I keep hearing “everyrhing happens for a reason for gods plan”. This may sound confusing…..my husbands sister lost her father 3 days ago to a heart attack. The next day my husbands uncles house burned to the ground losing EVERYTHING. Including 3 dogs. my husbands 7 yr old nephew ( husbands uncles grandson)accidently caused the fire. This morning the 7 yr olds father (husbands cousin) was found dead in his sleep. Most likely everyone is suspecting he overdosed on cocaine. I know it was wrong of him and his fault but he left behind his little boy and wife….to no home to go to since his parents house was burned down. Why would god allow so much tragedy and heartache w in 4 days. His family is devastated. They lost their faith and now I feel the only sane person to help them out. I dont know what to do. We live in ga and are flying out to texas at 3am

Hi, I am engaged to a man who has a 10 yr old daughter who he has full custody of, and who visits her mom every other weekend. So, almost 5 years ago, I moved in, and had a wonderful relationship with my stepdaughter for years. Her mother wanted nothing to do with her, and wouldn’t spend any time with her on her visitations. We ended up taking (the daughter) to counseling because she was having anxiety attacks, and her mom was always moving, and she admitted that her mother was doing drugs in front of her. Her mother was IRATE, and that same year we filed for child support enforcement which made her even more mad. From that point on, her mom and her mom’s family started harassing us. By phone, on the internet, you name it. We just dealt with it. During this time, I was extremely stressed out about an on the job injury, lack of sleep, and infertility problems. I began taking ambien. One night a few years ago, I took my sleeping pill and went to bed. I woke up an hour later in a parking lot in a totalled car. I had no idea what happened. I called the police. I was charged with a DUI, and I went through court appointed treatment, lost my license, etc. Well, 6 months ago, I was in another accident that was cause purely by weather (it was snowing and icy, and the tires were bald) even after I got my license back, I still didn’t drive his daughter around. Also, she was never in any danger. Well, based on my last accident, she got a harassment/protective order and I was kicked out of my home. I didn’t have time to get an attorney because I got served the day before I was to appear in court. I have now been living separately from my fiance, and have had no contact with my stepdaughter for six months. The kicker is that my stepdaughter’s mother currently is trying to get a continuance on the 6mo order (the judge didn’t even read mine and my family’s affidavits) just put the order in place, and let her lawyer call me a train wreck and a drug addict. So, I’m getting ready to fight this continuance with an attorney, and my stepdaughter’s mother has a warrant for her arrest from a fraud case back in 2005 where she used her daughter’s identity to open a bank account, and someone else’s ss#.. the bank figured it out, and closed the account to investigate… meanwhile, she wrote $1200 in fraudulent checks on the account after it had been closed. Anyway, long story short… the woman has multiple fraud, theft (one was our counties little league association for more than $10k) and she is always in court for this stuff.. but no drug charge, although she admits to using illegal drugs and says she won’t stop, but has stopped doing them in front of her daughter.

So, long story short, I have not harassed these people. It has been her mother harassing me for years, and my stepdaughter loved me before all of this. The problems is, is that now she feels like joining her mother in ganging up on me is the only way to gain her mother’s approval…She has told her dad that, and her grandma. She doesn’t want me to come home because her mom will be mad, and so, she’d just rather not see me, and have to deal with it all. And, It’s likely that I’ll win the case, and get the whole thing vacated, but… now I’m9 weeks pregnant with this girl’s little brother or sister, and she has no idea. I don’t want to raise my child or be in a war zone in my own home. What do I do? Serious answers only please, and please read all of the question.
Stephanie, I’m not sure what you’re confused about, but everyone else seems to have gotten it. Please don’t abuse the system by posting your flippant opinion just to rack up your points.

Also, I would like to add.. My fiance and I would have been married long ago, but with my injury, and all of the drama, we decided to wait. And, I call her my stepdaughter because I was the only mother figure in her life for 4 years. My fiance is as supportive as he can be, but what can he do? She’s his daughter’s mother? I admit, he’s not as black and white as I am as far as setting boundaries, and he’s not a vindictive person. he can’t even argue without getting flustered. he is incapable of insulting someone, or proving a point. It’s weird… so I have fought a lot of this battle alone. But, should I just leave? Move closer to my family? How do I deal with this little girl when I move back in. I am resentful (I hate that) but I love her and feel sorry for her too. Her mom is cruel.

