My wife developed a really bad addiction to prescription pain killers and cleaned us out in August of 2007. I filed for a divorce and took custody of our two children. I soon discovered she had been having an affair with her dealer after I cut her off of our finances.

In December of 2007 she returned home asking me to take her to rehab, which I did. The day after I dropped her off she called me and told me she was pregnant. I had a vasectomy back in 2005.

We stayed apart until July of 2008 when we reconciled and she moved back home. The paramour has been in and out of rehab four times in 2008 for alcoholism and immediately relapsed upon completing his most recent round.

My wife had informed him that he was the father and he told her there was no way in hell he’d ever give her a dime. When the baby was born I signed the birth certificate and we named the baby after me.

He and his mother call occasionally and he leaves voice mails saying we are going to here from his attorney. He has never seen the baby. His parents barged into the hospital the day our son was born, but we have refused to answer their phone calls since. They also call my wife’s family and try to ascertain her location. I don’t believe that he’s interested in taking legal action, but his mother appears to be pushing the issue.

We obviously don’t want this guy anywhere near our family. He has done enough damage. Can anyone offer any insight?

A father passing by his son’s bedroom was astonished to see that his
bed was nicely made and everything was picked up.

Then he saw an envelope, propped up prominently on the pillow that was
addressed to “Dad.” With the worst premonition he opened the envelope
with trembling hands and read the letter.

Dear Dad:

It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing you. I had to elope
with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom and
you. I have been finding real passion with Stacy and she is so nice. But
I knew you would not approve of her because of all her piercings,
tattoos, tight motorcycle clothes and the fact that she is much older
than I am. But it’s not only the passion…Dad she’s pregnant. Stacy
said that we will be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has
a stack of firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of having
many more children.

Stacy has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn’t really hurt
anyone.We’ll be growing it for ourselves and trading it with the other
people that live nearby for cocaine and ecstasy. In the meantime we will
pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Stacy can get better. She
deserves it. Don’t worry Dad. I’m 15 and I know how to take care of
myself. Someday I’m sure that we will be back to visit so that you can
get to know your grandchildren.

Love,
Your Son John

P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at Tommy’s house. I just
wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than the report
card that’s in my center desk drawer.

I love you.
Call me when it’s safe to come home.

I got a DUI in Alabama (where I was living) about 4 months ago. My license with suspended for 3 months.

I just moved to Florida five days ago (where I had lived all my life). I had a Florida driver’s license in Alabama (I lived there for two years for schooling). I’m in Florida now because my dad has liver failure and isn’t going to last long if he doesn’t receive a transplant.

What I found out before I moved from Alabama was since I had a Florida driver’s license when I got my DUI AND even though in Alabama it was only suspended for 3 months, Florida laws are different. I have to wait two more months to get my license. I have to get a job, and I can’t get a job without a license.

Do you think I should have any problems getting a Hardship License?

