90% of people surveyed especially over the age of 35 said thier mother was the person who taught them there values, morals, showed them how to love, be compassionate etc.
Most said they had fathers that were pretty dis-connected from the family by being away for work, military service or just did not communicate well. Others said they had very abusive fathers, due to alcoholism or divorce which caused little contact with Dad.
That being said do you think Women would of been better in leading the flock so to speak..
It got great reviews but I was appalled. It broke all the humanity rules. First, when the daughter (Julia, i think her name was) finds out she has been kidnapped by her own father she throws in such a strop in spite the fact that her father went to jail and had to deal with life in prison. Then, her husband (an alcoholic) who took care of the case, needed a drink in the most roughest moment of the trial and because of drinking a bit of alcohol Julia decides to leave him for his best friend. The stupid husband of hers didn’t even mind that, he even said he wouldn’t have chosen anyone else better than his best friend to take care of Julia. But Julia slept with her husband’s best friend BEFORE she found out her husband was on the booze again – if you can call that alcoholism. So all the people in Julia’s life had rough times BECAUSE of Julia and all she does throughout the novel is to nag-nag-nag. The most disappointing book I have ever read. It really made me sick.Anyone?
They’ve had a lot of bad things happen to them and they say they feel empty inside and like they’re just going through the motions of life. They’ve had the following happen: rape, violent mentally ill brother, alopecia, severe acne, huge debt because of school, mother’s an alcoholic, father left before they were born. You know your younger cousin and think they’re social skills could use improving (i.e. they’re really quiet and VERY reserved). It’s sometimes hard to have a conversation with them. They don’t have any real friends; the lack of social skills could be it. They also smell sometimes.
to go with my dad,he moved in with his family,the law isnt involed any,i’m 16 if i decide to go to my dads can my mom do anything about it?
my mom is a drug addict. and my dad does nothing
So i could leave right now and go with my dad??
cause i want to get out of here really bad,i dont like the people that come around here.there freaky
and its hard to freak me out i’m gothic.so yeah there just messed up in the head for real
What I mean is, I drank for a looong time and knew I had a big time problem. Everyone knew that. Now that I’ve gotton intensive treatment and regularly attend meetings for help, I think I’m doing great. I have a new lease on life, enjoy new, sober friends and am back enjoying my family, and they enjoy me. The only thing is, my mom keeps wondering, “Do you still have to go to meetings? Are you cured?” It would break my heart to tell her I will never be ‘cured’–it puts a negative spin on things. But I don’t want to be dishonest. What should I say when she brings it up? My dad won’t really say too much, but he’s glad. Seems worse of a stigma sometimes admitting it to them what I am then when I was falling down all the time embarassing them. sorry so long. Thanks!
Me and my dad never had a very good relationship, he wasn’t around a lot when I was younger and about a year and a half ago we had a pretty big blow out. I kind of keep in touch with other members of his side of the family but I haven’t talked to him in since the blow out. He is not in the best health and I recent found of threw a mutual acquaintance that he has gotten into heavily using meth. I honesty don’t think he is going to live more than maybe a few years. I am starting to wonder if maybe I should go see him while I still have a chance or if seeing him now in this state might be worse than remembering him the way I already do.
I speak from experience b/c my late father was an alcoholic.I spent years watching my mother pick himself off the ground (many times) him later going to AA meetings & staying sober for almost a year before falling of the wagon when my “gram” died. (Yes that was my nickname for grandma!) Last year he died from complications from hepatitis but I know it was induced by the booze. He would drink beer @ breakfast, lunch and dinner & would drive with an open container all the time.
I went to some AA meetings when I noticed I was drinking a 12 pack a day everyday after work & thought I might have a problem. I won’t say what I have substittuted in place of booze. I’ll just say it’s non-toxic.I know I am predispoed to having an addictive personality since my father was an alcoholic & my mother has a slight gambling problem that has left her bankrput.
I learned there is no such thing as “used to be an alcoholic” .It’s like addiction. Once an addict you’re still an addict. Even if you’ve gone to treatment & worked the 12 steps you’re still a “recovering” addict. Is it the same with alcohlism. Once you’re an alcoholic: you are always one & a sober alcoholic is still a recovering one. I know a lot about addiction since it runs on both sides of my family but I am looking for any outside input, feedback, or experiences IF you feel comfortable sharing them.
Was I wrong not to feel that much sadness when he passed? I knew it was coming it just happened so fast. He wasn’t much of a dad: he rarely paid child support & I won’t ramble on how he cheated on my mom & stayed out drinking sometimes all night. My 2 questions would be “Once an alcoholic always an alcoholic” correct & Am I a bad person for not feeling that sad when he passed? Someone needs to correct my former pastor & tell he’s STILL an alcoholic: but a recovering one. I apologize for being long-winded. It’s part of MY disorder.
I mean to say you’re still an alcoholic just a RECOVERING one. I’d appreciate answers from more mature people. I’m 26 not 16 & could use some feed back from some in or CLOSE to my age group/bracket!
