We are a very close family and this is tearing my family apart, more so my mothers marriage. I don’t know what options we have. My baby brother is 21 years old. He lives with my mom a few miles from me. He pays no rent, no utilities. He pays car insurance and his cell phone. He works full time. He goes to school at night.

He has had a drug problem for years. My mother constantly bails him out of a bind which is making my father extremely upset in lieu of recent discoveries that he is stealing from my parents. He stole their debit card from their wallet to withdraw money to pay his 3rd speeding ticket in the last 6 months. He claims he didn’t want to tell them and get in trouble although he fessed up to the previous two and they paid them for him. Today it was discovered that he has been stealing blank checks from them and cashing them all over town in various amounts totaling near $1000 to buy Oxycontin (his drug of choice).

My mother is beside herself. She has confided in me because my father is at a council meeting and doesn’t know what to do. My brother doesn’t know I know, either. They have told him to get treatment SOOO many times, offered to pay for everything. We have basically done everything you can think of.

With this new news of him stealing all this money while looking her in the face everyday I suggested the following.

1 – Kick him out or he and my dad will kill eachother and my mother will drive herself crazy because she can’t trust him.
2 – Change the locks.
3 – Call the cops and report him for theft/fraud. He needs a wake up call and while I don’t want to see my baby brother in jail, he needs to face the cold hard truth that what he is doing is illegal.

She doesn’t want to do this. She is flying to Mexico in 4 days and is worried about her son of course but she is in hysterics and not thinking straight right now. I told her she HAS to tell my dad. She debated telling him now, in Mexico, after Mexico. I told her if he finds out and then finds out she knew all along, she will be in as much trouble as my brother is. My dad is a very angry, bitter, grouchy old man. He is going to hit the roof. I told my mother to tell my brother not even to go tonight. There will be bloodshed. Last I knew he was coming here which I am not thrilled about but he is my baby brother and I cannot turn him on the street. But at the same time I am scrambling trying to hide my bank statements and checkbook because I can’t even trust this man. He is not my brother right now – I can’t even recognize the monster this drug has turned him into. But I cannot turn him away he is my best friend. I’m hoping if he shows he and I act like I know nothing, he will confide in me.

Please help me. Please help me help my mother save her son, save my brother, save her marriage and her sanity. Any advice would be appreciated just please keep it respectful I am in tears because I am so worried and stressed out and I really cannot deal with any attitude tonight, especially being that he could knock on my door at any minute.

Thanks in advance.

My father was tested in prison and said that his hiv results were positive and negative and that that’s all they told him.(besides that it was very likely caused by heroin needle sharing). Is this possible? If so what does it mean?
He has also been tested various times throughout his sporadic prison sentences for the past 20 years. I think he said something about getting his AIDS results next week. If this makes any sense at all, can someone give me an answer? Any answer is better than what i now know. He’s been in this prison sentence for 1 year and clean for the entire year. Does that make sense medically? If this is the truth, then should my mom get tested if she slept with him a year ago?
What are his chances of getting aids and how long will it take? In other words, how long is he expected to live given his 20 year drug addiction, realistaclly speaking.

If a parent(father not mother) has used hard drugs such as speed, cocaine, crystal meth and has abused alcohol and experimented with marijuana how would this affect the child biologically?

He hates my brother and me. I honestly cannot lie about it and I’m really scared of how he will react. I know he won’t hurt me, but I’m just tired of hearing him yell.

so my dad drinks like 3-4 cans of it a day.
and only eats junk food, meat, and processed frozen foods.
what are some of the health conditions that come with this food choice?

will his new diet of eating soup [with fritos] once a day for a month help?
[he'll still be drinking the diet dr pepper.]

Grrr, ohkay.
So im on a diet, and i was doing great this whole day until dinner time. In fact, I only had about 500 calories with breakfast and lunch combined. I had about 3 pieces of pizza for dinner, which my dad said is approximately 1600 calories. Does anybody know if that is about right? It was 2 pieces of pepperoni and one piece of cheese. Also, anyone have suggestions for how i can make up for all of that pizza?

