Hunterdon County Safe Youth Communities Coalition, NJ – PSA prescription drug prevention

I dislike my life. I feel like if I said I “hate” my life, I’m being overdramatic. I know people have it way worse than me, and I respect that, unlike a lot of people. Half of this crap I’m about to complain about to complete strangers I have never told anyone, which is kind of why I love this. So, here it goes, the most bitc hin I’ve ever done in my life. See, my mom has been on drugs since I was tiny. I literally can remember in third grade knowing she was, unbelievable, but I knew what was up, I’m not/ wasn’t a dumba ss. Anyways, she got a DUI once, and she got a possession. But honestly, I was happy that she did. I didn’t/ don’t really like her. I’ll love her, she’s my mom, but I do not like her. Fight about everything, and on and on and on. All she wants in life is money, and I’m pretty sure the only reason she didn’t sell me for drugs is because I was a tax exempt. But anyways, my dad made me move in with him, which I liked because I absolutely love my dad. We never fight, we get along, and I love him so much. We’ll get back to this later. Unrelated note, I don’t think I’m the prettiest thing ever, but I’m not completely disgusting. I hang out with all the popular and beautiful people though. They like me because I’m funny if I do say so myself. But anyways, I have this friend, not a best best friend, not that awkward friend you semi know and only pretend to be excited to see when you notice them at the check out line in walmart. Her name is… let’s call her Gina. Well Gina has had this boyfriend, a senior (Gina and I are sophomores), named… Hunter. He’s one of the most hilarious people I’ve met, hot, tall, and nice. Gina and Hunter started dating in December. I hung out with them a few days before, doing nothing, and had a good time, had no intentions to what was to come. He and I went through these periods of time where we would text, strictly as friends, nothing flirty at all. The last “period” we had, we were flirting like crazy. I don’t know why we did. Biggest regret. I’ve never done anything like this. He admitted he liked me after a few weeks of texting, all whilst still in love with Gina, my friend (Side-note: Gina is the most perfect girl in my grade. #1 in our class in academics(Other side-note: I am #8 ), gorgeous, hilarious, and cute. Pretty much all the aspects you would want for a girlfriend.) I admitted I liked him, we hung out a few times in town with everyone, everyone completely underwraps about what was going on. It was exciting. All we did was kiss, once. Anyways, back to my dad. He told me he had cancer. It broke me. I was so upset about it. My dad’s my hero, it broke me. The only person I could turn to to seem who would help was Hunter. I told him when it happened, and that same mother fuckin week, Hunter ends things with me. Well, what a great week. I think about him all the freaking time. I liked him so much, I had never liked a boy like him. It’s crazy. Well, wala. That’s my story.

I don’t even care if anyone comments on this. I sure know I wouldn’t read all this shi t if it was me. Gracias.

One night I’m was riding past the house were my daughter lived and noticed that there were alot of people there . It was around 12 am. I called when i got to a buddies house, I called and ask what the hell was going on and wheres my baby, why is there so many people up there so late and she hung up on me. So i called back with no answer. then she finally answered and we talked for about an hour. Then after calling her by my new girlfriends name by accident, she hung up on me. I tried Back a couple of times and gave up.My buddy Tommy told me he would be a witness for me if anything happened,but i never even got the chance to call him from jail. The next morning I got a call from the police, witch she had been on the phone with the police officer lying like a rug. I told them the truth about what happened and all they said was I was being charge with harassment by communication . I was on probation at the time for some misdemeanor things. My probation officer herd about the incident and put me in jail. So when I finally get to court . I plead no contest, bad decision at the time because I was going to do time anyway for the violation. She had no proof or phone records, of coarse to prove her case. Then the judge told me if i ever was to go around her again i was doing serious jail time .There was never any mention about use having a child together. I had no one on my side while she had her dad and sister sitting and grinning when i walked into the court room. I felt so worthless and depressed when i finally got out I continued feeding my depression, self medicating If you will.I tried calling anybody and everywhere, but no one could give me any answers or help. This was about the time I tried committing suicide. I swallowed about 30 trazadone sleeping pills followed by a fifth of vodka. Well the x was not worried she got married 2 years after we broke up and they came into some money some how and ask the courts for an adoption. They got it because they said I signed my rights away. I DID NOT!!!!! I was never notified, never mailed any thing. They cannot say either they knew not my whereabouts because adult probation found me and always I had current addresses for them, from 1989 to 2002. She also knew this. because her sister and mother would always call him, my probation officer, and try getting me thrown in jail. Threw all this I am trying to battle depression, anxiety,alcoholism,the loss of my daughter. I was a mess. No one would help me not even my parents.About 2 years later When I was twenty nine years old my parental rights were taken from me with out my knowledge. by a vengeful X pulling some shifty crap. I have tried everything in my power to seek help looking every were asking everybody, but with out thousands of dollars for a lawyer no one will help me. If I were a women this would not be an issue. I’m sure I would find help right away. I have told my story to just about everybody I know and they all agree I got screwed. Can someone out there give me some advice or some kind of resource or somebody i can contact for help. Please help if you can but this is a very serious issue I will never give up on.Over the next 11 yrs I just about gave up.The only thing that kept me from laying across the railroad tracks was the determination to right this wrong.
Presently I have taken steps to Improve my live and change it for the better. I don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, I have recently been diagnosed with P.T.S.D also a social anxiety. I see a therapist once a week and follow my doctors treatment regiment to the letter. I know in my heart i will see her one day again and hold my baby girl