Anti-drug PSA. Directed By Richard Reens, Starring Shannon Final

I met my best friend over 15 years ago (we are now 27). Several years ago she called me in a panic because her daughters father had taken all of their money to blow at a casino. She had no diapers, food, etc for the baby and asked for money. I western unioned her some money with her promising to pay it back. I never expected to get it back as I don’t loan money I cannot afford to never see again. To me, she was my friend and needed help.

I later found out from her mother, her father, her daughters father, and several mutual friends what she told me about needing the money was a lie. In fact she took the money to buy cocaine, dropped her daughter off at her mother’s and went to party for the weekend.

I immediately cut ties with her because I was so disgusted to me that she 1. Lied 2. Told me a lie involving her child.

Over the years she’s sent me various messages like nothing has happened. Such as how are you, I miss you, etc. I never responded. She’s also asked mutual friends to reach out to me and I advised the mutual friends to stay out of it. Recently she started sending me confrontational messages on FB like ‘ what the *insert 4 letter word* did I ever do to you, what is your *four letter word* problem etc. I finally responded to her that I was disgusted that she’d lied to , supposedly, her best friend and involved her daughter in the mess. That she never took responsibility for her actions nor offered me an apology and acted as if nothing happened. She doesn’t seem to understand why I am still upset about this. To reiterate, it was not about the money. It was that she lied to me and involved her daughter.

Should I continue to try to make her understand why I am so upset or is it best to let her send me crazy messages but ignore them? Ideally, I would like to meet with her in person to discuss this but she currently lives on the east coast while I’m on the west coast.

in deep depression, I never drink I had $500,000 in assets never really lost that much money. Sold several property’s I owned to make up for my job loss. and never seen the inside of a police car or even taking any depression and anxiety meds before and never been to the hospital. I loved my life my wife and my kids very much. I just couldn’t land a good job. And less then two years ago I had an over whelming feeling of wanting to die for about a month. I told my wife this and she did the right thing and made me go to a doctor for severe depression and the Dr. put me on Prozac and a month later my wife was awaken with a noise of me tripping over a chair I had cut both my wrist with a razor blade blood was everywhere. I live in a nice quite neighborhood I pretty sure the whole towns police, fire trucks and ambulances came to my house. Neighbors in there yards looking to see what the hake was going on. I ended up in the mental health hospital with a bunch of retards. I never been right since. I became a retard myself I believe. I started drinking and blacking out ending up in jail, the hospitals and not remembering how i got there and why I was strapped in a bed and what had happened. In less then two years I been in a police car probably about 30 times probably been in the ER about 40 times and probably been in the mental health hospitals about 15 times and probably tried to kill myself for real about 8 times and lived very very close to death about 5 times and I know the next time I do something it will be my last time thats what i think anyways my wife divorced me while I was in jail for a 2nd DUI and got everything and I can’t blame her I put her through hell. I couldn’t even live with myself that why I tried to X myself out. Its been about 6 months since the divorce I never contest the final decree of the divorce. I don’t care about any of the material stuff the big bank account, the cars, the nice house. I just want my wife back and my kids back. I’ve been very depressed taking my meds correctly talking with the dr. honestly. I’ve been on all sorts of meds still nothing is taking the heart ache and shame away. Been going to groups, classes and what not trying to make some sort of stabilization in my life. I have nothing–maybe about $50 and I had to move in with my dad. I’m in my early 30′s. I been clean ever since for about 6 months until yesterday. When I found out my ex-wife who I still love deeply and was hoping we could work it out. Now has a boyfriend and having sex with him I think. I got a 1.75 L bottle of vodka and a bottle of sleeping pills. Somehow I lived again my motor functions wouldn’t work right for about 2 days and spent 3days in the mental hospital again. I do care about my kids a lot. I get to see them regularly fortunately. I’m a very loving person and I care deeply about people but yet I must not care that much when I do what I do. I hate myself for being so weak. I want to die but I can’t kill myself.I don’t want to hurt my kids by killing myself but I don’t care at times and want the pain to stop my heart hurts so much. Do this do that—you got to keep moving –you got to do this —blah blah blah. I heard it all–I’m stuck I keep going to centerstone(the dr. & shrink) Take my meds correctly and be honest with them. I’m just crazy, I got disability for depressing and anxiety by myself the first time I applied–so they must think I’m crazy if 85% of people don’t get it on the first time they applied and have to get a lawyer to get approved. Then they must think i’m nuts and I I’m. I wish I could start fresh and not remember all that crap I did. In order to be happy one must love his life. Howwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww do I do that????????????

