My dad’s side of the family has a huge problem with addiction (especially alcohol and smoking). My dad got over his addictions. My mom keeps on telling my brother and I that if we have just one drink (I am assumimg a full drink) we will get addicted too. Is this proven scientifically, or is my mom just trying to scare us? Please state sources. Thanks!

I have a situation with my children. Their real Father has been out of their lives since our divorce 6 years ago. He has not helped support them emotionally or physically. I have worked 3 jobs, have not received any help and am now putting our oldest through college with the help of athletic scholorships… Heres the problem..Their Dad has had a severe Drug problem and is now looking at 30 years in prison and has been in jail and has started writing letters to the kids ( this has been the only time they have heard from him ) He always says “how much he misses them, thinks about them, and how he needs them in his life” It really upsets me that he has that kind of nerve…Where has he been when they needed him? Now, he is trying to get his family, which has also not had any contact with our children, to try and see them to get info and pictures for him.. We had a visit lastnight from his oldest son( from a previous marraige) come to my house to see my daughter, if she had not been in the living room I would have told him she was asleep. He visited and then asked if he could take a picture of her with the camera he had in his jacket. I blew off the question and he left without one! What should I do? I do not these kind of people in my childrens lives, no matter if they are related to them. My ex-mother in law has been trying to get ahold of our 18 year old in college and that worries me too. My 18 year old has a huge heart and I know they will just hurt him in the long run. She is the queen of deniel and guilt. She still feels her son has done nothing wrong, and blames everyone else. How do I talk to my 18 year old and should I try to keep them away? I do not want these kind in their lives, I do not think it is a healthy realationship. They do have a step-father and he gets very upset, and does not understand how this affects them. Help
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He is going to prison for 4 manufacturing of meth charges
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The first year after our divorce I tried to encourage the realationship…Then it went to telling him to either get in their lives or walk away, he choose to walk away..
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History on dad: drinks about 15 cocktails a day, does cocaine, smokes weed & cigs, gambles. He wasn’t invovled in anyway when I was growing up. He never paid child support and would take off for weeks at a time.

We started having a solid relationship about 10 years ago, I recently lost my job and he let me move in with him while I look for a new one, but he lately he is starting to drop hints about having to help support me. What?? He didn’t help out at all when I was growing up, he can’t spend a little money to help me out?

(My mother is very sick, I can’t live with her- My friends are away a college, so I can’t live with them, strangers aren’t for me)

If I buy food for myself take it home to eat, he ALWAYS asks where his food is at, like he expects it. But when he buys food he ONLY buys it for himself? If you ask him if he got you anything he gets an additude?

PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND?

I have a situation with my children. Their real Father has been out of their lives since our divorce 6 years ago. He has not helped support them emotionally or physically. I have worked 3 jobs, have not received any help and am now putting our oldest through college with the help of athletic scholorships… Heres the problem..Their Dad has had a severe Drug problem and is now looking at 30 years in prison and has been in jail and has started writing letters to the kids ( this has been the only time they have heard from him ) He always says “how much he misses them, thinks about them, and how he needs them in his life” It really upsets me that he has that kind of nerve…Where has he been when they needed him? Now, he is trying to get his family, which has also not had any contact with our children, to try and see them to get info and pictures for him.. We had a visit lastnight from his oldest son( from a previous marraige) come to my house to see my daughter, if she had not been in the living room I would have told him she was asleep. He visited and then asked if he could take a picture of her with the camera he had in his jacket. I blew off the question and he left without one! What should I do? I do not these kind of people in my childrens lives, no matter if they are related to them. My ex-mother in law has been trying to get ahold of our 18 year old in college and that worries me too. My 18 year old has a huge heart and I know they will just hurt him in the long run. She is the queen of deniel and guilt. She still feels her son has done nothing wrong, and blames everyone else. How do I talk to my 18 year old and should I try to keep them away? I do not want these kind in their lives, I do not think it is a healthy realationship. They do have a step-father and he gets very upset, and does not understand how this affects them. Help
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He is going to prison for 4 manufacturing of meth charges

