My friend did cocaine in the pew once. He put his head down to sniff it. The father looked at him weird after he picked his head back up.

This whole thing got blown way the f*ck out of proportion. I’m 18, a high school graduate, and i admit i party a little like any teenager. But i almost never get drunk, and my parents rule is, if i get caught by the cops that’s my a**.
I was hanging with my friend who’s 20, and she comes from a bad home, and her and her 17 year old cousin were going to get a hotel for the night that she and her boyfriend paid for. We all went there and hung out. Then another one of her friends came and brought some beer and vodka. I drank some but i was no more then buzzing. We were just laughing having a good time. As a joke, me and her cousin snorted powdered coffee creamer like it was cocaine for a laugh cause it smelled good. But when we left the apartment. She was getting concerned about us for some reason. So she called his dad, and all she said was we were snorting something and something about a cannaster. He and i went to his house (which is her house) thinking we were just gonna hang and drink more their cause his dad doesn’t give a sh*t. But he came home drunk with his girlfriend saying he’s mad at him that he did whippets. He and i hung outside, and his girlfriend came out totally sober. I explained everything, and she totally understood it at that point and saw nothing wrong. But when i tried to explain to his dad, he just said “I should kick you f*cking ass!” then he shoved my friends cousin saying he should f*ck him up saying, “you guys are f*cking snorting sh*t, doing that sh*t!” i ran out of the house, and i told him to erase my number and to not give my name.
i explained this to my mom, cause she knows i drink, i smoke pot for 5 medicinal purposes, and she says i did nothing wrong. but im worried his dad might find my number, call the cops, and i might get framed under the impression i got him to snort cocaine, and we were drinking. and i just got a job at subway, and dont want to lose my job over some bullsh*t thing that never happened. and im pissed that my friend (the girl) told his dad cause i got dragged into it. what should i do cause im heated, and ready for the cops to show up and f*cking tell them his drunk ass verbally assulted me. but i dont want to lose my friendship with her cause she didn’t mean for me to get dragged into it. please help.

My niece and nephew have been neglected and I have them in my custody. My nephew needs emergency dental care and my niece has scoliosis-orthopedic. The mother, my sister will NOT give me their SS #’s so that I can get them medical. Im frustrated and need help. Im not getting any fianancial aide for them and will be fine in a few weeks financially but still she doesn’t want to cooperate. This is the same sister that has a drug addiction.The father just left out of state with girlfriend and didn’t supply me with nothing but Power of Attorney. I need to have Legal Documents stating I have custody in order for SS dept to release them. What can I do?

My daughter’s father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on ‘good terms’ and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don’t have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won’t say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

I recently found a small amber vial (about 1″ tall and 1/2″ in diameter) in my dad’s pocket as I was doing laundry. I know my dad has had drug issues in the past but I’ve always thought they were long in his past. I was curious as to what could have been in the bottle so I opened it and it was completely empty other than there was a white caked residue around the top were the lid was on and inside the neck of the vial. I figured whatever the substance was just had gotten wet from the wash and formed around the lid. I have heard that cocaine will numb your tongue if you tasted it. So I put a bit on my tongue – no numb feeling, but it just felt cool like menthol and was tasteless. I am suspicious that cocaine was possibly in the bottle but I do not know what cocaine is typically stored in. Do you think the vial is drug related?

We are located in Wa state. The dad of my niece has been a herion addict for over 10 years now, and newly married, now my sister is too. My niece is only a baby, and we need to get her from them! Cps doesnt care until something horrible happens, the counselor my brother-in law was seeing, we just found out wasnt U’A ing him, when he supposed to be doing so. The docs know there addicts but have done nothing about my niece being in their care.My sister is addicted to medicine that makes you sleep all the time..which is very worriesome to us.

Where would we start the process to take her away at least temp custody and go from there?

I have been through many detox and substance abuse programs. My father was the southeasts largest supplier of cocaine in the 80`s and 90`s. I had him arrested thinking that if I could take away the ease of access I could take away my addiction. I only made my addiction more expensive as now I have to pay for the cocaine that I use. I have cut way back (from 1/2 ounce daily in 1990 to several grams a year). The problem is when I get started I can`t stop until I have no more money. THis causes a strain on my marriage (to my fourth wife) as I do not come home until I`m broke and hurting.
Please someone give me some advice, if you have ever seen the movie where johnny depp plays the drug kingpin, this was my life in the 80`s and 90`s, but not as the kingpin, but the son caught up in the game. We had police paid off, planes running dope from Mexico to USA. I saw corruption, racketeering, money laundering, even murder of DEA officials and witnesses for the state. This left me scarred foreve

My dads side has a history of alcohol abuse, they say it’s genetic….. because my father had that addiction …does it make me more vulnerable to ANY type of mood altering substance? or JUST alcohol.

