Archive for February, 2011

I’m 33, have a full time job and 2 kids to raise. I live in Seattle, Washington.

In dealing with multiple court issues involving my deadbeat dad ex-husband over the past 5 years, I have had to represent myself in all cases – from child support, custody modifications, restraining orders, contempt of court actions – you name it. I am dismayed at how little help there is out there for low income single mothers. Even child support services are of no help whatsoever. Because no one was able to help me and I couldn’t afford the attorneys that could, I have read and accomplished everything on my own. In doing so, I have developed a passion for family law. I want to use my mind, heart, and talent to help other single moms in my position that cannot afford an attorney – money is not my driving force because I am just as passionate about resolving their custody and child support issues as they are.

I have minimal college experience and do not have my AA. Time and money are both obstacles for me; however, I am competent, driven, and know I can be successful should I take on the endeavor of law school. What do I need to do to become a family law attorney?

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How well written is my poem?

I now I’m not the best writer but yesterday I wrote one.It took me 10 mins to write and its about my dad.The title is dad and this poem summarizes how i feel about him.
Here it goes….

DAD
_____

Dad you are a loser and a failure as a parent
I’m going to be everything you weren’t
I’m going to be the complete opposite of you
Let that sting in your mind the feelings which are mine
Without you I’m perfectly fine

In your cloud of alcoholism I will leave
This you better believe!
That is my way of relief
Right now I’m mad I got to live with you dad
The good father I thought you was I actually never had

You created the war of struggle in my life
It all started when you cheated on your wife
This guy I never want to be
My dad;the loser,indeed!

To make a long story short it all started when I was 15.My dad cheated on my mom and my grades in school slipped.He was careless and now he is just a loser and I got to live with him.Thats another long story.Anyways,now he is a alcoholic and he affects my life in every aspect in a bad way.Heck right now I gotta live with no power!I only get power 3-4 hours a day from generator.This is one of the effects from the cause that he is a alcoholic.There is much more to it that contributes to my struggle.

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received tons of aid and loans? Is it becaues he checked the block that took advantage of his absent, alcoholic, philandering father’s skin color?

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Does this mean he’s like on drugs or can you use a syringe and a spoon for medical reasons. He doesn’t have any health problems. He has been a heroin and cocaine addict for years, stopped but sometimes messes up once in a while. I went downstairs and found him cleaning the gerage which isn’t like him at all. He never cleans or works around the house. Oh and I’m 16 and I’m the only one home, so is my dad using again? Thanksss

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when Christan was doing the surgery on the son (to look like his ‘father’) what song was playing?.. only lyrics I remember was something about cocaine.

Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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my dad is an alcoholic and for the past year and a half has been using crack cocaine. he’s been an alcoholic/drug abuser his whole life. mostly just alcohol and cocaine but the crack is turning him into a monster. we dont know what to do. my family is ready to lose their house. they havent made a payment in over 5 months. my mom is ready to file for bankruptcy cuz she doesnt know what else to do. he wont go into rehab by himself. he says he wants to get clean but makes no effort. he’s not himself anymore. he’s mean, crabby all the time… we’re waiting to come home one day to find all our stuff missing cuz he either sold it or the drug dealers came and took it. lately he’s been talking about suicide. we’ve heard him talk before but its different now. he says we’re gonna come home and find him. its creepy.
we need a way to force him into rehab. a friend gave me the idea to call the hospital and tell him he’s suicidal. he said to tell them to check his system for drugs and then they’ll find the crack and force him into rehab. but is that how it really works? cant they just evaluate him and send to jail? we dont want him in jail. it wont help him. we want him clean. not necessarily punished. i need help. i cant take much more of this abuse..

if it helps we live in nw indiana… we want to call the st margarets in dyer. they have a psych ward

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Legal trouble help teen?

Help me please serious question?
I recently got into a lot of trouble a month ago and wanted to know how you would have delt with me getting into trouble. I got my belly button pierced and my dad will be pissed, he didn’t want me to get one, my dad is a state trooper.

I am seventeen years old and I’m already in MAJOR trouble with him, I got into some trouble and got a DUI and was arrested. My dad and his girlfriend (whom I live with) grounded me for two months, and that includes no car, cell phone or computer, My dad is SO pissed and started screaming at me which I totally didn’t deserve and then against my better judgment I started screaming back at him. Please help me.