My dad has always had addiction problems. He got a dui 6 yrs ago and didn’t use drugs since, but lately he has been drinking again and acting weird and he confessed to his girlfriend (and asked her not to tell us) that he has been doing drugs. He doesn’t know she told us, and we don’t know what drug he has been doing, my guess is meth or some kind of pill(Crushed and snorted). We both live with him but we are both old enough to take care of ourselves, however my 3 little sisters come over on the weekend and they are only 7,8, and 10. We are very mad at him but we don’t know what to say since he doesn’t know we know. Does n e one know how we could approach him, or have any tips about when we talk to him?
oops i forgot to mention that about 9 months ago he got a second dui, (with my sisters in the car) and got his license taken away for 2 years, and ever since has been riding his bicycle to the bar and the store to buy beer….or who knows now, maybe he has been meeting with his dealer instead of going to the bar…

My family has less then $100 to last the next TWO weeks and my mother spent $20 on a lottery ticket.
she does that all the time.
she will spend our last five bucks on lottery ticks.
and my dad wont do anything about it.

shes always claiming that this will be the one to make us rich, but it never does.

what can I do?

and do you think its a real problem?

I know there are a few questions like this, but I’m hoping some of the answers help me, build up my case…

My ex-Girlfriend has taken my two kids that I have with her (age 1yr9mo and 9mo old), away and she is not letting me see them, she is also taking me to court and trying to get full custody of the children, she’s only doing this because she knows that I don’t love her. Well, this is a story within its self… Which, I can talk about it more in depth another day.

I know I am a good father and will never do anything to hurt my children. I have another two kids with my ex-wife and they are with me 24/7 and enjoy being with them too (I know, I know… what the hell is this guy doing popping kids all over the place? I can’t do anything about that anymore at this point, but to care my little angels, so please, I need solutions…). My ex-girlfriend in the other hand, she has another two children with another guy, and she abandon them for about 3 years while she has been with me. I always asked her to bring her other two children to live with us, but they seem to be a bother to her, somehow, when they came over, she would just tell her other siblings to get the hell away and if they did something bad, she would tell them “I am going to call your DAD to pick you up” (not to mention that she was a previous meth (crystal) addict).

I don’t want my two siblings that I have with her, to go through that, she doesn’t watch the kids very well, (one time, her daughter which is 5yrs old, almost got ran over cus she was in the middle of the street by herself). Sometimes, I would come home from work and my daughter that is 1yr9mo, would be in the middle of the street by herself, and most of the time it was always my two older kids watching my younger two kids (which the younger ones are 9mo and the other 1yr9mo).

There is a few things I will hit her with at court, she has a picture (and I have a copy of it) of her older boy, dressed up like a border cartel (MAFIA) and holding up a real AK47, she abandon her other kids for three years, she is an illegal alien, she carries around a fake social security card (I just wish I had a copy of this), she drives without a license (and she has had two cars impounded for this, which I had to pay for), and she has been arrested for not paying for these tickets. All and all, a friend recommended that I have her deported so she won’t show up to court and I can get my kids back.

I guess, what I am trying to look for is some sort of direction. I am thinking of contacting dadslaw.com and have their attorneys run my case. But as far as the deportation, is there any sort of ways to do this effectively?

Thanks for any help!

OK, both my parents do cocaine. They own a business and work hard, especially my dad- when they are sober. But every week or 2 or so, cocaine “magically” appears in the house. Both of them claim that the other person brings it in; both use it, obviously. They both say that they don’t want it, but the other person is the one that tempts them into using it; they both blame the other person for withdrawing money for it, etc.

and first, they just act completely stupid; my mom rants and acts nuts and breathes all fuckin deep and swallows constantly and sounds like shes dying and is all hyper and cant sit down or shut up; my dad sings all the time, goes nuts, attacks ppl (luckily im tougher then him by now but still), and he’ll throw stuff.