For COMM 642

Remember Max Wright, the actor that played “Willy Tanner” on Alf?
The dorky family father with a friendly look, who loved to spend his afternoons playing with a long-bandwith radio, or fixing the tv alf broke?

Well, apparently, his career after that has not been so innocent. According to the national enquirer and many websites, he was found doing a crack-cocaine orgy with two homeless guys, and the whole thing is on tape!
I really, really, really hope this is a dirty lie against him, and not true. Otherwise, a nice childhood memory has just been ruined.

http://socialitelife.com/images/maxwrightforpresident8ew.jpg

I mean, he can do whatever he wants with his life. But hard drugs? with homeless guys?

I hope the guy’s alright.

My friends dad is a real D***head to her and he is very mean, he has no license
(suspended) and seems to think he can drive her car around and not let her drive at all. Shes 16 years old has her license and is basically fed up with the whole situation, but its not the same case where its a snobby teenager and they jus dont wanna listen, ive seen first hand how disrespectful her father is and mean, it really is ridiculus. I jus wanted to know how i can possibly get him pulled over, he has dui plates on his truck but usually drives her car.. callin the cops etc. i want to know a sure fire way to get him pulled over! Anything would help..
Main points!
-How to get him pulled over?
- Driving without a licenses (suspended)
- Driving without car insurance
- DUI record, (reason why his license
are suspended)
- Drives Drunk on occasions
- Shes found drugs inside of it after hes had it
- What can I do to get him pulled over and stopped by police
- Not only doin this for her but safety of others
- He needs to be takin off the road for good!
- Shes called on him multiple times and he never gets caught
- Shes given the licenses plate, color make and model of the car, and also the destination of where hes heading.
- PLEASE PLEASE HELP ANYTHING WILL BE WELL APPRECIATED!!!
- What can we possibly do to take him off the road for good!?
-He deserves to be in jail now!
Whats the quickest way to get him caught while hes driving?
PLEASE SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!
BTW: She asked me to do this, so I’m mindin my own business.. I’m puttin this up cuz she told me to help her out.

Anti-drug PSA

I have no family.. I was abused by my step father and my mom still lives with im so i cant go home. I could go live with my father but he really doesnt give a crap about me. I was 5 when he left because he was doing drugs and told us that he didnt want to have a family and that he never should have married my momm. His guilt makes him feel obligated to help me but I feel no connection to him. My finace moved me out of my house and in with him when I was 19. I was trying to go back to school but having a hard time because my head was so messed up from my mom moving my sexually molesting ste father back into my house. I dont have any friends because i devote myself to my finace because he is the only one who really loves me. But he has a problem with cocaine, and he has been really good from everyday and not working to a steady job and once and a while he will be slip. Well he slipped friday didnt come home after work and blew his money out with his new friend. What should I do?

He wants to do it different thow. Last yr he joined the Presbyterian church. he iz 21 yrs old nd been in some trouble. Not long ago he got his liscence suspended for 3 yrs cus of his damn DUI’s. But he has had a sincere change in heart… and wants to dedicate his life to preaching the way the Presbyterians do and lettin’ ppl kno dat its the truth. By differently i mean hes gettin a bike (since he cant drive) nd hes gonna take his bible nd needed supplies nd travel nationwide preachin the gospel. good idea or bad idea? hes 6’0″ even nd can bench 200 pounds soo he aint gonna get no trouble i dont think. mi dad did the same thing when he was 18 nd came back to our hometown after preaching in 4 different states at the age of 23. he sais my bro should do it too nd it would be a wonderful idea. watcha think thow?

