Am I responsible for my parents divorce and my father’s addiction to pornography?
Posted by adminJul 29
My father is retired and was always interested in learning how to use a computer, so I taught him how to use the keyboard, browse the internet, etc. Ever since I taught him how to use the computer he’s been on it constantly, I asked what he was doing on it and he told me he was just looking at cars.
Now when my mother went on the computer she checked the history and found my father was looking at porn sites, most of the porn sites contained african american women with large booties. My mom was horrified and shocked, when she confronted my father he denied it. Now my parents who have been married for over 40 years aer thinking of getting a divorce over this. am i responsible for this and what can i do to reconcile the situation?
8 comments
Comment by bored_ at_ work on 07/29/2010 at 12:55 am
divorce over looking at porn? no sweetie it’s not your fault
Comment by Jordan M on 07/29/2010 at 1:34 am
Come on now…you can’t possibly believe what you asked. Your father is a horny old man…not your fault. And why is your mom divorcing him….for looking at some bootie he doesn’t have the skill to ride???
Comment by Picalo Jack on 07/29/2010 at 1:43 am
He shouldn’t have backed that shit up. Some like a little junk in da trunk.
Comment by Ryan on 07/29/2010 at 2:17 am
Wow your Mom seriously has something against porn. Who DOESN’T look at porn? It’s pretty much the entire reason the internet exists.
I wouldn’t blame yourself for this. If this is going to cause a divorce I’m willing to bet there are a ton of other issues going on under the surface for this one, stupid reason to cause such a reaction.
Plus I don’t think I’d hold you responsible for how he uses the internet. He has his own brain.
Comment by Baby Spunky on 07/29/2010 at 3:08 am
It is an unfortunate situation but no it’s not your fault. Like he said he was interested in learning how to use your computer. Don’t feel blame yourself. You went to your computer you have the choice to go or not to porn sites. So is he. He is an adult. He made the choice. Unfortunately it creates huge problem and his relationship with mom. Maybe it’s a one time thing. Maybe he has that in his mind all along with or without the computer. Let your mom and dad solve this problem. Hopefully they can avoid divorce. good luck.
Comment by daisy on 07/29/2010 at 3:39 am
its not your fault
there was probably other issues and stuff and your mum thought this was the final straw or something
this is between your mum and dad and tbh, not you. its defo not your fault so dont worry
Comment by Red Stripe on 07/29/2010 at 4:24 am
Hello,
You are not responsible for your fathers actions honey.
Let me put it this way. A woman wanted a gun shop, she grew up in an area where there was lots of hunting and she knew that was all she ever wanted to do.
She saved and saved and one day she found a gun shop that she could afford. So she bought it, stocked it, and opened for business.
On her very first day, she sold a gun to a guy (he had to wait the three days and everything), all above board and legal.
He went out and killed himself, blasted his own head off.
Now that woman closed up her shop, sold it, and became a recluse. She had a terrible life because she felt responsible for that mans suicide.
Was she right to do that? Does she bear the responsibility of the man shooting himself?
We both know that it wasn’t her fault.
Just the same, you probably loved showing your dad how to use the computer. And he uses it for something that is not good.
But that is not your responsibility. Also, it is not your responsibility to reconcile the situation.
If you dad wanted to look at booties, then he could have got porn from loads of other sources. He could have bought magazines and films. He probably was doing that before you taught him to use the computer. It is not your fault, it is not your responsibility, and it is not your job to sort out your parents marriage.
You have a chat to one of your guidance counsellors at school about this, and I think they will tell you the same thing.
Best wishes,
Red Stripe
Comment by Mel's Bells on 07/29/2010 at 5:22 am
LOL at Jordan’s response. I know your situation isn’t funny, but that was hilarious. And no, it is NOT your fault. How can it be? He probably was looking at porn before then.