My mom was the first person to get the drugs; it started a few years ago. Then my dad was hooked- he has an addictive personality tho, so hes just as hooked now.

They have a drug dealer that lives right down the street; however, I don’t know the exact address. They are nuts when they’re high; they’ll tell me “he lives there” but i cant get an exact answer.

and my mom always acts like its ok that shes spending 600 bucks on illegal drugs cuz “she admits it and is sorry”, and my dad doesnt want any of the blame on him; he NEVER admits that he gets the drugs or had the idea.

my mom wants to get counseling for it, but my dad won’t do counseling. whenever he’s high they both talk alot so i end up pathetically trying to convince him how wrong it is, and that he needs counseling, and he agrees.

but they always get it again.

so what do I do?

(by the way, anything BUT arrest them- Im at the point where I would, after all this stuff ive been thru, but im taking over the family business- if he was jailed it would likely go bankrupt, and then I wouldnt have a good paying job when im older.)

oh yeah and my dad always is telling my mom to “leave”- like she can just leave- and bein an ahole in other ways. my stepmom makes stuff up and hides it everywhere.

they act all happy and my dad cant control his spending on his high- he gave me 100, and he gave a workers’ kid 200! he gave more to smoebody he didnt even know! and he gives dough away constantly. bartenders- 100 here, 100 there.

how do i get it thru his thick head and solve this situation without either killing them or jailing them?!?!

is telling on all the dealers and following them around an option? or what?
good point, i wanna do that. i just have to find out what house is theres, and its gonna look even worse with cops at our house…

ever since me and my boyfriend broke up, ive been addicted to sex…

i cant get enough of it.

i slept with my cousins dad [NOT MY UNCLE, BTW]

and ive even been getting turned on my girl friends of mine.

whats wrong with me?

I need some serious advice for a friend.

Her 83 year old father lost his wife several years ago. Since then he has been alone. Recently a crack addict has been befriending him, writing him bad checks, and lying to him and more to take advantage of his money… she even stole his kitten!

Anyway, she recently got him involved with another crack addict! He even paid 1,500 for her bail (she was in prison for having a meth lab).

Now this new girl 30years old (and her boyfriend who she claims is her brother) has moved in with him and hes talking about marrying her!

Shes obviously just using him and his savings has plummeted to 1,000 and she takes collect calls from jail all the time and is just taking advantage of him.

The police claim that she and her friends do this to elderly people.

We were hoping we could get him declared mentally incompetent or something to get him into a home and out of that situation.

please advise! Quick! lol

I’m watching my dad drink
its like watching the weakest link
hes back to drinking again
just when i thought he was my friend
addiction is something you can’t fight off
you have to fight and don’t be soft
he’s sneaking out smoking
i thought he stopped but i guess he was joking
it won’t be far until i see him choking
death cannot be stopped
as soon as you think you won
you’ve just got locked
i thought you were clean
but you just like a confused teen
get your mind cleared
or you might get your ass reared
you need to stay on top and get lean
this is your future, its easily to be foreseen

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Just a freestyle from the top of my head, this wasn’t pre-written. My dad has an addiction problem, I wanted to get my emotions out.

my on again off again 5 year relationship with childs father has come to a definite end. threw our relationship he has hit me,lied to committed perverted acts and has tricked me into thiniing i am crazy and its all my fault. after getting pregnant i had to get out of the service earley because i did not trust him with out child while of was on deployment. he started smoking meth so i jetted 2000 mile away with nothing but me and dogs and baby in my belly. when i went in labor i called him and he said i dont give a fuck. 9monthe later he shows up at my familys house all the way from california swearing he has change. here we are a year later and he doing the same thing. this time he has an apartment in same town refuses to visit our daughter but hangs out 5 houses up from. mine he never goes to his own house . he tells everyone in town i refuse to let him see the baby and every where i go people who know him that i dont are pointing fingure and whispering. he is crazy and i dont know wh