My husband’s brother has tried to commit suicide at least 3 times in the past year. He has been troubled since the death of his mother over 11 years ago. He started doing crack cocaine and has been addicted ever since. He has tried several support groups and has even been hospitalized with no success. He lives with a male room mate. His room mate went out of town 2 weeks ago for 4 days. My brother in law was by himself, but his daughter would come over to check on him everyday. When he is alone, he becomes extremely depressed and this is when the suicidal thoughts come about. He took an overdose of prescription sleeping pills. He left a note in his mailbox that he had overdosed. The carrier called 911 and the police broke the door down and found my brother in law unresponsive. He was in a coma for 5 days. Nobody notified my husband that his brother attempted suicide again. The only relative beside my husband is his daughter that my brother has around. My father in law is also troubled with addictive problems. He is an alcoholic. My husband took after his mother’s side of the family. He is nothing like his brother or father. He has a masters in business and is a successful manager. Who would the power of attorney be for my brother in law? Since my father in law is basically incompetent, wouldn’t my husband be his next closest relative? I am a former nurse aide and have worked with addicts in the past. I had specialized training for Alzheimer patients dealing with the psychological problems of these precious patients. I know that certain antidepressants can cause thoughts of suicide. Could my brother in law’s doctor be giving him an antidepressant that is causing these thoughts? Could my husband intervene and seek in treatment (hospitalization) to help my brother in law? If something isn’t done soon I’m concerned that I’ll be attending a funeral soon. Thank you.

This is an anti-drug psa that Sonny Bono did. It would be more convincing if he didn’t sound stoned himself.

My ex and I have started the filings on custody for the 2 children we have. He just got out of prison 4 month’s ago. He lives with his mom and dad. I filed for “joint” custody meaning him having the kids every other weekend and 1 day during the week. He consulted his “legal advisor” ..(his ex that he has a kid with) who her herself has 7 children by 5 different guys, and no legal custody of any of them. He first told me he would sign over parental rights if that would make me happy then changed his mind. Over the weekend we agreed to a 50/50 custody that we never written or signed because I found out his ex was helping him figure out the future of our kids. This was the day I was supposed to drop them off, but then ended up arguing with him, and going back home because his mom called me a b**** in front of the little guys. When he asked my 4 year old if he remembered him my son said “I think you’re my daddy” and my 2 year old had no idea of who this guy was. The reason is because he has been in and out of jail since our kids were born. This guy told me I was crazy when I asked him not to lie in his paperwork. He said he was getting statements from people against me. His “character witnesses” are all of his friends who have a criminal background as extensive as his…including his ex the “legal advisor”. I have had the same job and home since before I met this douchebag. I guess I just need to hear someone agree with me when I say he’ll look like a fool with the public record the county has on him alone. Not to mention I work with the public and have been asked by several police why was I with this man. He has a domestic against me on his record, along with several dui’s and possession since he’s had our two kids. This man actually thinks he will get custody of our little boys. He has 14 felonies on his record, and he’s currently on probation, and lives at home with his mom. He is going to talk to a bunch of attorneys on Tuesday, but I’m not really worried because when I asked him if he had the $58 to counterclaim my suit, he did not have it…..Anyone want to make me feel a little less annoyed???
Ty Bettina, and I did file full legal and physical custody. He is pulling my strings, I know, but he will end up looking like a fool I believe. He has nothing on me, because I don’t do anything wrong! any judge willing to give him custody..-well, should probably not be a judge..lol

my mom just died 2dys ago. my stepfather killed her. iam glad he gone to jail cuz he abuse and raped me. i currently live with my real father, and his wife, and there 3 children. i have not seen my father or talk to my father since my mom and him split up when i waz 3yrs old. i start doing drugs when i was 12 yrs old, i was in hostipal for over use of cocaine i was 15. i did this to get rid of the emotional and physical pain i was feeling when my stepdad abuse and rape me. i have been drug free for the past 2yrs. iam now 17yrs old. i was so anger when i found out my mom was dead and right before mother’s day. my daddy came an got me. i do not get along with his kids. i have start cuting myself and smoke weed again to get rid pain. my daddy and his wife are trying to be loving to me. why would they try to be loving to me? nobody love me before. so why would they care?, they do not know anything about me. please help me?