I am a single mom of three and want to pursue a college degree, an AA then transfer into a 4 year university. I dont have family in the same city and the father is not in the picture along with no CS, anyways I just want to hear from single mothers who are in college and how do you make it work, Does financial aid really help much?

Hi my name is Amber and I am desperate for help for my 31 year old sister. She is in jail right now on very serious charges of child endangerment and possession of a controlled substance. She has two boys a 3 year old and a 2 year old. When her first son was 3 months old she found out she was pregnant again. Her body, hormones and emotional state of mind never recovered from her first pregnancy before she was pregnant again. She went into a serious case of postpartum depression. Work was out of the question for her because of these two young babies. She never got to enjoy her first son like what I feel she should of because of the youngest needing so much attention being a new born. She began to self medicate with xanax and it did seem to help at first but it soon became a very bad problem The father worked offshore and was gone all the time to support his family..Her and the kids and the father lived with us in Fl until about 6 months ago and we all knew how depressed she was so he moved them out to Ala in a beautiful home and tried to give them a better life. This really made it worst because now her and the kids are all alone out their and she no longer had her family and friends . She sunk more into her depression and into her medication. Things quickly took a turn for the worst. She got caught with some painkillers and got arrested for driving under the influence with her children in the car. She went to jail and we bailed her out and she was ordered to probation and something called drug court where she had to do a urine test once a week. We thought this would stop her and scare her straight… It did not… She went to a doctor who come to find out he is what you call a script doc who writes scripts for cash. She got prescription for loritabs and xanax. She let the drug court people know that she got her scripts and she thought she found a way to beat the system.. They also made her attend drug classes she only told them about her xanax and failed to mention her loitabs which is a pain killer because that what she got caught with so if they found out about them they would make her stop taking them. Needless to say they tested here there and she failed for the hydrocodien (loritabs) if the truth was known she was probably nodding out from her xanax and they tested her and of course she was dirty. So, now she violated her probation. She went to jail that day but was allowed to be signed out until her court date this coming Jan. Well, with all this trouble she has gotten in her head is really messed up and let me mention my sister has never been in trouble before this. Drugs have made her a totally different person. She was a straight A student growing up. A very reasonable person and a loving mother as time went on a the drug dependency got worst. I’m sad to say but the pills became number one for her. To get to my point . Last week she was arrested for leaving her 3 year old son in the car strapped into the seat belt in the car asleep in her drive way over night. The car door was left open and he was left in there for about 12 hours over night when a neighbor found him and called the police. They found her passed out on the hall way floor in her house closed to a overdosed and her 2 year old was on the couch a sleep. I believe she got the 2 year old out and was going back to get the 3 year old and passed out that’s why the door was left open. Words cant describe the anger we felt towards her for doing this. She could have killed him. We have left her in jail for what she has done to her kids. But she needs HELP desperately she is now possibly facing prison for what she has done but my sister never in her right mind do this to her kids. She loves those boys more then life its self and they love their mommy just the same . They were together 24-7 their whole life. This has ruined all of our lives. We have her children and they are fine. Lucky they are so young they dont understand what is happening and hopefully it wont scare them because I believe they wont remember this. I dont feel she needs prison but a rehab. At Least a year or longer. She is sick and anyone who knows about drug addiction knows it is a disease and a sickness. At that point she was incapable of taking care of them and passed out. She was probably close to dieing herself. I’m not sure but we have heard that she mixed methadone with her xanax that night. That is a deadly combination and she almost killed her children and herself. We need advice on what to do to help her get the help she needs. We wont get her out of jail because we know she has to pay for what she did to them babies but prison is not the answer. I feel that will only make it worst and not help the underlying problem of the depression that turned into a horrible drug addiction. This story has been all over the news radio and the papers here in Fl and Ala. You can go to Baldwin county in Alabama news website and see the whole story.