I have 2 children, 15 and 9, from my first husband and my current husband has one son, 10, from his ex wife. Our problems are quite extensive and now becoming very very worrisome. I will use *Dean* for my step sons name. Dean’s mother has untreated bipolar disorder with a long history of alcoholism and drug use(pot, cocaine, illegal prescriptions) During the divorce, she has lost ALL rights to the child. The court has given a long list of requirements for her to have any chance to legal or physical rights or a scheduled visitation. (Of course, she did not meet any of the requirements) She has a longstanding history of verbal, emotional and physical abuse towards Dean and others. She has attempted suicide several times, 3 times in front of Dean and tries to tell him that it is his fault. The court has left custody and visitation 100% at my husbands discrection for very obvious reasons. Problem 1 for me is my husband continues to allow DAILY phone contact dispite her repeated verbal abuse. I have stressed over and over my concerns because of the impact it has on him and that it is worsening his overwhelming amount of struggles. My husbands answer over and over is that he feels bad because his son whines that he misses his mother. I have over and over explained that it is natural to miss her but the damage she CHOOSES to cause is far worse in the long run than the steady emotional support we can offer while keeping her away from him. Couple examples of the overwhelming amount of issues he has are, worsening physical violence to other children, at school, at home, in the community. Despite the meetings with the teachers, my husband continues to blame it on other children. He claims that the teachers are either lying or the other children instigated it so it’s their fault not Dean’s. I over and over have explained that everyone is in control of their own actions. If Dean becomes frustrated, regardless of the situation, he needs to use his words or walk away. Hitting is not acceptable, EVER!! My husbands response……..He’s just a boy, he’s frustrated, he will learn as he gets older, he doesn’t understand. Another chronic problem is manipulation. Dean is 21/2 grade levels behind in school. We enrolled him in Sylvan(45 minutes away) Dean said after 2 visits “I don’t like going there” My husband stopped the program. I was soooo angry. I tried to explain that being so far behind in school is adding to the frustrations Dean has and it will continue to get worse. About 3 weeks ago, Dean asked for a cell phone, I said no. You are 10, you are safe with adults at school and after school you are at home safe with me. There is no need for a phone when you are with adults all the time. His father went behind my back, bought him one and said to me, “I set rules with the phone” I told him NO texting to anyone and never to call his mother or receive calls from her. 3 nights ago, we had a knock at the door. It was the police. He had been regularly calling and texting his mother and telling her lies that we were abusing him, neglecting him and that we don’t want him. Of course a drunk bipolar, called the cops, added a few more lies and the police came to check on his well being. I immediately took the phone and threw it in the trash. We all sat down to discuss the punishment for not listening to the ‘rules’ of having the phone and the consequence of the lies to his mother. He began to lie saying someone else must have used his phone. Then he started crying. My husband refuses to give a punishment because Dean is upset. He has also destroyed 4 bicycles in the past 3 months because it’s not the $2,200.00 one that he wants. I advised after the first one not to buy anymore bike. Of course my husbands excuse it that Dean is the only kid around without a bike and that’s not fair or mentally healthy for him to be left out. There is much much more of his behavior but that is a quick summary. I am at the point of a divorce because I am not only trying to maintain the safety and sanity for my own 2 boys but trying to help my step son with his long list of special needs and trying to help my husband understand that he needs to goto counseling to understand how to find a starting point to deal with all these issues, stop being in denial and address it himself or seek outside help for Dean. I have expressed over and over that these problems will get worse as the years go on and I am exhausted and out of ideas and options for helping. Does anyone have any ideas, advice, help? If you would like more info, I am happy to give it. Thank you in advance for reading and helping.
Very Frustrated
I appreciate the responses. I was trying to sum up 7 years of a growing problem in one posting and it is far more extensive than I realized when I started. As for my husband and I arguing, we only do over this situation. I do now have lots of hostility but I didn’t for a very long time. I am the primary caregiver for all the children. I am the one that does the parent teacher conferences, sports, sick days, holiday crafty events. I have always placed the 3 children as equal but the problem has grown so large I have found myself distanced lately. I have offered every support I can come up with, read numerous books, attempted counseling several times and actively have a behavior chart. I have a reward program for all 3 children and Dean is exempt from the reward program because of his father. I rented an apartment 3 weeks ago and now have seperate spaces when the phyiscal violence gets too bad. He needs a facility at this point. I am most likely heading to divorce.

I’m 17 years old and my parents are divorced. My mom has had two affairs so far and has been married three times. She’s also an alcoholic but has been able to remain sober for a couple years now. My previous step-father lived with us for 3 years (until she had her second affair…) and he was also an alcoholic and addicted to cocaine. He brought this stuff into our house numerous times. Later, I moved in with my dad and things were ok for awhile. Now, things are getting bad again… He drinks all of the time and keeps weed in our house. He’s constantly gone and I’m taking care of myself anyhow. He yells at me all of the time and tells me that I’m “worthless, pathetic, disappointing, he never wanted me, just like my mother, and can only spread my legs for people”. I’ve run away from home and know he’s looking for me. I need help though. I can’t go back. What rights do I have on this one?!

I just got layed off from my job. This was about the tenth job that I have had and so this would be the 4th or 5th job that Ive been layed off or fired from. If I was a greater asset I feel that they would have kept me and I’m pretty fed up with losing jobs already. I’m a 21 yr old male, barely graduated from high school, no college education, $2,500 in credit card debt, just got a DUI and public intoxication ticket, i’m sleeping on the floor of my dad’s house. I haven’t been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder, but when you live with ADD and you care to find out why your life is so fucked up you begin to get the picture. I feel that I should be entitled to some sort of disability if I were to be diagnosed, is this true? Thanks

My wife and I have been together 18 years. Her father had been fighting cancer for 4 years and died 1 year ago. She has been drinking in those 4 years with a friend twice a week till 4am and it’s been killing me to see her go down this path. I keep bringing it up to her and she says she doesn’t have a problem that I’m jealous of her girlfriend and having friends. I’ve asked her to go to counseling with me and she said”You don’t believe in that stuff!” and then her sister died last month related to alcoholism. She broke down and I grabbed and hugged her and said everything will be ok. She thanked me and for the first time admitted she had a problem. We came to an agreement that she would not go out as much and would only drink if I was there. (I don’t drink) She started drinking again 4 days later with her friend and when she came home I said we have to talk now she ignored me and I snapped grabbing her and slapped her face! This isn’t me! How can she believe I could never do that again?