Of course social factors etc have to do with substance abuse too and it’s not purely genetics.
Before someone says this q is in the wrong section, I asked it in health and no one answered. AND you p and sers are very wise and helpful
I have a very addictive personality, but I guess because I’m aware of it I know that I have to be careful. I’ve never tried any hard drugs because i’m scared i’ll get addicted
Rachaels congrats on giving up and good luck!!! and your answer is a perfect example
Scorpio woman, i’m glad your child is with you, but what I think is because of the addictive gene, when he’s old enough to drink – he may get addicted. Around you he most probably won’t drink under age – but when he is of legal age he may have a problem. I really really hope not. Thank you for taking him away from the drinking though

My children’s father has had very little contact with them in the last 5 years since our divorce. The first year I tried really hard to keep him included in their lives, I even went as far as buying him a prepaid cell to call the kids on. (his excuse was he did not have a phone) He never called them, I would even invite him to come to holidays and stay over just to be with them longer and he would not show up. After the year of watching my children be disappointed time after time I finally decided he was a grown man and let him make the intuitive to see them. Years have now went by and the only times they hear from him is when is in jail. Then we start getting the collect calls (which by phone is now blocked) and the I’m so sorry and poor me letters. They often include promises of seeing them when he gets out and so far that has never happened. He gets out and hangs with his buddies and ends up back in jail and the letters start all over again. He never asks “how are the kids doing” Our oldest is in his first year in college and is a great kid, athletic scholarship and our youngest is 10 and just a doll. Today I received a letter and, of couse, it was all about how sorry he is, and how he is going to change. Nothing about how are the kids. He has never been their for them emotionally or financially( I have worked 3 jobs to raise these kids, and have done just fine without him) I am remarried now to a great man who provides not only for our child, but for my two from my other marraige and he wants to adopt my daughter, but how should I go about this? Should I write her Father a letter and ask him to give up his rights? ( I think he will put up a fight) Or go to court and try to get his rights terminanted. I really wonder if I would have a problem, with him on 4 meth charges now. Would a judge look at his past with drugs and not supporting his children? I always hear this is hard to do? My 18 year old wants nothing to do with him and is willing to talk to tell what he has expirenced with his Dad. Help

Hey I want to know if my dad has BPD because it really seems like it.
Basically here’s a list of the symptoms (S) of BPD and next to them examples (E) of my dad that follow the symptoms:

S: Intense spouts of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last only hours, or at most a day.
E: When playing a video game, if he loses/died or whatever, he yells at the top of his lungs and yells all of the cuss words in the dictionary, the same goes on during his work. Once, when my friend was right next to me in my front room, my dad yelled out as loud as he can how there is nothing more worthless than me, and later in the day act overly depressed about what he said, this kind of thing happens a lot, he didn’t even say why I am worthless. Sometimes, with no explanation (perhaps the result of thoughts in his head), he will yell at me or cry or just show a ton of sadness about how I pretend to be someone to impress others or how I am too mean, and other moments say how I am one of the nicest people he’s ever known and he will brag about my skills even if no one else is there. Sometimes he will pace intensely around the house cussing because he thinks something bad will happen even if it most likely won’t.

S: Episodes of impulsive aggression, self-injury, and drug or alcohol abuse.
E: He’s been a drug (cocaine) and alcohol addict since college, it (and his personality) in fact lead to his recent divorce. Once (ON CHRISTMAS) when my mom came to visit he wanted her to play a video game with the family and she said no, so he ran to his room and ate a full bottle of pills and the paramedics came and took him away for a few days, there were no presents that Cristmas. I’ve explained the impulsive aggression already.

S: Distortions in cognition and sense of self can lead to frequent changes in long-term goals, career plans, jobs, friendships, gender identity, and values.
E: He doesn’t care about himself really at all. He never cleans or acts normally, the house is a freaking dump. I helped a woman clean her house because she had a brain problem that prevented her from cleaning and it was only slightly worse than my house. He will claim that he will clean his room, but even if he does it only takes a day for it to get dirty again and he keeps it that way for months. He blames the house’s condition on me, my brother has always had it easy with my dad due to his autism.

S: Sometimes people with BPD view themselves as fundamentally bad, or unworthy.
E: He always complains about how worthless he is, and how bad he is. He always tells me he hopes that I don’t end up like him (except job wise, he works at home and makes over 100k a year in his bedroom).

S: They may feel unfairly misunderstood or mistreated, bored, empty, and have little idea who they are.
E: Sometimes he is the wise laborious Christian who knows everything about morales and god and other times he is the acoholic ass hole locked in his room all day crying loudly for some unknown reason. Once he got angry at me because I didn’t snap back at him for yelling about how mean I am, so he yanks out all of the cables of my computer yelling and cussing, and since I didn’t react at all he started crying and sobbing on my bed and telling me I act weird.