This is an anti-drug psa that Sonny Bono did. It would be more convincing if he didn’t sound stoned himself.

My ex has been living with another woman. When his ten year old son (whos mother had taken him and dropped off the radar for two years)came down and his mother said that she wanted him to stay because she couldn’t take care of him anymore, he started changing little by little.

Before his son came, we barely spoke, now he is in constant communication with me. He knows that I love his son like my own, and he tells me all that time how he doesn’t want him around the girl he is with bc she is a bad mother to her own kids and hardly speaks two words to his son. His son loves me, and has already asked me that when I get my own place (hopefully moving in a month) if he can come live with me and his sisters. My ex seems to be all for this, but has also told me that he wants to move in with me too.
I told him as far as the nights that I work, that he could spend the night, as I need a babysitter for my children anyway and that will keep me from having to pay child care. (I never let my kids spend the night with him and her because even before he got with the girl he is with I already knew what type of person she is and how bad she treats her own kids because my best friend’s mom is there babysitter).
I believe him about how the girl treats his son and her own. I have known her for years, and she is nothing but an alcoholic and she has gotten many dui’s with the kids in the car, as well as dropped them with the babysitter for days before coming back for them.
My ex told me that at first he was with her, and that they were happy, but that when he told her that he didn’t love her, and found out that she was cheating (which I knew from day one) that things fell apart. His son told me that his dad was sleeping on the couch when he woke up every morning, which only raised my suspisions. Yet, he tells me the only reason he is still there is because he has no other place to go and he doesn’t want his son on the streets.
To thiken the plot, I got robbed at work the othr night, and since then he told me that it made him realize that he can’t see himself losing me and that he wants us to work things out. He said that he realized how much that he loves me no woman has ever treated him better than I do and that no woman could ever be as good to his son as I am. (I pick him up almost every day to spend time with him, buy him new clothes, shoes,etc.) Yet, being lied to as much as I have I am sceptical. He says that if I let him and his son move in with me that slowly he wants us to try to work things out and get back together. He says that things will change and I will see the difference in him right away. He has even told his grandmother this, in which she informed me.

But should I let him come back? Should I give him a chance to show me he has changed? Or should I just let it go and move on with my life? Is it even possible that he could change? Any advice PLZ!!!
This is the girl that was the cause of our break up- yet he didn’t move in with her until he lost his place when he lost his job. I have had some people tell me that he has said that he is just using her for a place to stay until he can get back on his feet… but I don’t know..

A father passing by his son’s bedroom was astonished to see that his bed was nicely made and everything was picked up.

Then he saw an envelope, propped up prominently on the pillow that was addressed to “Dad.” With the worst premonition he opened the envelope with trembling hands and read the letter.

Dear Dad:

It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom and you. I have been finding real passion with Stacy and she is so nice. But I knew you would not approve of her because of all her piercings, tattoos, tight motorcycle clothes and the fact that she is much older than I am. But it’s not only the passion…Dad she’s pregnant. Stacy said that we will be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children.

Stacy has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn’t really hurt anyone.We’ll be growing it for ourselves and trading it with the other people that live nearby for cocaine and ecstasy. In the meantime we will pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Stacy can get better. She deserves it. Don’t worry Dad. I’m 15 and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I’m sure that we will be back to visit so that you can get to know your grandchildren.

Love,
Your Son John

P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at Tommy’s house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than the report card that’s in my center desk drawer.

I love you.
Call me when it’s safe to come home.