My daughter is 45 years old and divorcing a man addicted to crack cocaine. They have two very small children from this marriage. The father of the children is in no recovery program what so ever and my daughter has begun to send these two little girls, ages five and two over to stay with this man on weekends while she persues a relationship with a new man that she has met over the internet. OK, the other two chilren she has are 16 and 19. The 19 year old has moved in with me (the grandmother) and refuses to go back home with this new “boyfriend” coming over, and seeing her mother play kissey face with him at her home. Mind you, my daughter, nor her boyfriend are divorced yet. I told my daughter the error of her wrongs. The baby girls are in danger as far as I am concerned the two older ones have lost respect for their mother. So my daughter tells me that I am not treating her fairly by not carrying on a relationship with her. I have detached. Right or wrong in your opinion? Thanks

For about 2 years now my parents have been really pissed at me.

About 2 years ago I got this girl I hardly knew pregnant and a few months later i dropped out of high school to tour with my band, things didn’t go so well since the music industry is all run by coperataions and wouldn’t give us a break so my @%!@y @sS drummer and bassist quit the band after they said we were going no where. So I had to move back home with my parents but it wasn’t to bad since we have a guest house i just moved into. they kept saying they aren’t going to pay for anymore stuff of mine a few months ago but its not my fault i don’t have a job since i got a dui a few months ago and cant work. they told me last night i need to find a new place to live since they are paying for NOTHING, wich is total crap because we live in like a freakin mansion and my dad drives a porche and my bitchy little sister is going to NYU in the fall its not like they cant afford to pay for me.

can they just kick me out like this??? is there laws or something? and how can i convince them that they should keep paying for stuff for me? like see my side of the story that i got a dui and wrecked my car so i cant drive to a job or anything. plus they have the money so its no big deal why i cant spend it on things i want like video games and weed and stuff. plus i need to be making child support payments like htey need to think about those things before they cut me off.

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There are two issues which are starting to severely interfere with my life, such as it is.

First, I live in a constant state of dissociation. When walking down the street, doing shopping, at any random time I get this occasional feeling of unreality. This feeling of dissociation fades and comes. Those moments are when I spontaneously realize just how odd everything feels, not sudden spikes of being high.

People who know me are surprised to know I’m not a total pothead. I’ve been told the way I move, speak and do everything is like “you were constantly stoned”. Which is unflattering to hear from your unit leader.

And this leads to the second thing: Lack of awareness. I don’t notice things. It’s not an issue with my eyes – when playing a MILSIM this pissed me off greatly. I could perfectly well SEE the people in camo in the distance of 130m, but only after a few seconds of watching that point and after someone pointed it out.

When travelling, I have the feeling I’m not seeing, or experiencing as much as I’d like. I am less aware of my surroundings than other people. Friends usually point out interesting things because I don’t notice them.

Diagnosing psychology by the internet isn’t an easy job, and I’m going to have to go to a shrink to analyze this anyway, but my question is, what are your thoughts on this?

- Age 23

- No medical conditions except hyperthyroidism (currently being treated)

- Family (father side) has had a predisposition towards some kind of mental disorder. The people from that side of the family are eccentric by all accounts. One account of paranoidal schozophrenia was diagnosed, elsewhere alcoholism, problems with social skills (I have this too), predisposition towards very high IQ, living away from society in seclusion. The people I did meet from that part of the family ranged from normal, if for some reason unnerving to hang around with, to rather obvious undiagnosed psychosis of this form or the other.

- I AM a drug user. I use drugs with a reasonable amount of moderation. I’m a non-smoker and rarely drink alcohol (1ce a month). The drugs I do are mostly marijuana (2-3 times a month), however I also tried different ones, Among them I did dissociatives, in doses commonly considered to have no observable long-term effects. I believe that using dissociants allowed me to actually NAME the feeling of unreality.

Im not the most perfect person but have changed my life alot i literaly hate doing bad stuff i went threw fazes yes like i think every other person on this planet . but my question pertains to me applying for a law enforcement position in NC and im prior military. in the Drugs Narcotics used section : i listed i smoked im gunna be honest probably 8 Times in my life time and last time i smoked was in Feb 2007 i was getting laid off and had a bad set of friends who i eventually stoped hanging out with becuause of how much they wanted me to use drugs and other thing ive done is Cocaine i used it back in 1997 or 1998 one time 2 the most my friends father gave me some.
but ok ;
Marijuana used 8 times last time 2007
Cocaine used 2 times last time 1997 or 1998
NonPrescription Medicine: 10 times my ( in the army we get prescibed tylenol and well if you have a head ache yea we get offered 1 or 2 tylenol by a buddy )

those of you police officer recruiters and veterans on the force could you please be honest and tell me if what i have done is bad? would i be a potential hire or non hire?