I love him, but he’s been through a lot recently, his father’s suicide as well as several deaths of close friends. He is going through legal issues having to do with several DUIs and inherited alcoholism, and is using it to self medicate. I have encouraged him to quit but he just binges when I’m not around. We love each other and want to get married and have children, but I can’t bring myself to make a commitment to someone who can’t try to quit drinking for me or for himself. Slowing down isn’t an option, as much as I’d love to have a beer with him once in a while, I’ve told him I would happily give it up for him if he would give it up for me. He’s trying, but not hard enough for what I want. When he’s drunk he’s a different person, and I can’t handle babysitting him all the time. I don’t want to break up unless I know there’s no hope, and he’s been better recently, but if it gets worse, should I leave him, take a break to see how dependent he really is, or what?

A son’s letter to Daddy..

A father passing by his son’s bed room, was astonished to see the bed was nicely made, and everything was picked up.

Then, he saw an envelope, propped up prominently on the pillow.

It was addressed, “Dad.” With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter, with trembling hands.

“Dear, Dad. It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend, because I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom and you.

I’ve been finding real passion with Stacy, and she is so nice, but I knew you would not approve of her, because of all her piercings, tattoos, her tight Motorcycle clothes, and because she is so much older than I am.

But it’s not only the passion, Dad. She’s pregnant. Stacy said that we would be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods, and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children.

Stacy has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn’t, really hurt anyone. We’ll be growing it for ourselves, and trading it with the other people in the commune, for all the cocaine and ecstasy we want.

In the meantime, we’ll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS, so Stacy can get better. She sure deserves it!!

Don’t worry Dad, I’m 15, and I know how to take care of myself. Someday, I’m sure we’ll be back to visit, so you can get to know your many grandchildren.

Love, your son,

Derrick

P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at Tommy’s house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than the school report that’s on my desk. I love you!

