ok heres the story. My girlfriend was driving her dads car home (which she uses, pays insurance for, pays for repairs and gas..its basically her car but in her dads name) and yes it was late. She had turned 18 a few months back so it wasnt breaking curfew or anything in my area. Well anyhoo as she was driving home at 2am she was followed closely by a cop. She didnt speed, made sure she was in her lane, and used her signals when she needed to. So he pulls her over (i think because she was a white girl) and said that the car has a DUI arrest warrant out on it. Now her dads not a trouble maker so this came as a suprise to her….her brother (who has the same name as her dad, not middle initial tho) asked the officer if it was for a person with the middle name j or k because he was probablly looking for her brother. The cop went back to his car and apologized to my girlfriend, but as he was leaving he started asking her questions about her bro. where he lives when does he work and that stuff. My girlfriend said that she didnt know and he started asking her questions about her life. why she was on the road so late at night and why she cant afford her own car and yada yada…after awhile he left.
On a semi-related note my cousin was arrested because of some false accusations made against him. The police were definately not very nice to him and tried their best to instigate a fight or some disorderly conduct. My cousins charges were also dropped, but he had a hell of time explaining to his bosses some of the charges against him. He was white too!!!!
do you guys agree this was racial profiling? I mean both my cousin and my GF were both harassed by the cops!
ok i was hoping that white or black cops are jurcs sometimes and thats just it
I have a 1 year old son (a very happy amazing lil boy)
Well today was christmas and one that he finally understands slightly.
His father and i broke up 10 months ago (he no longer wanted to be with me and or my son)
We had an agreement drawn out but he is currently in contempt of the agreement. He last saw our son on his first birthday almost 2 months ago. (that is his doing as i have given him oppertunity) I dont allow our son at his mothers for specific reasons mainly her bipolar that is not controlled properly as well as her extreme alcoholism and suicidal attempts. I allowed my son to go there for day visits but not for overnights and that is where his father resides. She also lives 2 hours away from me which has been a problem for my ex because the distance is too great for him to take our son there and drive him back. (in my opinion its a ridiculous excuse)
So my ex hired a lawyer who contacted my lawyer but has not responded to my lawyer in 3 weeks leading us to believe that my ex has not paid his retainer. He refuses to talk to me directly and got his dad to call me to ask for a xmas visit.
I said that he can have our son on the 26th for the day but he requested overnight. I refused the overnight as our son has not seen his grandfather in 7 months and his father in 2 months and felt it to be unfair to my son to send him with strangers. I feel if my ex wants to be a part of his sons life and enjoy his company he needs to get to know him better.
The 26th was not good for them and they now left plans up in the air because they want him over night.
So today for christmas my ex didnt call or anything to wish his son a merry christmas.
I felt so badly because i enjoyed a wonderful day with my family and my sons dad was missing.
I know i cant do anything but does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do if there is anything??
I just hate that my son doesnt have his dad in his life. And although i have been pretty adiment about my son spending overnights with my ex i have been very accomidating otherwise with visits and access and he just isnt acting on anything. It makes me so sad.
What can i do??
Hi, I am a teenage girl of 15 years old and I have been dealing with domestic violence all my life and I want to do something about it now.
My father is an alcoholic and abuses my mother verbally a lot. He tells her off for the smallest things like when she is washing the dishes. My brother and I do not get along with him at all. He barely speaks but whenever he does, it is verbal insults. He is very loud and can scream at my mother to make her do things for him.
He is very annoying, believing that without him, we would not be able to live. My father does not listen to any common sense. He drinks alcohol all the time and whenever he does, he will pick on stuff to scream at.
Divorce is not an option for my mother and father. My father would talk about divorce whenever my mother is not being a servant to him. My mother would say ‘yes, let’s separate’ but my father is only saying that to make my mother think of what life would be without him. Both my parents work, so I do not think she would be useless without him. My father knows that if they had divorced, both children would go with our mum so he wouldn’t divorce. If divorce had actually happened, my father would probably kill all of us. He is quite an abusive person.
