alcoholic father ruining my life?
Posted by adminMar 31
my dad has always been an alcoholic beaten my mum for as long as i can remember he tried to kill me when i was 15 my mum has always stuck by him im 28 now through the years ive taken mental and physical abuse from him because of my kind nature i keep forgiving him because when hes sober he can be the most brilliant person i have 2 sisters and 1 brother and they dont get picked on like me im his scape goat i think this is because i was born with a cleft lip he hates the sight of me i feel lost and alone i just want a normal life with people around me i can love and care for without heartache from his stupid actions
8 comments
Comment by Eric H on 03/31/2010 at 7:33 pm
I sincerely hope you will consider getting some professional help. Some people on this site may be able to help but the majority of the advice you’ll get here won’t help you as much as a real psychiatrist. This is a serious problem that is obviously effecting you quite negatively if you’re willing to ask a bunch of strangers over the internet. I really hope you get this worked out and best of luck to you.
Comment by Peter Pumpkin on 03/31/2010 at 8:30 pm
Take him out of your life completely. I know it might sound crazy, but do it. He’s making you miserable. Does he even realize that he’s hurt you this much? Does he know what horrible things that he’s been putting you, his own flesh and blood, through all these years? Pull away, disconnect, sever all ties, whatever you’ve got to do. This is obviously ruining your life.
If your family complains, tell them that you won’t see or talk to him again until he fixes his problem. Otherwise, things won’t change, just like your misery hasn’t changed.
Comment by szypura on 03/31/2010 at 9:06 pm
I am really sorry this is happening to you .. .. he is an alcoholic .. and it will never change .. and yes people .. or rather parents with this type of problem I mean abuse .. do pick on one child very often .. not because you are worse then you siblings .. you are you .. and there is nothing wrong with you you don’t deserve any of this .. the only thing you should try to remember is that you have your life in front of you .. your dad probably will just carry on with this s!it all his life make sure your life is not wasted because of HIS problem ..
Comment by WhizKid on 03/31/2010 at 9:27 pm
Little Billy had an alcoholic step father. He came home drunk and was beating his mother. He picked up a golf club and went into their bedroom and his mother was lying on the floor. The drunk was punching her in the face. Billly lifted up the golf club and yelled “STOP NOW OR I WILL BEAT THE HELL OUT OF YOU.” He stopped and the police came and arrested him.
But what happened to poor little Billy? He became president of the U.S. Bill Clinton. His wife ran for president but was beat by Obama. So your future is up to you. Let your father go to hell. See site below so you can love yourself.
Comment by thomas on 03/31/2010 at 9:40 pm
seek out some professional help . hope it will get better soon . take care
Comment by PoT13 on 03/31/2010 at 10:30 pm
move out. that should help.
Comment by knomanhoo on 03/31/2010 at 10:35 pm
If you are 28, its about time you let your poor father run for his life.
But be kind to him, cause he’s the only father you have under heaven…good or bad….He needs help & help coming form a son can do wounders in such cases.
Cleft lip?…its neither your choosing nor your fault. U are a creation of God & he does no mistake…so thank God for the
beautiful cleft.Your kind nature is the most wounderful gift of God & it goes very well with that beautiful cleft.
Your smile must be radient & infectious…’cause it has it’s
roots in true love in U. you see without love, people can’t be kind… .U are blessed my Boy.
Comment by C Sunshine on 03/31/2010 at 10:57 pm
Dear Emma…
Are you serious?
If so, I pray for you, Emma. That you, your mum, and your family will find refuge in God’s arms. And that the Lord will rebuke the evil one, and send healing to your father. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
† Comforting Prayer Warrior †