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well i have a twin brother as well we are both 20 now still living at home and have been searching like crazy for work, or what we want to make a career in so we can start school (college). my brother and i are up in the morning’s and out looking for a job. when we are asked to do something around the house such as yard work, cleaning, or just general labor we are sure that the job is done. our dad is an alcoholic and can consume as much as a 24 case to himself in just a couple of hours. when he drinks he is a completely different person then the dad i know. (Example) tonight was one of the worse nights we have had in the past couple of weeks, we had both been up early in the morning helping some friends move and we didn’t get done until around 4:30 in the afternoon, from there we went home and layed a small dump truck load of mulch and replanted some tree’s and flowers in the gardens we finished around 7:00 we were tired so we went upstairs and fell to sleep we don’t go to bed early often but we did today. we try to stay busy and out of the way so that are not just laying around all day doing nothing. we woke up at 10:30pm and were all out of cigarettes so we decided maybe we should run up to the store and get some. we walked downstairs outside and my dad was down the hill sitting in the hot tub. we decided to walk down the hill to say hello to him before we left to get our smokes (BIG MISTAKE!) as we approached him more we noticed all the beer cans sitting around him we knew he wasn’t drunk because the man never gets drunk he just gets angry, really angry. we both proceeded in saying our hello and that we were going to make a quick run to the store. he didn’t answer but he kind of growled at us i tugged my brothers shoulder and said “come on lets just get the hell out of here” as we turned our backs to him he jumped out of the hot tub and grabbed us both he turned us around and started to spit in our faces he was yelling at the top of his lungs that we were nothing to him except useless pieces of shit! he was screaming in our face to get a job! get a job! (well we live in Michigan and there isn’t jobs flying off the hook here) i tried to talk with him and ask him why he is doing what he was doing he said he was doing it because he can it was his house and he can scream at 10:30 at night and wake the neighbors if he wants too. he then asked me if i liked him screaming in my face i muffled “no sir i don’t” then he threw back his fist and tried to hit me but i was able to move “thank god” my brother and i are helpless when it comes to his anger he could kill us with one punch. when we tied to get away from him he yelled “if you leave now don’t ever come back” so we can’t leave because we won’t have a place to live. we hardly have an money or we’d move, we are in desperate search for a job so that we can get out of here his anger sperts are getting worse and worse he blames us for the reasons he fights and argues with my mom. when we are hardly ever home to have anything remotely close to being a cause to his reasons to fight with my mother, he has hit us before but the verbal abuse is becoming to much to take please what should we do? how the hell can i get away from this man? keep in mind I’m 20 years old i can’t scream child abuse i’m a little old for that. i can’t go stay at a relatives house because they all live in Canada and i have no way of getting to them. i know this is long to have read but this is all i can do to get it out there that the man that sleeps through the walls from us is a monster. please how do we get away from this crazy man? i have thought about calling the police before but I’m afraid it will only make things worse.

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I’m 33, have a full time job and 2 kids to raise. I live in Seattle, Washington.

In dealing with multiple court issues involving my deadbeat dad ex-husband over the past 5 years, I have had to represent myself in all cases – from child support, custody modifications, restraining orders, contempt of court actions – you name it. I am dismayed at how little help there is out there for low income single mothers. Even child support services are of no help whatsoever. Because no one was able to help me and I couldn’t afford the attorneys that could, I have read and accomplished everything on my own. In doing so, I have developed a passion for family law. I want to use my mind, heart, and talent to help other single moms in my position that cannot afford an attorney – money is not my driving force because I am just as passionate about resolving their custody and child support issues as they are.

I have minimal college experience and do not have my AA. Time and money are both obstacles for me; however, I am competent, driven, and know I can be successful should I take on the endeavor of law school. What do I need to do to become a family law attorney?

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My teacher gave us break homework. A writing assignment to be more specific. There was a list of topics and I chose to do one about my hero. I just wanted to know if this was good enough, cuhs i’m such a bad writer =/
Thank you lots!

My hero is my dad. He passed away 2 years ago and yet it still feels just like yesterday he was here. He died of cirrhosis of the liver. He was an avid drinker. When I would picture my dad I always saw him with a beer can in one hand. I grew up with his alcoholism. It finally got the best of him. It was hard watching him slowly fading away. He’d been to the hospital before but always came out. Until this day I had always thought of this as a dream. A dream, I’d soon wake up from. His passing at such a young age made me want to live my life. Make friends with whom ever I could or mend friendships that had torn apart. My dad was the type of man who got along with anyone. He wasn’t shy, but he wasn’t cocky. He knew how to get a crowd to laugh. Everyone says I look like him and that I’ve got his personality. When I think about it sometimes, I believe I do. I’m always doing my best to make others laugh or happy. I hate being in some kind of fight. I’m always just aiming for happiness. My dad’s my faith and my hope at the beginning and end of everyday. He didn’t get to do so many things he wanted to. His life had still so much more to offer. So, I’ve decided to move forward. I’m living my life to its fullest the way my dad probably wanted to. I’m setting goals and accomplishing them. It’s thanks to my dad that I realized why my life is worth living and I can’t wait till I see him one day and be able to tell him all about it.