However, sometimes my father can be quite nice. Sometimes, he will cook for the whole family but for the majority of the time, he is abusive. I try to stop my parents from fighting by telling my father to stop but he will probably hit me if I did so. But if I do not say anything when he screams at my mum, then he believes he is right. He believes that anything he says or does is right, and other people are wrong.
What should I do? should I try to improve my relationship with him? should we try making him happy? should I tell him off for being abusive?
Thanks.
he asked me to help him in case he went too far into it. and having strong feelings for him like i do i agreed to help him.
well, i found him snoozing in front of my door. i woke him up and he was completely out of it so i snuck him upstairs, showered him and let him sleep in my room.
the thing is though, is that i’ve done this before. when my dad died my mom became a heroine addict. I alone stood by her and got her out of it, whilst taking care of my 2 younger brothers. But this time it feels different. Like it’s going to be harder than last time.
I don’t want to break up with him. I care for him too much. he’s the only person who knows about me being gay and well being a closeted gay star athlete in high school is no easy task he helped me through everything when i was really considering killing myself. so i feel like i owe him…
what should i do? how can i help?
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but you don’t understand… we’ve been dating for 2 years. he started getting into it about 4-5 months ago. It wasn’t just him helping me come out that made me fall for him it was just him… the way he made me feel. without sounding corny, i’m not sure if this is love but if i were to take a guess i’d say it is. so i can’t just leave him… i need to do something even if it is holding an intervention or something…idk
I have a friend who is about 5 months pregnant. And she is worried about her baby. Her boyfriend (baby’s father) is a druggie. He sniffs cocaine 3 or 4 times a week minimum. She told me that she heard from a doctor that if her boyfriend sniffs cocaine then makes love to her that it will affect the baby. Now I was wondering is this true or not? I hope it’s not true. What do you think?
I agree that he should stop, but it seems he wants to stay a washout for the rest of his life…
He has been using cocaine ever since they met, so there was cocaine present when the baby was made. So do you think the baby will definatly be affected?
ok… so I have a long distance boyfriend and he’s in college. At wvu(which is a HUGE party school) and every time I call him he’s drinking, or wasted. But when we’re together he doesn’t drink at all. Recently, he got in trouble by his super strict parents for skipping classes to drink with his roommates. Im super worried because my dad is was an alcoholic, and I don’t want to make or future kids deal with it. But I love him so much. Is he an alcoholic?
Last week i asked a question about mysterious goings-on in our garage. my dad would go out there, being secretive, etc. well, i had a look just now. on top of a flat surface, there were little round pods and bits of stalk, green. also, these were in a small net strainer in a nearby microwave. then there was a bunch of it, dried out, rolled up in brown paper and smoked. Hm…previously it was suggested it was meth, but i doubt it. what is it?
My BF of 2 yrs has a AA and BA degree in Criminal Justice, he graduated over a year ago. He hasn’t looked for a job since he graduated, and has college loans piling up with interest. I realize times are tough right now but he wont even LOOK to see whats out there. He lives at home with his Dad still, and works part time in kitchen at minimum wage… I have sent him links to job openings, police recruiting, etc. and he just blows them off.
My biggest problem is that I have worked hard to establish my career (I’m 26, so is he) and am doing very well for myself. I volunteered and interned with no pay, knowing later on it would pay off on my resume. He won’t do the same… I feel like we aren’t on the same level as far as our careers and our futures go. He is a sweet guy, treats me very well but this job thing is killing me!! How can I motivate him to look for a job?
I can’t see myself ever marrying him or having children with him if I don’t feel like he will be able to contribute properly. Am I wasting my time with this guy? I want to be proud to call him my man but right now I’m just not…
I’ve dealt with this since I was thirteen… I’m now eighteen and he’s 24…
And he’s on probabtion and has a ankle bracelet…
He’s drunk right now… And he drinks sometimes while having the ankle bracelet on and he’s not supposed to drink or be around anyone who’s drinking or has beer around..
I just don’t know what to do… My mom and step dad said they are kicking him out tommorrow…
I just wish he’d get help.
This hurts me so much..