My child made a decision a few months ago, to quit his job, become stranger to me and his father but not letting us know where he was at for months. Many times not respoding to any of our phone calls or text messages. Then we get a text message askinf if we have an extra bedroom that he and his girlfriend can live in. ( he is 19 she is 21). He also went to tell us he has overdrawn his bank account, is deliquent on his credit cards and the both of the are addicted to meth and leaving on the street….. this pulled at our heart strings and we set them up in their own apt. this lasted a full 3 weeks, as they got thrown out do to loud fighting.. during this time he was very physical agressive to me ( his mother ) for no reason and has scared me to death. He them went to live at his Dads house, one week later he threatned some teen agers his own age, resistned arised, DUI and is not doing 9 months in county…. My husband and i struggle each and every day as to the what the right thing to do is upon is release. Also need to tell you we have news of his 21 year girlfriend being pregant. Her family has lived homless for more tha 30years… this is just the icing on the cake…any suggestions!

I guess I should’ve incl. more. Unfortunately we are still living w/him. I got laid-off & am interviewing & looking for jobs currently. I will get a job soon. He’s a grade-A loser, (yes, I know, I had a child w/him, but like many situations, this didn’t ‘rear it’s ugly head’ until the last 2 yrs. approx.). He’s mentally/emotionally abusive, has barely had anything to do w/our child since she’s been born, never been to ONE dr’s appt., hospital visit/(ear-infections, stomach-flu’s, etc.), he’s done hard drug’s I for sure since she was born, doesn’t admit to it, but I know for a fact he has, I’m sure a hair-test, if necessary would show a TON of thing’s, I dont’ drink, (haven’t in yrs.) and def. don’t do drugs. He’s currently on prob. for speeding w/mar. in his car. Has been pulled-over approx. 2 times on a susp. lic. 2 DUI’s in 1 wk. 3 yrs. ago too that he skpped bond on in another state, (his prob. is incl. that too w/the mar. charge). He’s threating this just to spite-me.
I wouldn’t know what to do if God-forbid he got anything over supervised visitation (which I do wan’t b/c my daughter needs contact w/him, of course she loves him and needs this), the “company” he keeps are all drug-addicted alcoholics, he spends 1-3 days a wk. a their “crash-pad” across town and thinks that’s acceptable as well. I am so saddened that my daughter’s Father has turned-out to be this type of person. Also, he doesn’t have any money for a Lawyer if he’s even that dumb to try.

The Taser C2 is a civilian model Taser.

I am 15 years old, and live in South Carolina. I will be driving alone within the next week, and really want something for personal protection — other than pepper spray.

The United States government does not classify the Taser as a firearm.

I searched for hours regarding the laws on Taser devices in South Carolina — and found no “age” restrictions. The only statement that is said is that it is a felony to take a Taser device from a Police Officer; it is the only thing it says.

It is definitely not entirely impossible for someone under 18 to possess one. In Florida, you can be 16 and possess one, but only under adult supervision.

I did ask my friend’s dad. He is a Police Lt. here in Rock Hill, SC (where I live), and he says no age restrictions.

Please don’t say that I shouldn’t want one, don’t need one, etc. I have already made up my mind — and you aren’t going to influence that. The only way I won’t get one is if it is illegal for me to possess one.

Thank you.

“A woman whose brother had cystic fibrosis marries a man who had a child with cystic fibrosis from a previous marriage.”

That is the information I got.

Cystic Fibrosis is autosomal recessive. I figured out that the wife’s mom and dad genotypes were Aa. And the brother’s genotype is aa, because he had cystic fibrosis. (Check me on this)

But isnt there not enough information? Couldnt the wife have an: AA or Aa genotype?

