I’m 15 years old, and my parents divorced when i was 7. Ever since then, my dad has not exactly been the ‘best dad’ shall i say. He went to jail for DUI when i was 11-12. Ever since then, he has either had a suspended driver’s liscence, been on house arrest or some other form of being in trouble with the law.
I just called him to talk to him and he told me that he got in trouble AGAIN. He was in a fight, after he had a few beers, and then decided to drive home with a suspended liscence from a few years ago. The sheriff pulled him over and now my dad says he thinks he will be on house arrest again and figures that he will end up going to jail.
when he got done telling me this, im practically in tears. i have no idea what i have done to deserve this. i am a straight A student in school, am always kind to everyone (at least i try =] lol) and im an all around good kid.
he always says that he loves me, and will always be there for me…but obviously he cant (continued..)
(continued…) if he is in jail or other circumstances like that.
depressed. His depression has him drinking heavily everyday and night and my problem is that he keeps dragging my fiancee into the binge drinking and bar hopping. The are both former alcoholics and now that my my brother inlaw has lost his girlfriend he is actively trying to break us up too so that he won’t be alone and misrable. I am eight months pregnant and expecting my fiancee to be mature enought to see this but all he wants to do is drink now with his stupid brother who never called him or did anything for him until after his girlfriend left him and now he wants to come to our house everyday to disrespect me. Should i leave these two jackasses and let them drink theirselves to death or what? My fiancee’s mother confided in me today that he was physically abusive to his first wife so that just adds to the many reasons that I believe that trying to work things out wll be a waste of my time. My daughter deserves a better father I think. Or am i being selfish and unreasonable?
Please, help me.. I am 28 and I am sure am pregnant. There is should nothing bad about it BUT… The future baby’s father is a ex-heroin addict…Moreover, he used opiates while I got sex w/him. The things seems even worse, becouse I tryied some stuff that I really shouldn’t try… Sounds scary, but I have a baby (3 weeks, no more) and I have the both “parents” being under influence while “making baby”!!! So, please tell me if there is a really chance to my baby ‘ll born w/defects. I want to keep this baby, but I have to be sure, that she(or he) will be OK. Do you have any suggestions, how the opiates will attact the fetus? Please, be nice – I am not an addict, I’ll never do it again, but this unexpectible pregnancy made me cry for help…
Thanx for everybody. I am realy sorry about my behavior, but I am ready for abortion now, despite my desperate willigness to have a baby.. I don’t think any doctor can promise me a “healthy baby”, so the the doctor is not a solution. Thank you, anyway ….
Okay me and my ex boyfriend have a 1 year old daughter. We live 3 hours away from eachother. He stays in and out of jail for things like possession of drugs, stealing small things from walmart, etc. He’s only 19 and has been in jail once for 3mnths. and every other time he was bailed out and put on probation. His mom does EVERYTHING for him including getting out of trouble EVERYTIME he gets caught. I’m gonna put him on child support and he threatend to get visitation rights to see our daughter. Not that I don’t agree that he should see his daughter or anything but right now the road he’s going down with being on the streets all the time living the fast life smoking marijuana, and cocaine, and by the way has a court date coming up in August for possession of cocaine in his vehicle…I really don’t want my daughter around that. His mom on the other hand is pushing him to do it because she wants my daughter to be with her. I’m going to school right now (college) and I really dont want to deal with him or his mom at this time. They are DRAMA. I’m just trying to stay focused on getting my education so I can be a better mom for my child. Do you think the judge will understand? What kind of visitation right will my ex have?
i have a 4 yr old daughter and her biological father pays court ordered child support. he left when she was 2 months old me and my husband have been together since she was 6 months old. i want his parental rights terminated so my husband can adopt her. the details are paternity has already been established and her biological grandmother (his mom) contacted me 3 months ago wanting to see her. biological father did not pursue it. but both of them met her 3 months ago, biological father lives in NY has 2 DUI’s on record and doesn’t seem stable to be a good parent he pushed her away trying to pursue me. is there anyway to have his rights terminated so my husband can adopt? how do i go about this?
no emotional support for 4yrs
I’ve seen many great players like Derek Jeter,Mo Rivera, David Ortiz, A-Rod, Carl Crawford and a couple other stars play. But the best player I’ve seen play was Michael Jordan. My dad was playing in AA and his team was the Birmingham Barons, which is Jordan’s former team. I was like 2 years old so I of course I don’t remember it. All I know was that I was at the game with my mom, her friend and her daughter.