My boyfriend went home (1 block away) today and I was helping him fix lunch for work tonite. He stays at my house because he dont feel comfortable at his own home because his adult kid is livng there with his girlfriend. His 28 yr old mooching son was washing dishes and said “this isnt my home”. I expected my boyfriend to say “well its always your home” or “sure it is”, but he didnt. He did not even comment. I suspect he is getting sick of his kids moving in and living at home. I try to stay mute, amd sometimes I think these kids need a big dose of Dr. Phil.
Do you think maybe ole dad has gotten his fill of them?
This kid has been in trouble for DUI, theft, Arson and some other things. Its a bad situation. How would you handle it?
My Dad is an alcoholic!
How would I do a DNA test to see if I inherit his genes for alcoholism!
I’m Serious!
Please help me!
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First, I know that maybe just asking that question is a red flag, but a couple of my friends say they think I am what’s called a “fuctioning alcoholic”, but then most of my friends dont think I am at all so I’d like some outside advice. I am 29 years old and I drink almost every day. Maybe 5 days out of the week. I dont ever miss work and I dont drink until I black out. Occassionally, I do have a few too many, and I pay for it the next day. I dont drink the next day of course, and I never have a drink in the morning or anything like that. I work at home, so I do sometimes have a drink or two before 5pm. Normally I dont drink unless I have something to eat first. I dont drink to get drunk and I never drink when I am feeling sad or angry or in any case where I think I might go nuts and I dont do shots. I have never had a DUI. I drink because I enjoy it. I like the way it tastes. I wont drink anything gross or when I cant afford it. My father is an alcoholic, so I know I am at risk…
What kind of father tells their kid too not move closer to his dying mother? That’s what my dad did. He told me that I didn’t need to be closer, that I was already close enough. I was about 1 hour away, because I had no car. Anyways… My father drinks a lot and does cocaine on the weekends + smoke weed everyday all day. When I say drinks I mean he drinks ( Rum+coke) from 2 pm until 11 or 12am everyday. He does work. He never did anything for me when I was growing up, and for sometime he was MIA. Bad drug problems.
I felt like moving was the right thing too do. My mom needed me around, and I am glad I was with her for the last couple of months. I called an left a message telling my ” father” that mom died, but I got no call back.
Can a 16 year old girl get emancipated in Morgan County, Tennessee? I’m Tiffany and I want to get emancipated next month. I have all A’s at school and I have somewhere to live and collecting a few applications so I can get a job right away after I turn 16. I can’t take my family anymore. They pass me back and forth from my dad’s house to my grandparent’s house. I’m the only one that they force to do anything and there’s 4 other kids living in the house even my own grandmother don’t do anything. The kids don’t have any discipline. My uncle that’s living with us right now is a druggie and so is my dad. They have done meth, crack, cocaine, pills, and marijuana even my uncle shot up before. And I found a crack pipe at my uncle’s trailer when I was looking for cookies. I’m not allowed to go to anyone’s house and they try punishing me for the stupidest things such as my sexuality. They would rather see me become just like their two druggie sons than be a bisexual. They blame me and yells at me for the other kids’ mistakes. I’m going to be 16 next month and I don’t even have ANY privacy at all. Everyday I clean something either the living room, the kitchen, and the dining room and the next hour it’ll be dirty, muddy, greasy again. My dad’s house, my uncle’s house, and my grandparents house are so filthy, it’ll disguist anyone that sees it. I’m going to be a Junior this coming school year and I can’t even go to the bathroom or go outside the house without any kids’ asking me where I’m going and what I’m doing and then they follow me and if I wanna be alone and told the kids’ that they can’t come I get yelled at for it and sometimes gets punished for it. I’m so unhappy with my life and my living situation and my family that I got put on Zoloft 50mg (depression pills) when I was 14 years old and I’m still on them and they recently put me on Celexa 20mg (nerve pills) just last month or so.