I have a friend named Andrea. We are the type of friends who joke around and make fun of eachother and just have a good time. I had a BEST friend Melissa who I did everything with. And Andrea started becoming my friend and Melissa’s. She took my best friend away that day. I was so annoyed with it. I’m a girl I got jealous of it. whatever. Anyways I finally did get over it. I got involved into sports and was really busy. They don’t play sports. Fall came last year and Andreas dad was abusive he had been her whole life but he finally pushed andreas mom and got arrested. She turned that day. Went to melissas house and stayed with her. like what the hell I’m always there for you. Why wouldn’t you stay with me? Well my mom knows how andrea is and doesnt like her. but still! My mom and her mom are close. She turns into someone starts wearing short shorts and she says she is trying to branch out from her usually pre-dad leaving jcrew conservitive. MORE LIKE A SLUT NOW. I supported her through her dad and everything! she started acting different more risk taking. She drank before a dance once and tried to get melissa to drink too. Melissa is very passive and doesnt have many opinions like a blank wall. Very easy to control. Me on the other hand I but heads with andrea over everything. Who gets to do what and stupid stuff. she lost her friends all winter and into spring. I stuck with her and melissa. Old andrea always called me every second to hang out and be with me. Now she is crazy. Drives like a crazy person and yells at her mom and swears at her infront of me. And makes her mom do her homework and EVERYTHING she never does one chore. I come over and help her mom sometimes…I feel so bad. Anything I can do to help. She blames her dad for the way she talks to her mom. He taught her to swear and no respect her mom. So weird for me to be in those situations. She controls her mom. Is that normal for a abuse subject? I mean it wasn’t punching abuse but words he said to andrea and her mom and her older sister. He sister is a totally slut now too now she is in college. Okay I don’t mean slut but she is getting DUI’s and is acting gross with guys. Andrea hangs out with Melissa everyday now and I’m left out from my two best friends. She tells me to shut up when we are in the hallways because Im talking to loud..no I’m not! She is so self concious and makes sure no one knows I talk to her. Like what did I do to deserve this? I DID NOTHING. She is racist and makes fun of a black girl at my school and is a jerk to me and everyone but melissa..she completely controls melissa. Also tonight I asked her to go to the game. and shes like eeh I don’t know. And I was like okay whatever fine! and she calls at 8:30 WHERE ARE YOU? shes at the game with melissa. are you serious? we always go everywhere together and you leave me at home. she is a bitch to me. and was like whatever at least I called be happy. WHAT A ASS. what do I do? All my friends say I told you so about andrea. but I will loose melissa if I give up. Melissa and I have been best friends for 5 years now. What do I do!?!?! I want to cry when I think about how mean she is to me. I hate my life for it!
Also. We had a big fight before I went to camp during the summer. She wanted to hang out and i was busy with soccer. And we got into a fight. And her mom tried to help us make peace, and she goes shut up mom. And i was like this is why i dont want to be your friend. your so mean to your mom! and shes like DONT JUDGE ME you don’t know me and my mom at all. okay I’ve know you for 3 years… anyways shes like your a bitch katie your going to hell fuck you stupid christian hoe. ands shes driving and swerving to scare me. and her mom defends her! and I was like AT LEAST I DONT DRINK and her moms like what? and i was like yeah VODKA ASS. and her mom got mad andrea swerved off the road and was like everyone at soccer hates you so SHUT THE HELL UP BITCH…What the heck I dont deserve this! what do I do?!?!?
Thank you so much you two. I just need the most advice I can right now. I feel like God has left it up to me to help her. And it just turned so bad!

Winning PSA for City of Tempe contest warning against Drug & Alcohol use. Video was done by McClintock student Ari Vissicaro. Tempe Union High School District: A family of schools. A community of learning. www.tuhsd.k12.az.us http

My brother is a cocaine addict. In the past eight months, he has overdosed and nearly died three separate times. He refuses to go to rehab, and I truly believe that he needs it. Is there any way that my parents can commit him involuntarily? We are all worried that eventually he is going to succeed at killing himself. The last time he nearly overdosed he got into a huge fight with my brothers and my father. He was totally out of control. He even bit my father several times. They ended up having to call the police to help them control him. The police took him to the hospital and there the doctors said that he could of died because he had a lot of cocaine in his system. The next day they put him in detox. The funny thing is that he did not remember what he had done the next day. By the way, he ended up getting charge by the cops who were supposed to helping for assault because he spit at an officer. He doesn’t remember that either. He also got some other charges.
He is 20 years old and does still live at home. We have told my parents to stop babying him and getting him lawyers to get him out of the messes he gets himself into but they do not listen. He is the youngest out of five children.

I’m writing an essay (has to be done tonight; long story) on problems facing law enforcement. Unfortunately, I have trouble using Google, as the “correct terms” seem to elude me. One instance, I would like a reference to some form of police corruption. I’ve heard of police illegally charging civilians for protection, while others get involved in drug dealing personally.

Next, an instance where the law itself prohibited police from arresting an individual, only for that individual to go on to commit another crime (particularly, a repeat offender of murder)

The third subject, I’m pretty open to. I really don’t have much experience in the field, so perhaps some of your have an idea? As of now, I’m planning on writing a bit more personal account, of a “friend” who has been caught DUI, underage, several times, but has yet to be charged, because his dad is “buddies” with the Sheriff.

Thanks a ton in advance!

