computer yelling and cussing, and since I didn’t react at all he started crying and sobbing on my bed and telling me I act weird.

S: feeling isolated and lacking in social support, and may result in frantic efforts to avoid being alone.
E: I’m not sure about this one, but he does make threats about me leaving him. Like he will start drinking and do bad things if he is abandoned. It’s his falt mom left him, who would want to live with this guy. I have a hard enough time. I, and my wonderfully autistic brother, have had to deal with him for almost 18 years now. He USED to make suicide threats if we left him. He frequently yells at me about how no one cares about him.