I went to my school’s financial aid office today and they told me that I would most likely not qualify for any stafford loans since they are need based and my dad makes too much for me to receive financial aid. The counselor also said that I could apply for the unsubsidized loans, but that if i did I’d probably have to get my dad to take out a plus loan. Problem is, he has really bad credit and debt twice his annual income.. so I doubt he would qualify for any loan. Is there any way I can get an unsubsidized loan without having my dad cosign or taking out a plus loan for me?

my aunt (dads sister) just told me that my dad is a pillhead and an alcoholic. im 14 and have been lied to by my mom who is in denial about my dads addiction. he is not abusive but he gets really adgitated easily and is tired ALL the time and itches constantly. he had surgery on his elbow for tendinitus and appearently is addicted. im so scared and i dont know how to cope with this. someone please help me

I know the dad is addicted to coffee, and that they regularly poke fun at the life of a working from home father. if you have a copy of the oregonian laying around it’s second page of the comics, left side of the page about 2/3rds the way up the page (I think- keep in mind, no guarantees). Just a name of the comic would be great please!

I went to my school’s financial aid office today and they told me that I would most likely not qualify for any stafford loans since they are need based and my dad makes too much for me to receive financial aid. The counselor also said that I could apply for the unsubsidized loans, but that if i did I’d probably have to get my dad to take out a plus loan. Problem is, he has really bad credit and debt twice his annual income.. so I doubt he would qualify for any loan. Is there any way I can get an unsubsidized loan without having my dad cosign or taking out a plus loan for me?

We’ll, I always see my mum and dad smoke about 3 cigarettes a day and I always worry about them because my mum has asthma like me and my dad is just addicted to it!
I really get scared because a lot of people die over this and i’m very worried if it happens to my mum and dad… Plus i ALWAYS tell them to stop and once I did hide cigarettes and my dad got angry at me and started swearing at me So i HAD to give them back… What should i because i can’t hide them..?

Are there groups for that? He needs help.

I want to shave my facial. I have some hair on my upper lip and around my chin, and I don’t like it. You can’t really notice it unless you look really closely. I also want to shave it cause my mom and aunt keep on saying I’m getting a moustache and its annoys me when they say it, and I want to look nice for my first day at high school. My dad and I have already had “the talk,” but I’m a bit embarassed to ask him. Does anyone have any ideas?

Well I’m fixing to be a mom for the first time and I am looking back at my life right now at all the bad decision I have made being a teenager and it made me wonder if I’m really alone here. I think back at all the horrible things I’ve done and hope my child doesnt follow in my foot steps….. I want to know some of your secrets and see if I really was as bad of a kid as I think I was or if I was relatively normal

Please put your age when you did this and a brief description if you’d like

First time getting drunk:
14 years old at the creek w/ friends…then tried to eat a bunch of bread to sober up so I could go home!

First time smoking a cigarette:
14 years old w/ same friends I first got drunk with… smoked a pack a day steady since I was 16

First time “made out” with someone:
14 years old w/ my first boyfriend Anthony

First time doing anything sexual but not sex:
14 I think

First time for sex:
15 years old w/ my ex who I was crazy about

First time doing drugs:
14 years old experiemented with pot and huffed canned air if that counts

What kind of drugs have you done:
I was always too scared to try really “hard” drugs like meth or coke or heroine…just weed and at age 18 I was addicted to oxycontin, percoset, and lortab for 3 years up until I found out I was pregnant and got the help I needed

Have you ever been arrested?:
Nope!

First fight:
Never been in a fight

Ever shoplifted?:
Yes I used to spend all my money on pills so we would shoplift at walmart all the time

Ever stole from parents?:
I used to steal quarters from a HUGE bag of my dads and take the money to coinstar

Ever had sex for money or drugs?:
NO

Ever cheated on a partner?:
Yes many times and realized it was not the way I wanted live my life….i still regret it daily

Ever had an abortion:
Nope
Thank you everyone for being honest and sharing all your secrets. And I will say I am not a slut or druggie whore…i made alot of bad choices but I’ve got my life together nown and I’m happy.
I’m sober and have been with my boyfriend for 5.5 years and we are expecting our first child this was just for fun not to be jerks to people good grief

I am ready to start cutting down, it helps me eat so I can take my depression medication.
Any tips on how to quit? I’ve been feeling sorry for myself for 6 years and would like to make him proud of me again.
Only serious answers please… @—+———-
I lost custody due to depression, then lost hope and couldn’t eat so started dope, now I got no hope that my son’ll think I’m dope.
I wanna be clean before he hits 17, you know what I mean?

He’s been smoking 2 packs a day for 20 years. And he never smokes outside. He ALWAYS smokes in the house.
And my mom defends him. She likes it. Once I tried throwing 50 packs of cigarettes away (he gets them cheap if he buys in bulk o_0)
and my mom slapped me.