My dad walked out on our family about 10 years ago, an abusive man, and took all the money towards me and my bothers university fund, most likely to pay for his cocaine and heroin addiction. He now has leukemia, from what I have heard, and I am not sure exactly how long he has to live, but he is not dying anytime soon. In 10 years I haven’t spoken a word to him, and if I could say one thing, what do you think it would be? Any suggestions? What would YOU say in this situation? How would you say it? and when?

Alright here is the problem.. please read carefully-

My father was never there for me and I feel like we’re both miles apart. I don’t think he knows how much the pain effected me when he walked out on my mother, and then years later, started a new family. I feel guitly, and not good enough.. I mean, he got married 2 years after he walked out on me, my brother and my mother and even had 3 kids with this women. [Whom he met when he was selling meth]. I don’t know if drugs played apart of my parents divorce or not but I do know that he was always there for me and my brother financially but not physically.. he never bought me or my brother a Christmas present or even a birthday card.

I know that worst things happen to people who do not deserve it.. I was only 2 when he walked out but I remember it like it was yesterday. The movie plays over and over in my head all the time.

He’s got 5 kids.. I’m the only girl, so I guess that girls are more emotional but it does bother me alot.. and I think I need counseling, but I cannot afford counseling.

I work at a grocery store. My father recently visited me at my job, and obvisously had a new girlfriend on his arm.. this girl was ugly.. all he said was “Hi.” I just stared at him like he was stupid.. he bought her a rose, and chocolates. HE BOUGHT HER A ROSE AND CHOCOLATES BUT HE NEVER BOUGHT ME OR MY BROTHER ANYTHING.. ANYTHING IN MY LIFE. I hope that skank gets fat.

Yeah, I admitt.. it does bother me.. it bothers me alot.. all of his girlfriends are junkies, and are on drugs.. I’m a decent person. I’m not like them. I work. I drive a nice car and live with my boyfriend. But when is enough, really enough? I think the only woman good enough for him was my mother, but his brain is on drugs and he can’t function like a normal person can.

Do you think he realizes how much this is hurting me.. do you think he even cares?

How can I learn to deal with the probablems he caused? Like, everytime I see him or hear him, I just want to cry.. he never cared about anyone but hisself.. Although he knows me and my boyfriends house number, he never calls.. he only called once asking for $100.. but he’ll never get any money from me or my boyfriend. I don’t care what he wanted to spend that on.. drugs or not.. he’s not getting a penny from us as he does not deserve it. I don’t know what to do.

I just want to move on from my past, and move on my father.. but how can I do that? I tryed keeping a journal.. but that doesn’t help any. I talk to my boyfriend [soon to be fiance] about my troubles and horrors with my father, but he’s always tired because of his job and doesn’t feel like talking about it with me. I talked with my mother, but she just tells me to “let it go.”

How can I move on? Please help.

Thank you.

Have a nice day.

My 21 year old daughter just called off her October 2007 wedding to a nice, clean cut young man who she had been with for more than two years. Good call if she was unhappy. Unfortunately, she just told me that she is now dating a 20 year old guy that was in rehab in March for heroin addiction after an overdose. He is also facing criminal charges (not sure if from same incident or another). She says “everyone makes mistakes, and he is ‘clean’”. However, she revealed that they drink alcohol together. I know about cross addictions, if using alcohol, NOT CLEAN! Also, she could be arrested for contributing since he is not 21 and she is. Also, he told her he stole from his friends and family to feed his addiction. When her dad and I tried to talk to her calmly she became very defensive and refused to hear anything we have to say. I am very concerned about her. More pertinent information, I am actually her step-mom; her estranged mother died in May of alcohol related heart attack. Any advice?

since the oldest one was six. Their Dad was charged with Drunk driving and Cocaine possesion, There mom attempted suicide and was admitted to the psych ward years earlier. Now that they are teenagers…their parents separated, recently their father died. My heart goes out to them. I don’t know how I can help but I want to do what I can…what do you suggest?