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He’s not quite finished, but these are some of the basic details:

Character Four – Franz Carter
Main relation to story: protagonist’s neighbour, good friend
PART I. PHYSICAL
Full name – Franz Lucas Carter
Date of Birth/Age – 81
Address – neighbour to Madelyn
Race/Ethnic Background/Nationality – German (mother) and English (father)
Height – average
Weight/Body Build – average, with a little bit of a tummy, still looks strong in his age, wide, strong shoulders
Hair – white with small amounts of silver still remaining
Eyes – bright twinkly blue, round and expressive
Peculiar Physical Traits – rosy cheeks, deep laugh lines, eyebrows always raised up with interest,
Glasses/Contacts – reading glasses, old school large frames, keeps in shirt pocket,
Smokes – trying to quit, uses patches
Distinguishing Marks – bushy eyebrows, burn marks on arms and hands,
Health – arthritis in hands, tries to be active and walks a lot,
Smell – musky cologne
Voice – tosses head back and touches stomach to accompany hearty laugh, throaty voice, tends lean forward and speak quietly, esp. for important conversation,
Usual Walking Style – average pace, tends to get distracted when he’s around the neighbourhood
Mannerisms, Nervous Habits, eating habits – nods and uses hands to speak, repeats himself, points at people when he talks to them, punches air to get his point across, eats large portions, loves barbecuing ,
What type of clothes/shoes/accessories does he/she wear? – loafers even in house, tucked in striped button down t-shirts, wristwatch at all times,

PART II. GENERAL
Occupation/Social Class – middle class, retired independent business owner (carpentry)
Views on Money/Spending Habits – frugal, spends money only on ‘good food’
Education/Intelligence – didn’t complete high school, no college, self made man
Marital Status – recently separated, wife left him for a richer, “man about town”, misses her terribly and wants to get her back
Birth Order – third of four boys and 2 girls
Political Party/Views –
Religious Beliefs/Strength of Beliefs – once catholic, since son’s passing, now atheist until his faith in God is renewed
Sexual Orientation/Values – straight, strong family values, doesn’t believe in superficiality,
What is his/her usual disposition? –
Optimist/Pessimist? – depends
Introvert/Extrovert? – friendly introvert
Confident/Self-conscious? –
How does he/she feel about his/her appearance? – appearance has no value to him,
Type of car – grey, rusted car, old but reliable, velvety burgundy seats repaired in a haphazard manner,
Most important possession – his wedding ring
Hobbies/Recreations/Sports – likes to feed birds, learning French to impress his wife (to be more ‘sophisticated’ and ‘worldly’), enjoys karaoke at the local pub,
Talents – used to be carpentry
What is a normal day like for this character? –
Greatest Fear – never getting his wife back, losing everything
Major Goals –

PART III. RELATIONSHIPS
Significant Other/Relationship – separated wife, Ellen,
Who does he/she live with? – alone
Who does he/she spend the most time with? – Madelyn
Father/Relationship with him/Occupation – father was hard on him, he passed away, resentful
Mother/Relationship with her/Occupation – mother died in a childhood (fire ->burns, saved sisters, not mother)
Siblings/Relationships – eldest brother died as soldier, second oldest brother died from alcoholism, other brother and one sister died of old age, youngest sister alive and living in France,
Children/Ages – One son, Eric, died on duty as a police officer (age 38), driving him to alcoholism, estranged daughter Sophia (now 55)
Best Friend – Ted, bartender from the karaoke pub
Other Important Friends – Madelyn
Feelings toward animals – likes any animal that doesn’t destroy furniture
How does he/she view his family? – misses them terribly and regrets many of his decisions
How does he/she view his friends? -
How does he/she view his boss/co-workers/employees? -
How does his family view him? – frustrated and resentful towards him,
How do his friends view him? – kindest, most gentle soul ever, hard to see him as being angry or violent like in his past
How do his boss/co-workers/employees view him? -
Who is his hero? – his oldest brother
Other comments: had the same ficus plant for ten years, takes good care of it -> represents his ten years of sobriety, recovering alcoholic (after son’s passing), hard worker, compassionate, regretful, *almost relapses

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Alright, when ever my father leaves to go on a buisness trip, or anything, my mother drinks alchohol. sometimes she hits us but normally she just says how she hates us. im so sick of it! and after she drinks she says “i wont anymore” and then she does it again. who else has these problems? i really want someone to talk to.