I’m 20, my bf is 22..been together 5 years. His mom had him at 20 and basically expected him to follow in her footsteps (his dad took off when she was pregnant, she was a single parent until she got married 2 years later and had 2 more sons..still married) Every now and then she says stuff like she will never have grandkids and how she was 20 and had him so “feel sorry for me”..etc.. She is his eldest too..I am currently in school, close to my AA and transfering to state college, have a pretty good job, pay my bills, and still live at home. My bf works full time, pays all his bills, and still lives at home. We both have made it clear we are not ready for kids and we want to be married first..His mom struggled having him so young and I hate how she wants him to go through the same thing and always brings it up. His mom has bounced from job to job, rented houses their whole lives, and has not provided stability. I want to make sure my kids have stability and I am fully ready.
My question is, how do I ignore her remarks and reply back to her suggestions that we should have kids? We are young, want to travel and have fun, and move out of our homes before we get married, let alone have kids. I get along with his mom but this drives me crazy…she grew up thinking marriage was unnecessary unless you really wanted to and kids were okay to have first ..esp if you are a teenager or very young adult so you can be young enough to watch them grow up. But looking at their family (her family) they are all very disfunctional and its a pretty sad situation..I’m not there to judge but I don’t want their morals and way of living to be apart of my own life.
I like to get super drunk or wasted about once every 2-3 weeks lately. usually it’s once or twice a month. i buy, rum, tequila, vodka or just beer at $60 a trip about once a month to drink by myself when i have the house to myself 50% of the time (i don’t drink it all in one night, maybe 2 or 3) and go to bars/clubs/house parties with friends/cousins 50% of the other time. i am very much of a social drinker, but like to drink by myself sometimes when i am not going out, which concerns me a little bit. is this bad? i am a 20 year old male (legal drinking age in Canada is 18 by the way), so this must be normal… right? i do not crave it every day, just maybe once a week when i want to party and have fun. will i become an alcoholic because my dad was but he has been sober for seven years now. this may sound stupid, but can someone answer this for me? i only drink by myself when my dad is gone from the house which is once every two months, and i 50% of the time have people over.
I have a friend who has a very nasty financial situation right now and needs a job. Her dad is out of work because of a DUI and her mom has a low-income job. She is 17 and wants to help support the family and herself or else they could lose their home. 
I really want to help her find a job but so many places only hire 18+.
I am asking for help to compile a list of places that hire minors. Obviously, if it’s a place exclusive to your city or state, please don’t list it; list places that are everywhere like McDonalds, etc. We are from SE Michigan if that helps at all.
Will pick best answer. Please help. Thanks in advance.
For my anthopology class I have to do a report on a culture (baristas at starbucks, an AA group, people that belong to a church etc.)
Would it be strange or possible to do my report on males? (I’m obviously female)
I know at least some men gather (religiously or whenever) at a bar or where ever ..
its not like I’ll go into a bar and randomly walk up to a group of guys .. I could talk to maybe my dad, some of my male professors and some guy friends ..
I’ve pretty much ran out of ideas on who else to interview. I’d call, they would say that they would get back to me the the head person came in, they do call back, but they still have to ask more people. I call someone else and the same thing happens …
Hi,
I’m 20 and I’ve thought for several years that my mother is an alcoholic. I know she drinks too much, but I’m not sure if she should be classified as an alcoholic…
-My mother never used to drink. When she went back to work (when I was about 15), she began drinking in the evenings. She drank almost every night with my father. They probably went through about a bottle and a half per night. She would become quite childish, animated, and would often pick fights with me (sometimes also with my father).
-While drinking, she said odd things to me that were somewhat abusive in nature. When I would refuse to talk to her the next day, she was genuinely puzzled, and when confronted with what she said, she would forget (This happened maybe three or four times, though–not a lot).
-I told my father that she should cut down, but he though he admitted she drank a bit too much, he didn’t do anything about it. They both thought, I think, that I was inventing my mom’s problem with alcoholism to create drama.
-The last time I was around my mother, I noticed she was drinking about a bottle of wine a night. Even just a few glasses of wine make her completely inebriated. It got to the point that now I don’t take calls from her after 7 because she’ll be out of it.
Maybe I’m blowing this out of proportion and she just has a problem with alcohol? Thoughts?
Thanks for reading this far!