I have a situation with my children. Their real Father has been out of their lives since our divorce 6 years ago. He has not helped support them emotionally or physically. I have worked 3 jobs, have not received any help and am now putting our oldest through college with the help of athletic scholorships… Heres the problem..Their Dad has had a severe Drug problem and is now looking at 30 years in prison and has been in jail and has started writing letters to the kids ( this has been the only time they have heard from him ) He always says “how much he misses them, thinks about them, and how he needs them in his life” It really upsets me that he has that kind of nerve…Where has he been when they needed him? Now, he is trying to get his family, which has also not had any contact with our children, to try and see them to get info and pictures for him.. We had a visit lastnight from his oldest son( from a previous marraige) come to my house to see my daughter, if she had not been in the living room I would have told him she was asleep. He visited and then asked if he could take a picture of her with the camera he had in his jacket. I blew off the question and he left without one! What should I do? I do not these kind of people in my childrens lives, no matter if they are related to them. My ex-mother in law has been trying to get ahold of our 18 year old in college and that worries me too. My 18 year old has a huge heart and I know they will just hurt him in the long run. She is the queen of deniel and guilt. She still feels her son has done nothing wrong, and blames everyone else. How do I talk to my 18 year old and should I try to keep them away? I do not want these kind in their lives, I do not think it is a healthy realationship. They do have a step-father and he gets very upset, and does not understand how this affects them. Help
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He is going to prison for 4 manufacturing of meth charges
The first year after our divorce I tried to encourage the realationship…Then it went to telling him to either get in their lives or walk away, he choose to walk away..

He’s been smoking ever since he was eighteen. He’s forty seven now and I’m worried about his addiction to smoking. I have a five year old sister and a mother who works night shifts. I’m worried that my dad will die when he’s fifty since he’s becoming very sick. We tell him to stop, but it’s like he has no self discipline and cannot control himself. I know that nicotine might be addicting, but I’m just very worried about him. I’m only fifteen and I have to babysit my sister once my mom’s at work and while my dad is always going to but cigarettes. Is there anything that my family can do to help my dad stop his addiction? And trying to make him chew those gums where it would make you stop your addiction won’t work on him, every time we buy it for him, he just throws it away.

Hello everyone. I asked this question in a different context about one month ago. I still haven’t resolved this issue. Yesterday, I contacted Child services to see what I can do. But, I wanted to know what you all think I can do legally. Here’s my story: Growing up, my father was never there if he was there he’d be abusing my mother and throwing cigarette ashes on her and on my 1 month old brother. I remember him pinning my mother up against the wall of our old home. Today, he is not physically abusive, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. He always says stuff negative towards everyone of us. My mom said she is going to divorce him, but never made the effort to do so. Obviously, she doesn’t care, or she’s scared. He does drugs, and I’m pretty sure he does coke, and meth, and I already know he smokes pot. I believe he can become physical. My mom says she is staying with him because she can’t afford to live without his income, but he is never bringing enough in to pay for our rent!
So, what should I do legally of course? I do need to do something about this because he will probably be in my future forever, and I certainly don’t want that. I don’t even call him dad, or father anymore.
Well, I am seventeen years old. I am a home-schooled student because high school students were discriminating against my sexuality. My father does not listen to anyone what so ever, he doesn’t even care. This man is extremely stubborn and retarded I swear.
I also have a safe place to go to, and I am mostly there all the time (my partner’s home). But, when I’m home I stay in my room and go down to heat up some food and go back up stairs.

my friend was pulled over with 4 grams of cocaine whats the street value of it becuz my dad said it depends on the street value of it to figure out how much time he will get in prison