My friends said that my clothes smell like cigarettes (they once had to carry some for me, long story) and my breath sometimes smell like smoke.

But my mom LOVES it. I always tell him to quit, but he’s like, no. He says he doesn’t care if he dies early. Btw, his dad got him into smoking.
He’s been smoking ever since I was a baby and nobody in my family cares.

And now even my friends don’t wanna come over (no one does) cuz it’s infested with cigarette smell (I don’t blame them)

HELP I NEED SEVERE HELP:(
Also, we’re not poor. We live in a $300,000 house.
One of my best friends isn’t even allowed to come over because of my dad.

Somehow her mom found out from one of her friend’s son 0_o
I live in the US. Duh
And I’m NOT going to prosecute my parents. That’s just dumb. It’s dumb to turn your own family in.
Please don’t give me stupid advice.

My friend has less than 6 months to live and has to get the operation done as soon as possible but doesn’t have the money. He isn’t telling his dad because he is afraid that his dad might have a heart attack if he knows. His dad loves him a lot.

If I tell my friend’s dad about his brain tumor, his dad may get a heart attack and it will be my fault.

Or I can avoid telling my friend’s dad and let my friend die because his dad may be the only one who can arrange for the money for the operation.
What should I do?

My dad is 53, and he has only told me he has Cancer.

It is in his lungs, and he has told me that it has spread all through his body. He wants no treatment.
He gets too emotional to talk about it and I can’t get exact answers from him.

He has become depressed and has started to abuse alcohol a lot. These actions along with mixing his Oxycontin Morphine makes him someone I no longer recognize during parts of the day.

I can’t tell if it has moved to his brain, or if it is he drug/drinking combo.
He is in a lot of pain, and sleeps alot. He calls me in the middle of the night,and asks me if it is day or night. He is confused sometimes, but other times is normal. He lives alone, and I am an hour away.
I am in my 20’s and the only one who knows.
I do not know what do to.

What should I be prepared for in the emd stages? How can I tell if it is near, and when I should be with him all the time (he is proud and stubborn).

I will appreciate any answers. I am in Canada, and treatments are not an option to him.

Thank you,
bb.

what can i do to help him ?

he is seriously on it all the time … on it right now even
arghh he almost killed me when i wouldnt get off the computer earlier
my dad is evil, and he loves facebook because he has found a new way to be mean to people !
HEY MY DAD IS NOT A CREEPY OLD MAN !!
ahaaa

A little background…My step-dad is an awful person. Thats not a matter of opinion, but actual fact. He is a child molester, and he molested by younger brother, he beat my mom, raped her, stole, and uses crack cocaine, and shoots oxycontin. He is also addicted to alcohol, and consequently he has lost his DL forever. A while back, my mom left him. But now decided they should get back together. But dont get me started on that. Heres the question…He lives in Denver, I live in Houston, with my mom. And now that they’re getting back together, she has invited him to come stay in our home, where she is the lease holder, and stay until they move back this weekend. If there was a fight…say between my Husband and this “Man”, with him being in OUR house, what could happen to my husband. Hes just about hell bent over the mere fact that he will be here for almost a week. And he has a bad temper, so im already worried…please anyone who knows anything about this…respond.

so my dad is…well i cant say addicted cuzz hes not….but he watches porn and hes 42 and i think thts wen men get into their depsarate perverted yrs wen they get into their forties.so anywayz he closes tha door or he even sometimes while wr sleeping watches porn all nite wen wr all upstairs sleeping and him nd tha computer is all alone and its sick!! nd then we have two plasma tv’s so wen my moms upstairs busy cooking something or studiyng for collage we go downstairs to watch tv or wenever my mom is watching tv me nd my little brother head downstairs to watch tv but wen we get downstairs nd my dad sees wr bout to watch tv for a while her gets all scared nd tells us to leave!my mom duznt even know but shes real suspicous of him n y he stays on tha computer for so long. I cant even bear looking at him! how do i stopp him? nnd plz nobodyy tell me to talk to hiim about it or my mom or anybodyy. just wat do i do myself. nnd wat goin on with him? 10 points to tha best answer! thnks a lot!

Many of you ask yourself immediately– what is “pill-matic”. The truth is that it’s not an actual word but it’s a little phrase that was coined by Travis McCoy the lead singer of the group “The Gym Class Heroes”. The term is used to describe a person that enjoys pills or rather has become addicted. In my case- the person is my girlfriend and she is in denial. She doesn’t believe she is addicted to pills but she most definitely is and it’s hard for me to watch.

I’m not going to write you a ten page letter, give you her history, and then ask what I should do. Instead, I’m going to tell you a few little things and ask some questions.

1. She is addicted to Oxycontin. Can anyone tell me from experience of the drug is like. Can you tell me why it’s so addictive? Can you compare it to something on it’s addictive level? Is it really that hard to come off of?