Winning PSA for City of Tempe contest warning against Drug & Alcohol use. Video was done by McClintock student Ari Vissicaro. Tempe Union High School District: A family of schools. A community of learning. www.tuhsd.k12.az.us http

i don’t know what to do to stop hurting. i’m 19 years old, a senior in high school. i’ve been living with my dad for alittle over a year, he and i were very close in the begining. he was recovering from a crack addiction and alcoholism and doing very well, he had a few relapses during that time but they consisted of getting high or drunk once, telling me about it if i didn’t already know, appologizing, and then stopping and staying sober for several months. about 2 1/2 weeks ago he and his live-in girlfriend had an arguement and he came to me and said it was about him using behind my back for several months. he told me he would sober back up and things would get better, i didn’t believe him this time, about a week later i found a crack pipe in a cigarette pack while he was sleeping. i wrote him a long note telling him i needed to get out of the house to think and i didn’t know when i would be back. when i got a hold of him again i told him i didn’t think it was healthy … to be cont.
for me to continue living there and enabling him, i had told him on more than one occasion that i would move out if he relapsed again, this time i did. i found some friends who took me in for a very small amount of rent and have been staying with them ever since, only going back to gather a few clothing articles and other necessities. i have been keeping in contact with him via phone because i still love him and want to maintain a relationship with him. this morning before school i called him because he had asked me to, he said we needed to talk soon. when i asked him what it was about he said he was considering moving across the country back to Washington state, i didn’t have time to talk more, i will be going over tomorrow to talk with him face to face about it, but it devistated me that he was leaving. i love my grandmother to death but i know that when he goes back to Washington she will enable him more so than i ever was able. it hurts me so bad because i love him… continued…
so much and wanted more than anything to try and form a healthier relationship with him and now that will be impossible. he won’t get the help that he needs when he leaves, and i know that he can get healthy, but not if he goes back to Washington where he knows many more people, most of whom he used drugs with (many more than crack) and he will fall back into the pattern that he has been in for many years of using and not caring about anyone/anything. is there some way that i can make the pain he’s causing me to go away and stop thinking about him and crying everytime i do? is there some way i can help him? is there a reason people do this to the ones who love them? any feedback or advice you have will be greatly appreciated.
thank you,
Girl in Pain

He WAS a violent alcoholic, but he has since gone through a treatment program. I really miss him, but I think my parents and friends would go APE on me if I did get back together with him. But, I love him, and I did take my marriage vows, “for better or for worse”… Alcoholism is an illness, right? “In sickness and in health”… I never would have separated from him in the first place, but someone I know reported it to the police after he held a gun to my head, strangled me, punched me in the face and threw me across the hall. And then my mom came out and marched me to my lawyer’s office to file for a divorce. I never would have made that choice myself. I love him.

One more thing… He is almost 30 years older than me. He’s older than my mother, but he’s a month and 19 days younger than my father. Just in case that makes a difference in your answer.

Thanks for the advice!

My childrens’ father who I have had a relationship on and off with for almost 7 years has a cocaine problem. I know he loves us and I know he doesnt want to ruin his life this way but he is weak obviously about it and continues to use it. We have has numerous deep conversations about this and what he needs to do to stop it. He has went into a drug detox program, and changed his phone number (in order to loose the people that he does it with). He keeps promising me he is not going to do it again and I have told him I will leave him if it continues. I dont want my kids to grow up and realize what he does and I also dont want to live my life wondering if he is okay when he doesnt come home for days at a time. I went through the drug thing with my own mother and know how it can ruin a person and thier family. I dont want to go through all of that over again because I am doing good in life and I want to keep it that way for my children.
At the same time I dont want to abandon him because I feel that will only make it worse and show I dont care. But I do care, I love him so much and this is hurting me so bad to see him do this to himself. What in the world should I do?

A couple weeks ago, my dad tried leaving drunk. I tried getting him out the truck, i got him out, when i went to back down the drive way i had it in drive, and ran his truck in the ditch on state property. When i was in the truck it was on our property! My dad tried pushing it out the ditch while i was in it with it in neutral. I saw lights, assuming it was the cops, i hopped out and ran, my dad ran back to the truck and tried to get the keys. I was half way down our driveway when he got to the beginning of it. The cops saw him AT THE BEGINING OF THE DRIVE WAY, NOT NEAR THE TRUCK. I blamed it on my dad, he had a suspended license to begin with. They took him to jail, charged him with driving on suspended license 3rd offense, and a DUI. If i go in the courtroom, tell what actually happened… What will happen to him, and what would happen to me? I’m 18 and have a learners, about to get my license. Can they charge me WEEKS LATER after this has happened? What is the worst case scenario of this story? What might the outcome be??