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WHAT About my dad?

My dad plays this online game 24/7. He never gets off. He is soo addicted. everytime i tell him to get off or nicly ask, he yells at me. He says he is going to play and a limit and quit. and its been 2 weeks and he still hasen’t. also i play it to. What can i do????

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He admitted to doing cocaine. He admitted to desecrating the ashes of his father. I think that if you confess to a crime that you have committed, do not pass go, go directly to jail. To those of you who don’t know the story; he mixed his father’s ashes with cocaine and snorted them for a high.

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my dad is an alcoholic, hes lived in the woods at a young age to hide from police, steals all the time, gambles, set fire to a shop, been in a fight, cheated and raped my mum, sexually abused me, im not sure if he did anythign to my sister, he doesnt live with us anymore but the only person he sees now is my brother, he sees him once a week and they go to the woods? i dont get why youd go to the woods when you see your son once a week? :S he messes with his head like says if you dont wank you’ll turn gay etc, whats his plan?

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COULD I GET EMANCiPATED?

My friends Mom is going to call CPS soon.
Because my “dad” is a meth head and there was alot of mental and physical abuse going on. I’m pretty sure he will go to jail ecspecially if they find his stash and so will my Mom because she witnessed all of this and did nothing so she is just as guilty.
I am 15 going to be 16 in a few months.
I’m getting a job right now.
So is my twin sister. we would live together.
We also go to Independent Study so we can graduate early.
Do you think we could get emancipated?

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My ex had visitation this weekend with our 2 kids after 70some days without seeing them (he was in jail for his 3rd dui). Without telling them, he “drove” them to a new 2-bedroom house in which he had moved in his girlfriend and her son. The loving couple shares one room and her son (who lives 1/2 time with his own dad) resides in the other. The only evidence that my kids belong there is a toothbrush resting in the bathroom. He has no clothes for them, no toys, nothing, yet this boy they don’t know has a home with their dad. I feel he is always doing insensitive things that will leave them feeling hurt. The last time he saw them he dropped them off early to go gambling with his gf–no big deal except he didn’t know when he’d see them again, as he was going to jail. Prior to this, he moved over an hour away from them and rarely ever called. I’m a 110% mom who fails to understand any of this and who feels completely powerless in protecting our kids from his hurtful gestures.

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why? My dad is an alcoholic. He got his license taken away for life, my mom divorced him, he spent all his money on strip clubs and beer, he lost his house, his car, everything. He is in a homeless shelter now. And he used to be a great dad. I miss him so so so much. And I’d do anything to have him live here with me again, and to just punish me. He never got the chance to. Just some warnings here and there. But when he was here, I HATED him. And now, I’m 16 and miss him so much. He has torn our family apart. He missed his mom’s funeral because he was drunk during it, and I’m scared to death he’ll miss my wedding, or won’t be able to come because of the wine/champagne that I don’t even want to have in it. Alcohol has ruined my family. To all those girls out there who hate their dad, be lucky you have him, you have no idea. Anyone agree with me?
Despite all this, I still love him and miss him so much. I wish he was here when I come out of my room in the middle of the night, I can’t hear him snoring anymore, and I miss his smell so much. My boyfriend wears the same deodorant he did, and I hate it, I miss him so freakin much. And I’ve cried so many times. Just wanted to get my point across he’s not as bad as you think. He loves you. Mine loved me but verbally abused my mom like crazy. She didn’t deserve it, she tried to protect me and my sister. But he never did anything to me.
Thanks anyway, but yeah I’m far from a stripper. And never will be. I did this because I’m sick of everyone saying they hate their dad and wish he would die.
Um, I have a great boyfriend who’s there for me cuz no one else is. And yeah, older guys creep me out. I don’t look for comfort from them, all you people being stupid about it don’t bother answering, this is for those 12 and 13 year olds I see saying they hate their parents because theyre going through PMS and all that.
Miss Answers – Thanks, and the one above her too. My dad’s wake up call was when his mom died, he was drinking a bottle of vodka a day and then more on top of that, and got sent to jail from violation of probation. He’s in a Christian homeless shelter trying to get his life back on track but my mom doesn’t believe him, I’ve always had hope for him. He was amazing the first 8 years of my life though
Oh and I’ve turned to God, I’m a strong Christian now. I turn to God instead of old guys and stripping
julius c…it was before. im a long time christian and i made one mistake in my life. my miscarriage had nothing to do with this, me and my boyfriend love each other and we’re getting married in like a year and a half. our parents are fine with it, and we’ll be 18(ill be 17 in 2 months) so shut up and keep your comments like that to yourself

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