Yeah I know Jordan wasn’t a good baseball player. Just his name made him the best palyer I’ve seen.
Recently taken on an attitude with my friend. She’s been starting to get violent and has stopped doing what her mother has asked her to do. My friend, although she was abused as a child (mother hit her with sticks, smacked her in the face with a shovel) despite all this, she has never laid a hand on her kids.
She’s in the middle of a divorce that has been dragging on for nearly 3 years… (in October).
She (my friend) is at her wits end. She is working 2 jobs to try to make ends meet; she worked 3-4 jobs over the last couple years and went to school full time to earn her AA Degree…
All she is asking for is a little help around the house.
Short of throwing her out, she doesn’t know where to turn.
The girl’s father only wants to the two boys and is fighting her for them and doesn’t want the teenage girl…
Any thoughts? What should she do? (I have two kids no where near teen and am clueless on how to help her… I was no angel, but it never escalated like this for me.
My father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, uncle, aunt, sister and cousin are all alcoholics
My father recently went through rehab and got the help he needed. I saw how alchohol ruined my fathers life while he was abusing and how it even ruined mine. My worst fear is that i too will be an alcoholic. Chances are I will because many of my family members are. I have made a promise to myself that I will never drink, to prevent me from ruining my life and the lives around me. I am now in high school and feeling the pressure. I am no longer considered fun and people find me boring at parties… They all look like they are having fun, and I cant stand it. This bothers my friends and they dont enjoy my company when wanting to have fun. Im just worried im gonna snap and start drinking because of the peer pressure and to me that would be a huge deal. It is so important to me to stay away from the alchohol that toar appart my families life.
How can i keep away?
i know that my family history doesnt mean i will not neccessarily be an alchoholic my self. But to me, its too important to even risk. Whats the point of drinking alchohol anyways….its just so socially accepted.
It has NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING COOL, I DONT THINK DRINKING IS COOL…..im just worried im going to snap. I hate watching my friends make fools of themselves, acting like total bafoos all drunk…I dont want that. But its hard to feel accepted when people are telling you you are not fun anymore….i hate it. I WILL NEVER DRINK I HAVE OFFICIALLY REPROMISED MYSELF
It has NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING COOL, I DONT THINK DRINKING IS COOL…..im just worried im going to snap. I hate watching my friends make fools of themselves, acting like total bafoos all drunk…I dont want that. But its hard to feel accepted when people are telling you you are not fun anymore….i hate it. I WILL NEVER DRINK I HAVE OFFICIALLY REPROMISED MYSELF
I apologize in advance for how long this is, but I would really appreciate any help I can get.
I have a very odd situation with my dad. He drinks excessively, and since he lost his job in April, he has drank nearly all day every single day since it happened. He’s always drank though, so its no surprise.
Anyway he had some tests done on his liver at the doctor and he got the results back…but he refused to tell anyone in my family what the doctor said.
He’s a very strange person, and has become more so with the alcohol. As conceited as this sounds, my dad has always favored me over my mom and sister. One night he told me the results were not good, and that he was “probably going to die anyway”. He refused to give me any more answers no matter how much I asked, and no matter how many ways I ask. He’s been experiencing chronic pain in his legs to the point where he can’t walk. He said the pain is mainly in his calves. Is this alcohol related?
How can I get him help before it’s too late, and how can I figure out if there really is something wrong?
Sorry this was so long. But I appreciate all of you who read it.