My dad was the victim of a deadly car accident with a drunk driver. The other driver only had $10k worth of insurance. His insurance is now willing to pay my mom that same amount. Is there any law in the state of Florida that says she can lose for the loss of companionship, love, funeral expenses, etc.? The other driver is being charged with a DUI manslaughter, but I wanna know what else we’re entitled to. The insurance company is trying to sign over a check, but only if my mom signs a waiver stating she would no longer sue the other driver. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

Long story. My daughter’s father and I had never been together outside of my pregnancy. I had her full time until she was 10. while I was going through a nasty divorce from ex husband (after her father and her brother’s dad) – her dad whom I thought was a friend offered to take her more full time while I was going through the custody battle.

So she stayed with him. And she started to avoid me. Last time she came over for her visit, she ran away after I allowed her only an hour online. When I was taking a shower she ran off at 11:30 at night. I was frantic and calling the police, calling friends, calling her dad. Finally got in touch with her dad at 12:45. And he said he picked her up from a store two blocks away and figured that he shouldn’t have to call me. She refused to talk to me. He told me I was too strict (I caught her having cybercex online a few months ago and now restrict her usage).

Now. He refused to punish her for running off and said she was just being a typical teenager. Well. He left HER two nights later – stole his roommate’s car (my friend).

She called her aunt to pick her up at 2 in the morning when she went to go to his room and found he was gone.

My friend (his roommate) called me two days later and told me her car was found downtown in Crack Alley. Dad was arrested for theft of the vehicle, and in posession and under the influence of Crack Cocaine.

I recently found out that he’s a regular user. Well, he’s been allowing daughter to have friends sleep over (including boys), AND according to my friend and some of his family, been sneaking into her room at 4am in the morning in his underwear to sleep with her.

Police were phoned. I went to court and couldn’t get any custody going because I don’t know where he is. I went to the friends house to collect all of her belongings. I had her checked out at the Childrens Hospital, she denies any kind of sexual encounters, but outright refused a physical.

I came across her journal, and knew she was having SERIOUS issues (shes not even 13 yet) since being with her father. So I read it… I was shocked to find out she’s been having sex with her cousin and best friend (male and female respectively) and is worried she is pregnant. I also noticed a couple of weeks ago one of my packages of birth control pills had gone missing (i keep it in my bedside table)

When I had spoken to her dad a month back I told him I had worries she was being sexually active (he also admitted to catching her having cyber sex and figured there was nothing wrong with it) he told me it was all in my head and to stop being so strict. I kept insisting he has a talk with her.

Anyways I found out dad is and has been a crack addict for over 10 years (I was with him last 13 years ago) AND is HIV positive.

He phoned me after he ran off and apologised and expected to take her right away. I laughed at him and said he needs to get help for himself and to not worry about our daughter. I am taking her to counselling etc. He told me that she doesn’t want to be with me because I’m too strict (no boys in her room, limited time online, and following general rules like picking up after self, keeping room tidy etc). Well she has great relationship with her aunt, who is working with me on enforcing simple rules and chores. SHe’s the only one my daughter will run to – and she isn’t going to get away from it any longer.

When I told him I read her journal he FREAKED. I told him what I found, and he said that i had no right knowing that (including my daughter saying “if I’m pregnant, I’ll get rid of it without telling my mom”). She also talked about taking “pills” and “rainbow Parties” and drinking.

If I hadnt read her journal, I wouldn’t have known the serious trouble that she is in.

I feel kind of guilty that I read her journal, but I never would have known the problems she was having as she refused to talk to me. Am I truly wrong for reading it? I had a few people tell me that I can actually be charged for child abuse for reading her journal.

Anyways, advise I’m looking for really – are there special blocks I an get for free that I can put on my computer to stop her from checking out porn and other innapropriate sites (she figured out my password and snuck on last night, and it was all porn sites she was looking up) that is FREE?

And if you were in my shoes, what would you do? Am I wrong for refusing her father to see her? I told him he has to be out of rehab for a full year, attending AD meetings regularly and living in a stable home for a full year. BUT he also cannot spend nights with her even at that point until a psychiatric assessment is done.