My 2 year old daughter is slowly being taken away from me and her brother because her father thinks it’s best for her to go to school where he lives 2 hours away and he has a lawyer who can make that happen. My daughter is not better off with her father or his side of the family. They are alcoholics and drug addicts that come out smelling clean as a rose just because they are great actors. How can I keep him from ruining our daughter’s life? He is a very selfish spitefull man who only thinks of himself and not what’s best for his little girl. The life I have made for my children is the best anyone could wish for. I have worked very hard to pull us out of the ghetto when their father left us, and was able to buy a beautiful house out in the country. Everything is clean and fresh, and the people are kind and giving here. He still lives in the ghetto and thinks it’s great. He drags her around from party to party and totally exhausts her. He’s not good for her. How do I get my kid back?

My mum has been struck with a lot of good and bad luck throughout her life, she lost her mum when she was in her early 20′s, and had to take care of her 2 brothers and father by herself. She lost her father 10 years ago and her 2 brothers within 6 months of each other 6 years to difference types of cancer. My parents divorce was finalised last summer although they have been separated for 2 years. I suffer from osteoporosis and my brother is dyslexic and my mother suffers from numerous illnesses form brain tumors, blood clots, TIA strokes, asthma, arthritis, shes on the verge of getting diagnosed with MS and she got diagnosed a week before xmas last year with breast cancer. I have tried to be her rock throughout this all. I give her money, pay for some bills, come home and work she doesnt have to, clean the house, just be with her, anything i can do to help her at all but this has taken a serious toll on my health (binge eating), grades (think im starting to fail) and also i have stopped myself from having relationships with guys because it means shes no longer no 1. I don’t know what else i can do to help her and myself, i can see her and me trying not to fall to pieces to be strong. But its getting harder and harder.

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

I am just a casual drinker. However, every time I go home late, even if I’ve only drunk a small amount of tequila, my dad would already recite what seem to be an endless litany of sermons. As I am browsing the net today, I just want to ponder on the things my dad always says. His words motivate me to post this question.

My 76 yr. old dadhas rectal cancer,diagnosed Aug/2006. Trouble is that we have been super close ever since I can remember, and I always considered him to be my true soul mate. I also have a 46 yr. old brother who is a recovering alcoholic. My father sends about $300/month down to my niece who lives in Uruguay; my bro has been unable to work for quite some time due to his depresssion and alcoholism. My father met my brother’s daughter just 1 yr. ago at 16.. She saw only the VERY BEST SIDEof my dad, SOON dad sent regular support for her education. My dad is TOTALLY ESTRANGED from my brother cuz of MANY YEARS AGO. My dad now refuses to have. anything to do w/ brother, but pays for his daughter to visit us in US.

The other night my dad got extremely angry with me in a public place when subject of my bro he brought up.Now he is saying horrible stuff to my son, saying that just cuz I let bro visit @ xmas, his support for his daughter may stop, etc, and I don’t even feel I can talk

ever since i was 3 my dad used to threaten to kill my mum and smash the house up and carry nifes around in drunken rage he gets drunk most weekends and ”buys himself vodka/beer” he says hes not alcoholic and he wont get violent but he finds anyway to start an arguement with my mum i dont know what to do and btw as i write this question a few moments ago they argued im 13 years old and i need help from jasmine
Thank-you everyone who has left a reply to my problem thank-you for taking the time to help me , all the comments has helped i have an understanding on what to do if it gets out of hand thank-you

My dad says hes a recovering alcoholic and that he hasnt had a drink since 1994, but i think he still may be drinking. occasionally i can smell what i think is alcohol on him, and a couple months ago i accidentally knocked over his briefcase and a bottle neck slid out one of the pockets and sure enough it was a smirnoff bottle in a brown bag. i also think he may be addicted to opiods because he got his knee replaced and was on percocet for about a month and he has gone to the dentists 3 times since then (4 months ago) and has been prescribed vicoden each time. im not really sure what to do or how to confront this issue. your help is appreciated