Winning PSA for City of Tempe contest warning against Drug & Alcohol use. Video was done by McClintock student Ari Vissicaro. Tempe Union High School District: A family of schools. A community of learning. www.tuhsd.k12.az.us http

I have always had a hard time walking away from bad relationships. I stay in them until I go numb or that person leaves me. I am afraid to be alone. I divorced the first guy that I was with because he pushed me to far. He beat me and I left him. My second husband was really cold and treated me bad. He left me. People have told me to walk away from one bad relationship to another. These people are right, but I still can’t seem to walk away. After that, I met this guy. I have been with him for over 4 years. He was so sweet at first and made me feel like a queen. Then, be became very controlling, verbally and physically abusive. I blamed it on his alcoholism. After he quit drinking, he mellowed out a bit. I lost 40 pounds and started looking a little better. Lately he is becoming more possessive and controlling. I almost want to run away. He has to know where I am at all times. He flips out if I don’t call him the moment I get to my destination. He will ask where I went, who I talked to, and so forth. I feel like I am being investigated by a detective with him. We do what ever he wants, and see only his friends. He criticizes everything I do. He screams at me when I am driving and tells me what a lousy driver I am. He talks to me like I am an infant. He calls me stupid all the time and other horrid names. I walk on egg shells not to make him mad. It seems like he hates everything about me. He always tells me that I can’t do anything right. I have no self esteem now. I am over 30 and fear that no one in this world would want me. I feel so low right now that I don’t know what to do. I look in the mirror and feel so ugly. Just when I think of leaving him, he can be so sweet. He promises me that he wont treat me bad anymore. He knows he treats me bad because he describes all the things that he does. He knows it’s wrong. The other day, we were going to the DMV. I made the wrong turn because I was not sure where it was. He started screaming at me. The veins were popping out of his neck and I was afraid that he might hit me. After that he apologized again and swore to me that he would work on his anger. He tells me what to wear, how to talk, basically not to be myself. I have isolated myself from my family and friends. I am afraid to have him meet my dad, because I am afraid he will embarrass me by acting like a raging jerk if he doesn’t get his way. I wont take him to the company picnic because he is so damned jealous. Heaven forbid if one of my ‘male’ co workers’ says ‘hi’. I have every reason to leave because he is bringing me down. I just don’t have the strength to walk away. I am getting to the point that I am tired of all his crap. I am a free spirit and hate being told what to do. I am also afraid of what he will do to me if I leave. Why can’t I leave? Why is this so hard? Serious people only. Please be mature about this, don’t leave any smart assed comments. I am at my wits end here please help me…

I love him, but he’s been through a lot recently, his father’s suicide as well as several deaths of close friends. He is going through legal issues having to do with several DUIs and inherited alcoholism, and is using it to self medicate. I have encouraged him to quit but he just binges when I’m not around. We love each other and want to get married and have children, but I can’t bring myself to make a commitment to someone who can’t try to quit drinking for me or for himself. Slowing down isn’t an option, as much as I’d love to have a beer with him once in a while, I’ve told him I would happily give it up for him if he would give it up for me. He’s trying, but not hard enough for what I want. When he’s drunk he’s a different person, and I can’t handle babysitting him all the time. I don’t want to break up unless I know there’s no hope, and he’s been better recently, but if it gets worse, should I leave him, take a break to see how dependent he really is, or what?

who is cuter or beautiful-

-blair or serena or jenny

-dan or chuck or nate

Please answer the following-

-should nate and jenny date?

-what do u think happens to nate’s father?
-did he die or just faint?
-was it from his addiction to cocaine?

My exfiance and I broke up last June, he has 2 young girls that live with their mom, 6 & 8 they were and are still very attached to me, I love them very much and since the break up their mom wants me to stay in touch.
He has since met someone he no longers wants me to be apart of their lives, their mom whom they live with feels different.
I have decided to stay away, and I have, at Xmas since he got a DUI he was not able to get them (they live 110 miles away) they called me i offered was able to see them for a short while and have not seen them since, they have called me several times, their mom says they want to see me.
They were here for 4 days witht heir dad and I never once tried to see them. The oldest called me crying, she said she wanted to see me but her Dad would not let her cuz he and his new love don’t like me, her mom wants me to see them and I want to, his new fiance has 5 kids,of her own, and doesn’t want me to see the girls, how do I tell a little girl, i can’t.

My parents encourage me to do things that normal parents discourage. Like drinking me and my dad get drunk together all the time and he jokes about my mental problems. He supplys the booze also. My mom acts like she cares but it’s just wrong she also encourages my alcoholism. I ditched my friend group months ago so don’t think “well your friends care” cause they didn’t either I was their entertainment. I would be the funny one at all coast and there were no rules. Noone gives a shit about my life…I don’t even give a shit about my life. It’s a pretty weird realization. What would you do in my stinky shoes?