S: feeling isolated and lacking in social support, and may result in frantic efforts to avoid being alone.
E: I’m not sure about this one, but he does make threats about me leaving him. Like he will start drinking and do bad things if he is abandoned. It’s his falt mom left him, who would want to live with this guy. I have a hard enough time. I, and my wonderfully autistic brother, have had to deal with him for almost 18 years now. He USED to make suicide threats if we left him. He frequently yells at me about how no one cares about him.

Two drug dealing parents leave their children unattended and the children find a bag of cocaine and started eating it. WOW! The father denies that the drugs where his an the mother is claiming insanity. If you where the judge what would you do?

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Well first, he started hangng around the guys at the store, then, he just stopped liking women all together… idk what to do, i want him to be a good father but he can’t do that if all he wants to bang is other sexes that are of his own!!!

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

This is not my child, I am trying to find some answers to help a single father. His daughter is 16 years old, she is sexually active with a least one partner maybe more, may have previously terminated a pregnancy, has been experimenting with hard drugs (cocaine) and has always performed fair to poor in school. She has never been aggressive or violent, just very sneaky. The state that we live in does not have a lot of resources for this kind of thing. I don’t know what advice to give.

I know someone who is hooked on the pill vicodin and she has been for over 3 years but it got way worse when her father dies. She knows she needs to get off them but when she tries she hurts so bad. She spends so much on them that she late on her rent and can not help herself. If she can not find them on the street she will go to the hospital to get them. I dont know what to do for her. Can you please help. She can not afford rehab or she would be there.

I’m 5 months pregnant. My Baby’s father is in jail once again. Its only his second time but its been less than a month. I bailed him out the first time and told him what he could and couldn’t do. His friends are druggies and I told him to stay away from them. He didn’t do so and got caught with a meth pipe. That same day he was supposed to take me to the doctor and never showed up. I’m really sick of him and I’m considering keeping him away from the baby. I still want to do the child support thing though but I need information on supervised visitations and all that. I’m not sure if I have to give the baby his last name or how he would be able to sign the birth certificate while he’s in jail. Please help. Thanks.
More info for some of you:

He is 20.

No, I’ve never been on any illegal substances.

I don’t know if/when he’ll get out.

I am freaking pathetic. I have 100,000 posts on a message board and I act like girl. I think I have a disease. I don’t have a job, I live with my parents and my dad thinks I’m gay. I also have the same dream quite often. I dream that I’m swimming in a pool dicks. What should I do?

Did the Rolling Stones guitarist really do this?

Here is a segment from wikipedia’s article on Keith Richards:

“When Beaumont asked him to complete the sentence “The worst time on drugs I’ve had is…” to which Richards responded by relating an anecdote about once having his drugs spiked with strychnine before admitting that the strangest thing he ever snorted was
“ My father. I snorted my father. He was cremated and I couldn’t resist grinding him up with a little bit of blow. My dad wouldn’t have cared, he didn’t give a shit. It went down pretty well, and I’m still alive.[12] ”

Afterwards, Richards’ manager pointed out that the statement was untrue and was “said in jest”.[13] However, on August 6, 2007, Richards confirmed in another interview with NME that he had, in fact, snorted his father’s ashes–with no cocaine mixed in.[14] Beaumont confessed to the BBC Radio 4 Today programme[1] that he believed Richards had been speaking truthfully, adding that “He did seem to be quite honest about it. There were too many details for him to be making it up.”

Musician Ozzy Osbourne made the following comment in Guitar World magazine in reference to Richard’s snorting his father’s ashes: “I was knocked out when Keith Richards came out and said he snorted his father. I thought, Well, somebody’s gotta do something insane while I’m taking a break, you know? Thank God he was joking. I’ve already snorted a line of ants. I don’t need to try to top that!

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youngest child, only daughter, two older brothers and never once could I get my oldest brother to accept me. Seems I could never get my father to believe in me. I am 46 years old caught in a time warp.

I broke up with my boyfriend because I found out that he was addicted to crystal meth. Then I found out that I was pregnant. I never told him because I don’t want a father like that in my baby’s life. Did I do the right thing or does he have a right to know?

my dad is never here at the house, and in november he was smoking crack and snorting cocaine, and he says he quit but i think hes doing it again and my mom cries all the time case he is friends with like 20 yr old girls who ask him to divorce my mom and date them, and right now he left me my mom and my little sister alone, i think hes out doing crack or something he dosent care about me at all, all he cares about is his friends & his popularity, he only comes home for dinner then he goes straight out the door. and my mom cant move case were too poor.we cant kick my dad out case his name is on the morgage help?