My boyfriend, his dad, and I live in California. My boyfriend’s mom lives in Texas. She just got a DUI in the wee hours of this morning and her car was impounded. My boyfriend’s dad is going to fly my boyfriend out there to drive the car back to California.

I’m a little uneasy [okay, I'm pretty uneasy] with the idea of my boyfriend going back to Texas. We had a huge fight over a month ago since he admitted to me he’d been fantasizing about a few girls back there he almost slept with before he moved to CA…which was almost two years ago. There’ve been other issues involved…my self-esteem being really low, us not being able to find jobs, blah blah blah.

I’m just really nervous about him “running into” his old female friends. He’s promised me he won’t ever think of them like he did and nothing will ever happen and stuff, but it’s really hard for me to believe him. I’m sorry if this is all over the place.

What are your thoughts? Should I trust him?
Thanks to everyone who has responded so far. You’ve really helped ease my mind a bit about this whole thing. I’ll admit that I’m a jealous person [it's probably obvious to you lol] so it’s just hard for me to do deal with situations like this…

Drug psa i made for health class

…and his disciples also? Was this what JESUS meant when He said, “greater things than these shall ye do?”

John 14:12
“Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father.”

Now, I can understand why stories of miracles would be needed to try to make people want to believe something, but…

Why did they stop? Are they not needed any longer?

I mean, come on! Really…

The miracles of the Bible – Water into wine, Parting a sea, outrunning a chariot, raising the dead etc… Where are they? I mean I’ve heard rumors, but I’ve also heard rumors of bigfoot.

All we ever hear are Christians who claim they’ve been healed of cancer, or Alcoholism or “fear.” Absolutely non-miraculous things! One thing we know about cancer is that it can disappear overnight on its own.

Why the change?

Why are there no miracles? If you insist on miracles, why are yours so very weak, compared to the real ones in the Bible?

Are you going to say that there’s not enough faith in the world today or that you believe that flowers and your baby are miracles?

I’ve researched miracles for years and have come across many great claims, but to date, not one of them passes scrutiny.

Not one of them qualifies as something “greater” than what Jesus did… which was his promise.

I’ll turn capital punishment into a new game show!

I promise to get cocaine off our streets: 1 kilo at a time.

I’ll finish what Bill started — the interns.

Like father, like son. You liked my dad, right?

Vote for the GOP, Not OPP.

I promise no sex scandal: just look at me.

New penal plan: I won’t use mine!

Read my lips: Al Gore Sucks.

George W. Bush: No hang-ups. Just hangovers

Vote for Bush and against Common Sense.

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My sister just got out of jail after spending 5+ years there. She paroled out to my parents house where I’ve lived for 24yrs. The probation officer came and looked at the house and everything but my dad didnt tell him that I live there because back in March I was convicted of a misdemeanor DUI. Since then I was told that 2 convicted criminals cannot live together and that if the cops/probation officer were to find out we live together, we would all be in trouble, including my dad for aiding and abetting 2 convicted criminals living in the house. Is this true?

I have been married for 11 years and I believe my husband is an alcoholic. He’s doesnt beat on me or anything and he’s a great father to our two kids. He doesnt hang in the bars or get fallen down drunk but I’m from a family of alcoholics and I know alcoholism is bad knews. Its makes me crazy to know that he would rather have a drink than have a peaceful evening with me and the kids. When I catch him drinking, It makes me so mad, I can’t see straight. I don’t even want to be in the same room with him much less have sex with him. If its not a problem for him, why does he choose the bottle over me? I want to help him and be here for him because it is a disease, but he keeps lying about his drinking. Im afraid he’s gonna put our kids in danger by putting them in the car after drinking. I love him so much but what am I suppose to do and how much am I suppose to take. I keep thinking about in sickness and health. That was a vowel i took.

My husband and I have been married for six years. Up until Feb 2007, we were a normal family. In Feb, he re-discovered crack cocaine and started running through money like crazy. We have two children, a dog and our new home was about to be started. Mothers day, my car was stolen, he left for the crack house. Memorial Day, he decided that he was not coming home until he ran through 3 grand. I lost it and threw him out. He took his new Jeep and I had nothing to drive. For a month, he was a better father and a better person. Then he found a whore (a paid one he found in some sewer) and quit coming around, quit giving me money, quit going to work and bought her a new car while I still had nothing to drive (I took care of that car business real quickly). At this point, he had run through almost $40,000, cash. His jeep was stolen three times, his whore stole it once.
Basically, he came back after he ruined us, and I am the only one who is trying to save everything.

Siri

Don’t Do Drugs. If You Hear It From Batman And Still Do It, There Is No Saving You.