2. I always see my girlfriend taking the pills and sucking them. She then wipes the color coded part of the medication off onto her shirt. She has green and orange coloring all over her shirt by the end of the day.

3. I once walked in while she was shooting a pill into her arm and was passed out. The needle was hanging halfway out. She also had a box of aluminum foil- what could she have been doing?

4. She snorts them too! Can this hurt her?

5. I’ve heard that she goes to a place called “The Methadone Clinic” and begs people to hook her up with drugs that they get inside. What is this place? Why do they give away free drugs? She wants to join the clinic and says she will go when she has no pills.

6. This is painful. One time I walked in on her sucking a very large, buff African-American mans dick. I was shocked and started toward them. He pulled a gun on me and told me to sit down on the couch. I had to sit there for fifteen minutes with a gun pointed at me and watch my girlfriend give oral sex to a man that wasn’t me. When he finished he ejaculated on her face, pulled out a medicine bottle- and gave it to her and left. Of course, it turned out too be 280 oxycontins and 120 Xanax’s. We got in a big argument and she swore it was a life or death situation. I think she did it and he got caught and made it one but she was doing it for pills.

7. A friend told me she goes to the methadone place on the weekend and offers guys blowjobs and handjobs for medication now.

8. She sold my mothers wedding ring and high school ring (she’s dead) my fathers (wedding band and two rolex’s- he’s dead) and she sold my xbox 360, $1200 guitar signed by the RHCP- and she sold it for 300 to some guy I can’t find, my PS3, my high school ring, and all the jewelry my mom and dad left me (including the ring I told her I was giving her.)

But she says she has stopped. I haven’t caught her doing anything but I noticed last week that 50 dollars disappeared out of my wallet and today another 30. I believe she really does love me. I love her too so much I don’t know what to do without her. But can you imagine watching her suck another mans dick in front of you? (Sorry for the language). Can you explain to me what I should do? Should I take her to the clinic she wants to go too? She can get her pills there for cheaper. I’m so full of pain that suicide is a question for me constantly.

Imagine the one person you finally met. You loved with all your heart- it made your heart just jump in and out of your chest with puppy dog love- the one you care for and the only one doing this!!

PLEASE HELP

Shelton Suicide.

We’ve tried 12-step programs but she says they don’t do nothing for “the withdrawals”. She says she loves me and she only love me but the pills are the devil and they have grabbed her. She swears she never meant to hurt me and it kills her but she can’t get over the pills.
Guys–

Many of you just say that I’m “crazy” and that I should straight up leave her. I realize that she’s done some sexual things that I will never forget and what she did to my parent’s items I will never forgive.

It’s just that you don’t know how great she used to be. We’ve been together for five years and she just started this a year ago.

I remember when she bought me a car. We used to go out and eat- she played me her guitar and wrote a song for me. We went dancing and sat together on the mountains looking out at the moon. All the beautiful things she said. Trust me, she’s the most beautiful compassionate person inside and I just want her back damn it. It’s killing me knowing she’s gone.

I want her back but the image of her sucking that guy off is stuck in my head everytime I think of her. I love her but how could she hurt me so bad… you guys will never know my pain. My mom and dad died in a car wreck, a year ago… right after they die gf because an addict… im all alone.

yeah sure I play them alot but unlike most gameaholics I know when i’m hungry so Ieat. Iknow when I’m Sleepy so i save the game and turn it off and go to bed and i shower when i need to shower and i really only play on my days off and some other times when i don’t have to go to work untill later in the day where as the true gameaholics hardly eat when they play, stay up late drinking energy drinks to stay awake to play through the night and take nodoze to stay awake during the day and dont shower regularly when they are playing games so tell me what you think do you also think i am addicted to video game. Be as brutaly honest as you can

I’m a young guy (30) and I’ve been taking pain meds for the last couple years for severe chronic back/nerve pain. I had trouble urinating when I was taking Oxycontin/oxycodone but when I switched it went away. Now I take Opana and have been on about the same dose for a year, but I have had to get up at night to pee about 3 times a week. I dont know if its related to the meds (i assume so since urinary retention is a side effect, and opiates have done this to me in the past) but should I get looked at, or more aptly (and uncomfortably) looked ‘in?’

no history of prostate cancer in the family. dad had a tumor in his leg removed about 10 years ago. i got his blood transfused after a back surgery, he found the cancer a year later, but ive never had anything suspicious related to cancer. i have had a gangleon cyst, and cysts run in the family-not sure if that could have anything to do with peeing at night.

thanks for any ideas.

he drives camping trailers cross country and eats only one maybe twice a day he’s to lazy to make sandwiches to eat and i don’t think he knows what healthy snacks are. every time i try to tell him things he can do he just says oh ya and does nothing the doc told him hes border line diabetic and he still does not try. I am diabetic myself so i know it sucks to not be able to eat everything u want but i nether deprive myself. can some one please give me some advise on how to help my dad lose some weight and eat better and get his bp down.