What I mean is, I drank for a looong time and knew I had a big time problem. Everyone knew that. Now that I’ve gotton intensive treatment and regularly attend meetings for help, I think I’m doing great. I have a new lease on life, enjoy new, sober friends and am back enjoying my family, and they enjoy me. The only thing is, my mom keeps wondering, “Do you still have to go to meetings? Are you cured?” It would break my heart to tell her I will never be ‘cured’–it puts a negative spin on things. But I don’t want to be dishonest. What should I say when she brings it up? My dad won’t really say too much, but he’s glad. Seems worse of a stigma sometimes admitting it to them what I am then when I was falling down all the time embarassing them. sorry so long. Thanks!
I speak from experience b/c my late father was an alcoholic.I spent years watching my mother pick himself off the ground (many times) him later going to AA meetings & staying sober for almost a year before falling of the wagon when my “gram” died. (Yes that was my nickname for grandma!) Last year he died from complications from hepatitis but I know it was induced by the booze. He would drink beer @ breakfast, lunch and dinner & would drive with an open container all the time.
I went to some AA meetings when I noticed I was drinking a 12 pack a day everyday after work & thought I might have a problem. I won’t say what I have substittuted in place of booze. I’ll just say it’s non-toxic.I know I am predispoed to having an addictive personality since my father was an alcoholic & my mother has a slight gambling problem that has left her bankrput.
I learned there is no such thing as “used to be an alcoholic” .It’s like addiction. Once an addict you’re still an addict. Even if you’ve gone to treatment & worked the 12 steps you’re still a “recovering” addict. Is it the same with alcohlism. Once you’re an alcoholic: you are always one & a sober alcoholic is still a recovering one. I know a lot about addiction since it runs on both sides of my family but I am looking for any outside input, feedback, or experiences IF you feel comfortable sharing them.
Was I wrong not to feel that much sadness when he passed? I knew it was coming it just happened so fast. He wasn’t much of a dad: he rarely paid child support & I won’t ramble on how he cheated on my mom & stayed out drinking sometimes all night. My 2 questions would be “Once an alcoholic always an alcoholic” correct & Am I a bad person for not feeling that sad when he passed? Someone needs to correct my former pastor & tell he’s STILL an alcoholic: but a recovering one. I apologize for being long-winded. It’s part of MY disorder.
I mean to say you’re still an alcoholic just a RECOVERING one. I’d appreciate answers from more mature people. I’m 26 not 16 & could use some feed back from some in or CLOSE to my age group/bracket!
21? that’s ridiculous. So you can die for your country, but you can’t legally have a beer with your dad? You can own guns, but you can’t do shots with friends?
In France, there is no drinking age, and they have one of the lowest rates of alcoholism in the world, because they are so open about it.
The government makes it seem like the forbidden fruit. does it not?
I’m not implying that we should follow france on this one, but I just was giving an example
As a mere child, (of fourteen) my life is not that very hard. I understand my father has to deal with the stress of his job, but I was wondering as to how do I confront him of his alcoholism, for I am very concerned not only about his health, but how he affects us family members.
How do you deal with them or do you? I’m at my wits end of my alcoholic mother. I don’t live with her but she is constantly emailing me when she’s drunk and nagging at me and being mean and calling me names. Even my husband is fed up with her. She’s so mean when she’s drunk..but when she’s sober she’s a great mother. Why doesn’t she get help? She’s been drinking for years and I don’t know if I can handle her in my life anymore. It sucks because I love her. What can I do?
Is it true that the government didn’t toughen up on crack/powder cocaine until it started to spread into middle/upper class communities? If so, have their been any books or articles written on this? Here is a line from Eminem, “surely hip-hop was never a problem in Harlem, only in Boston,
After it bothered the fathers of daughters starting to blossom”. Just thought I should add that.
Hes been at the casino, hes gotten drunk and i said he was drunk so he threw plates against the wall and called me a fat t**t, my mum and dad are divorced, but my dads had 2 heart attacks in his life and i mostly spend time with him, but its only sometimes he gets like this, and before he went up to bed he said he hopes he doesnt wake up in the morning, i cant talk to him obviously because he can get a bit violent, but can some people give me some advice please, i am really upset and feel worthless
sorry, wrong section i am such an idiot
We haven’t heard anything else about her cooking up meth in her kitchen.. Do you think Palin gave her a 2nd chance..
Honey if the Obama had a daughter that banged a guy that was the neighborhood drug dealer, and got pregnant repubs would have a field day.
Short and simple, I am dating a guy who is nice. However, his family life is crazy. I know he can’t control that but it scares me to have to deal with them. His mom is an function drug addict. His dad is super sick. Alcoholism runs in his family. Even though I don’t see these characters in him, you never know if he will lapse into them.
I’ve never imagine being with someone who’s family is this polar opposite of what i am use to. I am not sure if I can handle that. He is a great guy but I worry that this is a flag but I don’t want to miss out on my soulmate.