My husband took the classes for domestic violence, went through probation and was released, then free to start all over again. He was drunk went after one child and I tried to protect my child. It was like prison after that awful nasty things he did to me and the kids. He threatened to kill me and I called the police. x-mas eve. The police came 2 hours later , felt sorry for him! Said let him sleep it off. We were really scared after they left. We left x-mas day, never returned. People say leave, protect your kids.. etc. I left with my kids and left everything that I owned. Nothing was joint. Almost 5 months cant get anything except working out visitation to the benefit of the father. The only one he can manipulate is 6. The older ones dont want to even talk to the father. Do you think its fair to throw the little one back into his hands without any protection? All the the websites and stuff out their for help for domestic abuse…is this common?
Zaza, Pea brains? Did you even read the post?
The man has 2 duis, 2 domestic violations, 1 line cutting, no drivers license, 2 teens who dont ever want nothing to do with him, a PPO on him and there is still a chance he might get visitation! The only bad thing he could come up with was saying I was gay. Which was a lie. It was a way to humiliate me more in front of kids and family etc.
I know this because I find porn constantly on the computer, he has membership to numerous “sex hook up” sites, and carries an family sized package of condoms. I personally have looked at porn once or twice, but am not too please with it, but I’m worried that the addiction is like acoholism- where it makes the offspring more likely of being a sexual addict.
Ok so when i was growing up my dad was a pretty good man. He was a truck driver he had a decent job made a very decent living. after he left my mom for a much younger girl he quit his job and started his own business as a boat shop machanic. When things didnt work out with her i started noticing a change in my dad he started hanging around people i’ve never seen him hang around before. People who have been in trouble for drugs. My dads whole attitude about life in general is a total mess. He hasnt been much of a dad or grandparent to me or my son. My younger brother and him started having a relationship but come to find out my brother started using meth with him. i am very angry at my dad because i feel like he should grow up and be the adult. Last night i had a dream that my died had died and i was at his funeral and everyone was crying but me. I was mad at him. whats wrong with me? I feel like my dad died along time ago and i dont want to have these feelings for him
i lost my true love. he has a new girlfriend and i want to kill myself whenever i see them together. In an attempt to get over him i had a one night stand and caught chlamydia. i have just failed every higher that ive spent the last year studying for. my mum and dad split up and my dad was my hero and i discovered he cheated on my mum… a year later and my mum forgives him and i cant believe it, cant get over it and havent spoke to him since. i dont eat all week and then binge at the weekends… i walk down the middle of roads until i hear a car and then run to the pavement, knowing i could have been killed soothes me.. please help? i like inspirational quotes, so far thats the only thing thats got me through…
By the time I got there I felt like I was going to die.
“Yes Sir?” I managed to get out
“Do you want to graduate this year, Ms.Fawcett?” he asked
“Of course, why would you even ask that?”
“The recent test we took seems to have brought your grade to a D. The one on Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet. Did you even read it?” he asked
“Yes, I did read it.” I said knowing I didn’t but thought I’d sat it anyway.
I decided to try something I hadn’t done in a while. I tried to do it on my father but since the heroin has already damaged his mind beyond repair it wouldn’t work. I concentrated real hard, and found myself inside my teachers head. My telepathy allows me to do that if I focus real hard. I managed to convince him that I did read it, and that he graded it wrong. I know had a B in Reading. When I walked back to my desk I heard the thoughts of my fellow classmates.
“What a Freak. She looks too Goth and scary.”
“She’s hot but her style is not.” I was surprised when I heard this come from Anton Greene the Quarterback for Mashpee’s football team.
“God she wears too much makeup. Why can’t she be more like her name…Rose?”
Most people don’t like me one bit. I don’t care I’m my own person. Since I can hear whatever people are thinking I hear a lot of mean things about me. Most people believe I’m bulimic or have some other eating disorder. My father doesn’t have a job. The house belonged to my mother. She was a very gifted model, the payments were enough to cover the house and food while I was little. The bloke that now inhabited the place couldn’t even pay for a five dollar movie at Blockbuster. All his money goes towards anything that will get him high or drunk. Luckily my mother was smart and paid off the house before she died. I had to pay for all my food, makeup, and other things that entertain me. I came up with the money by working at the local library. The pay was good and our town was famous for our library. The Library itself was almost as big as the grocery store. Luckily when I’m reading I can focus my mind and not have to hear anyone else, which is why I like it so much.
